I'm still finding it really hard!!

[mama2connor]

It was a week ago yesterday since we found that our babies heartbeats had stopped, and it will be a week tomorrow since i gave birth to them. I'm still finding it hard to get through the days. I'm still absoloutley heartbroken. It's killing me knowing i've got to wait for them to get back from postmortem until we can burry them. We will then have to wait a further 6 weeks to get their postmortem results. I feel like i'm going craaazy. I just feel like a broken woman

Also, i have tested and still have the pregnancy hormone in me. Anyone know how long it takes for that to go after a late miscarriage? xx

 

[Las78]

Sending you huge hugs hun. I too lost my baby just over a week ago at 17w+5 and it's so very hard. I'm trying to be as normal as I can for the sake of my kids and OH but inside I feel lost and empty. It's still very early days hun, I too sit here and think I should have been 19 weeks now and it breaks my heart to think of my little boy. It happened on a friday and I was dreading the first friday after it happened, I had to get out of the house, I couldn't be here at the same time as it happened so I went out (cried most of my trip out) but it did help to be away from the reminders. Could you perhaps try the same, go for a nice long walk or something.

I know my words are meaningless hun, when you feel the way you do, it's devastating and it will take time but know that you are in my thoughts and you're not alone.

Take care of yourself x

 

[mama2connor]

Thanks so much hun, and i'm so sorry for your loss. It's horrendous and I, like you am trying to get on with normal day to day life for the sake of my son, but sometimes i find it so very hard. I haven't cried infront of my son, but when it gets too much for me, i find i have to go off upstairs and just cry it all out. I've had my good moments, and some very bad moments. If you ever need to talk, feel free to message me. xxx

 

[susan_1981]

I don't know how long after a late miscarriage but I took 2 weeks after mine to test negative. My miscarriage was at 7 weeks 2 days, although I didn't find out until my 12 week scan.

It is so hard to get through, especially as it didn't happen that long ago for you and you obviously went a lot further along than I did. I can only say that time was the thing that helped me, although I'm not really an over emotional person thank God so after I'd had my op, I felt fine (although if I had miscarried a lot later on, I'm sure I would be very emotional still). Just feel a little sad when I see people like Amanda Hamilton (think that's her name) pregnant on Something for the Weekend on BBC2 as she is only a couple of weeks ahead of where I'd be. It's seeing her bump and thinking "I should be like that". That's the hardest thing for me. But for me, I'm now concentrating on the future. I've done all my crying for my miscarriage and now I'm just hoping to get pregnant again (hopefully this month) and have a happy and healthy 9 months.

I hope that you can get through this ok and have a healthy pregnancy next time xxx

 

[toby2]

sorry you are having such a tough time, its still such early days for you both
I think it took about two weeks for my hormones to drop but again i m/c at 13wk-it has helped me to carry on with as much of ife as i can but its really important to have tme to yourself as well,its such alot to get your head around but 1st time round it did settle with time, you never forget but i think remembering gets less painfulxx