i'm soo mad..OH rant (long)

[faeriedusted]

So I'm technically not a teen, (I'm 24) but I sure feel like I am, still living at home, saving up for an apt with OH and dealing with our family problems- mainly, him and my older brother hate each other to the point where I'm afraid it'll get physical one of these days, and his psycho mother is always starting problems and telling me I'm selfish to have this baby and I should've gotten an abortion..she's nuts.

And now, NOW, his ex is causing problems! Ughhhh!!

He was with this girl on and off for about 7 years, and she is really really crazy...cheated on him with his friends, alienated him from his family, and finally got heavy into drugs which is when he finally left her, she ended up getting arrested and sent to state mandated rehab, where she's been for the last year (and I wish she'd stayed). She just got out last weekend.

6 months ago when she found out about us she flipped out and called him nonstop, saying things like I know you're just using her (for what! lol) and it's okay we'll be together when I get out I forgive you..she's really delusional. She got a weekend home and showed up at his house, I was mad enough that he walked around with her for an hour, but he said he just needed to get it through to her that we were really in love and she needed to back the eff off.

And then after we found out I was pregnant, she heard a rumor through the grapevine and called him hysterical crying, it should have been her baby, blah blah, gag me.. I was so angry with him for confirming it to her as I wasn't telling people yet and it was absolutely NONE of her business.

Now don't get me wrong, I totally trust my OH and I know he doesn't care about her anymore, I know he loves me 200%, but I just want this bitch to DISAPPEAR.

Nowww...he tells me yesterday that a friend of his who I don't like and don't trust, hung out with her the other night. Whatever, who cares? And then he wakes me up this morning FUMING that his friend had hooked up with her and he's so angry, he wants to hit him...

This made me feel like SH*T! Why does he care? This friend isn't a good friend anyway, has done messed up things in the past, WHO CARES? We're having a baby and getting married, why does he have any feelings about this immature loser girl? I feel terrible, I know this is all she wanted in the first place by doing it, to make him angry...

She calls his house constantly, has called me (and hung up!) a bunch of times, is constantly asking friends for information about me..I just want the bitch to go away, I don't need this!

I hung up on him after I flipped out at him telling me that stuff, and he hasn't called me. Am I wrong, does he have a right to be that angry? Wouldn't you feel horrible too?

 

[Sophiiie]

i'd be going crazy if my OH was acting like this with his ex.. he shouldn't have even gone to talk to her that first time, whether it was for her closure or not. she's obviously not over him & any contact with him is going to give her a bit of hope that he might still be into her and make things worse.

as for being angry that his friend hooked up with her.. I really don't get why he cares? I think he needs to remember where his priorities are.. and that's with you & your LO. the best thing to do is try and not get too stressed about it (I know it's far easier said than done) but getting yourself wound up won't be any good for you. just try sitting down and talking to him, it'll hopefully get through to him x

 

[baby.moo]

Id be pissed too. theres no reason he needs to talk to her at all. who cares if shes heartbroken and cant get it through her head that he dont want her anymore.. him talking to her just sends her messages that he secretly does want her because shes a looney and thats how her brain processes things. your OH should drop her all together.

 

[faeriedusted]

He did end up apologizing and explaining to me that he was really just mad that she keeps finding ways to try and infiltrate our lives and such...

But if she calls him one more time I'm gonna take matters into my own hands and give her a call myself. Enough is enough, it's gotta stop now.

 

[celestek89]

You've had a lot more patience then i would have! I would have been hurt more then angry though i think at the way your OH acted about her getting with someone else, it would have made me feel like shit! It shouldnt matter, and he shouldnt care what she does or who she's with! I think something needs to be said to the both of them tbh! I would sit him down and explain how its made you feel, and i would call the bitch up and give her a peice of my mind...but thats just me! =) hope this gets sorted for you babe xox

 

[pinkribbon]

I'd be livid, cause things like that tend to get under my skin really easily. Have you had a proper sit down talk with OH?

 

[faeriedusted]

You've had a lot more patience then i would have! I would have been hurt more then angry though i think at the way your OH acted about her getting with someone else, it would have made me feel like shit! It shouldnt matter, and he shouldnt care what she does or who she's with! I think something needs to be said to the both of them tbh! I would sit him down and explain how its made you feel, and i would call the bitch up and give her a peice of my mind...but thats just me! =) hope this gets sorted for you babe xox

I actually have NO patience, everything you said is how I felt and he felt like shit after he calmed down...and I DID end up callin the C and givin her hell, honestly after all the shit she's done and talked about me she had nothing to say..little girl (who's 28 btw) just tried to hang up and tell me I'm obsessed with HER! What a crazy bitch, I have never once asked anyone anything about her, tried to contact her.....I want nothing to do with her! I wish I was a fairy so I could *poof* make her disappear!!

 

[fiveoyea]

ok just my opinion but it's kinda like the bully situation...if she thinks she gets to you she will keep doing it...she is most likely trying to do this all on purpose to drive a stake between you and OH. Your OH was wrong to meet with her especially without discussing it you first...but if she keeps calling you then call the police. It's illegal in most places to continue to call someone repeatedly after being told not too. Hang in there. Do what's best for you LO...

sending you hugs.

 

[AngelzTears]

*Gets out the shotgun* She needs to disappear! lol. You have every right to be upset! Just make sure you let your OH know how you feel about this. See if you can get her number blocked on all your phones and FB or however it is that she has contact with you and your OH. You need a stress-free environment!

 

[his.baby.mama]

Ignore That Loser Girl. She's getting to you, that's what she wants.
Change your numbers if you have to. Just don't let her get to you,
even if she does don't let it show, she wants to know that she's topic of conversation &
your OH is at least talking about her, meaning thinking bout her, even if he hates her,
the psycho still likes the fact she's on his mind.
& Remember you have what she can't have your OH & his baby

 

[newmommy23]

you sure your OH has no feelings for her? Not what you want to hear I know but that sounds concerning to me....