I'm starting to feel like...

[Novbaby08]

...this is so unfair. As much as I love Harley, staying up all night with a colicky baby is lonely as hell. And her dad is doing nothing. That son of a bitch, I hate him! Because of him I spend every night lonely as hell, with a baby that cries all the time!!! She won't even sleep in her crib.

 

[brownhairedmom]

I hated my ex too for being able to go off and do whatever the hell he wants while I'm stuck in my parents house with a baby. I had to give up so much because of him.

BUT, after spending the last 8 months or so angry as freaking hell, I've realized that its easier to just let it go. The more time we spend dwelling on it and hating them is less time that we spend being happy. If we keep being angry, they still have control over us and affect our lives! Do we need that? Absolutely not. We are our own people and we have our beautiful little girls and that is all we need in this world to keep us happy. You may be dealing with the crying, but he's missing out on your daughter and that's going to rip him apart one of these days.

Plus, they're going to rot in their special little place in hell specifically made for people who abandon their kids where they have to listen to screaming babies for all of eternity. This is to make up for all the crying they didn't get to hear, you see. Its how I sleep at night

 

[Novbaby08]

I know, the loser isn't even on her birth certificate, and she has my last name, and he knows it. The look on his face when he found out was everything I had hoped for and more....it was magical
But at the same time I can't help but feel resentful, he looks at me like I have some contagious flesh eating virus or something. After all I went through and then at the hospital he gave some half assed apology, he sounded like he was apologizing for stepping on my toes or something.
Why are guys so freakin stupid!!!!!!!!!
Your right though, and that was my plan when I decided t leave him on the birth certificate and stuff, was that he would have no legal rights to her and someday realize what he's been missing and be torn up over it.
Sometimes its hard to think about the future effects especially when your baby has been crying, its stressful, and you know that shithead is sleeping peacefully at their house lol/

 

[March mummy]

Just remember who better off in the long run, you'll always have your beautiful little baby and that love that only you and her will have for each other, what will he have his quite little house with no noise and himself in every night. I think you a lot better off than he will ever be, he will miss every first in that childs life and when on his death bed (if not before) be thinking about that and he'' never be able to see them, whereas you'll remember those firsts and how special they were forever (unless you get alzeimers (sp) of course but you get what I mean).

You have a miracle with you he has nothing.

 

[Moulder86]

It is REALLY hard, as you said being the one who is up all night with babe when they're crying, they won't sleep and all they seem to do is cry. My lil man is being a bugger at the moment attention seeking and I can't seem to get anything done. I'm trying to get him to sleep in his cot at the moment too which is proving very difficult. As much as I hate his dad for leaving and not even trying to make our relationship work I wouldn't change how it is. Him not being at the hospital made my mum n I much closer, we're better off without him around and so are you.

As others have said we're the ones who will share that special love with our lil ones, the ones they want when they've hurt themselves or they're upset, we'll see the firsts. They have no idea what they are missing out on.

I know it's really hard but we're all here for you if you need to rant. In all honesty my lil man is driving me absolutely barmy at the moment and all I want to do is scream but I know it's not his fault and we'll get there in the end.



xxx

 

[xJG30]

Have you tried infacol for the colickyness?

 

[Lucy&Pard]

But you will get all the good bits too!! Like first steps etc.

 

[Lucy&Pard]

I have a colicky baby too even at nearly three months and I give Infacol before every feed without fail and gripe water if its still bad. I hope he gets better soon xxx