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expecting09
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Aww Lou 
How many times are you gonna let him walk all over you. He's full of empty promises time after time. I hope you gave him an ear full for not coming round. He really needs to buck up his ideas big time! xx
How many times are you gonna let him walk all over you. He's full of empty promises time after time. I hope you gave him an ear full for not coming round. He really needs to buck up his ideas big time! xx
purpledahlia
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How many chances has he had now? I would consider giving him an ultimatum or cutting him off. He cant keep doing this to you and to scarlett! As she gets older she will become more aware, Dont get yourself into debt because of his idiocy, 
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Hun he's walking all over you. Thats a day wasted and money wasted because of a stupid ignorant BLLLLEEEEEEEEEPPPPPP!!! 
He needs a serious wake up call. Could your mum take Scarlett for a while. Ring him and tell him to get his arse over to your house right away otherwise he'll not see scarlett ever again. That might make him come over. Then BAWL him out! Tell him that he messes you and scarlett about ONCE more and thats it. You will change your number etc and ignore him and cut all contact. A slap across the face wouldn't go amiss either
(dont actually you could get done for assault no matter how tempting it is lmao)
You just want whats best for Scarlett
He needs a serious wake up call. Could your mum take Scarlett for a while. Ring him and tell him to get his arse over to your house right away otherwise he'll not see scarlett ever again. That might make him come over. Then BAWL him out! Tell him that he messes you and scarlett about ONCE more and thats it. You will change your number etc and ignore him and cut all contact. A slap across the face wouldn't go amiss either
(dont actually you could get done for assault no matter how tempting it is lmao) You just want whats best for Scarlett 
lou_w34
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Its been the third time hes been a no show now, he hasnt seen her since she was 12 days old.
He's not aloud in my house, im living with my parents, and my dad would tear his head off if he did.... so then again maybe i should let him come over lol
Yeah im ok, just feel weird that someone could do this to thier own child, also feel a tad stupid for basically just bending over backwards to help him meet and get to no scarlett just to have it thrown back in my face.
Im may just change my number now, theres no talking to him really!
Thanks girlies
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He's not aloud in my house, im living with my parents, and my dad would tear his head off if he did.... so then again maybe i should let him come over lol
Yeah im ok, just feel weird that someone could do this to thier own child, also feel a tad stupid for basically just bending over backwards to help him meet and get to no scarlett just to have it thrown back in my face.
Im may just change my number now, theres no talking to him really!
Thanks girlies xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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hun. I think an ultimatum is in order to. He cant keep doing this, its not fair. Youve given him enough chances now x
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Maybe get him to meet you somewhere? You need to bawl him out face to face show him your deadly serious! He cant keep messing you's about! Either go for one last chance or just tell him thats it you've blown it dont ever contact me again Some men really are complete tossers! ( change tossers to something extremly rude lol)
Happy due date Teal
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Some men really are complete tossers! ( change tossers to something extremly rude lol)Happy due date Teal
xxThanks lou and sweetlullaby No sign of him yet!
You shouldn't feel stupid for trying to get him involved in Scarletts life. I agree that it sounds like a good idea to give him one last chance to make sure he understands you're serious that he can't mess you both around or if he won't listen just cut contact. You've done everything you can do xx
No sign of him yet! You shouldn't feel stupid for trying to get him involved in Scarletts life. I agree that it sounds like a good idea to give him one last chance to make sure he understands you're serious that he can't mess you both around or if he won't listen just cut contact. You've done everything you can do
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I dont even think he deserves one last chance, yesterday was supposed to be his last chance, what does it say if i keep on giving him all these last chances, that i am basically a push over...
Time for me just to cut contact now i think, im not gunna say anything, just ignore him.
We will soon see how hard he fights to see her
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Time for me just to cut contact now i think, im not gunna say anything, just ignore him.
We will soon see how hard he fights to see her
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sounds like a decision lolI think so too!!
And come on baby! Looks like he wants to keep you waiting! lol
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He definitely does - just want him here already! If this snow keeps up I'll be missing my midwife appointment tomorrow!
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Lou, totally agree that he has had more than enough chances, he doesnt deserve anymore. A lepord never changes its spots and I dont mean to sound rude hun, but ur kidding urself if u think he will. If seeing her previously hasnt give him the kick up the arse he needs then nothing will. And im only saying this cause I know exactely how u feel.
U should worry about trying to make it up to scarlett shes too young to even understand, so knock it on the head now before she gets older and starts to sense things. U have to make decisions for her best interest.
So just do what u said, change ur number and let him get on with his life.
Maybe in time when he grows up and matures maybe he`ll realise how much of an arse hes been and what his lost out on.
Good luck huni x
U should worry about trying to make it up to scarlett shes too young to even understand, so knock it on the head now before she gets older and starts to sense things. U have to make decisions for her best interest.
So just do what u said, change ur number and let him get on with his life.
Maybe in time when he grows up and matures maybe he`ll realise how much of an arse hes been and what his lost out on.
Good luck huni x
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Everyones advice has been so great, and i no that you are all right
Im lucky that she is so young, because she will never remember that i got her all dressed up for her dad to see her and cuddle her, and he didnt even bother!
Ive blocked his number from my phone now, well i think i have, it says add to reject list on my phone, so i think that means he is blocked.
If he wants to contact me that badly he will get his friend to get in contact with me as his friend has my number, Im going to keep that one line of contact open to him, and i think im being generous with that. But im not holding my breath, and to be honest i dont care anymore, she has me and my friends and family and that is all she will need.
I was going to invite him to her christening, but he can jog on now.
I feel so better today that i have finally made a clear decision.
Thanks ladies!
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Im lucky that she is so young, because she will never remember that i got her all dressed up for her dad to see her and cuddle her, and he didnt even bother!
Ive blocked his number from my phone now, well i think i have, it says add to reject list on my phone, so i think that means he is blocked.
If he wants to contact me that badly he will get his friend to get in contact with me as his friend has my number, Im going to keep that one line of contact open to him, and i think im being generous with that. But im not holding my breath, and to be honest i dont care anymore, she has me and my friends and family and that is all she will need.
I was going to invite him to her christening, but he can jog on now.
I feel so better today that i have finally made a clear decision.
Thanks ladies!
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I use to go out with someone like this. He would make excuses not to see his child and I use to go mad at him! I couldnt understand why he didnt want to spend time with his LO. He loved LO to pieces but he didnt want the responibility....he had his LO when he was 16 and he felt he was too young to be a dad.
In his case though he said his ex kept going on and on about wanting a baby he said he felt pressured into it and only done it to keep her happy....(I dunno about that but thats what he said)
Your LO is only young isnt she? Maybe he's scared of the responsibility....I'm sure he loves her to pieces but its a big change for him (it was for you too but women cope better)
I would just ask him out straight if he wanted anything to do with LO and see what he says....he might tell you he's scared...or he might be an arsehole!
Worth a shot though hun!! Good luck I hope it works out for you xx
In his case though he said his ex kept going on and on about wanting a baby he said he felt pressured into it and only done it to keep her happy....(I dunno about that but thats what he said)
Your LO is only young isnt she? Maybe he's scared of the responsibility....I'm sure he loves her to pieces but its a big change for him (it was for you too but women cope better)
I would just ask him out straight if he wanted anything to do with LO and see what he says....he might tell you he's scared...or he might be an arsehole!
Worth a shot though hun!! Good luck I hope it works out for you xx
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Hun I think you've totally done the right thing. I have cut all contact with FOB now also. Blocked him on Facebook and MSN. He turned around and said he didn't wanna see him anymore. Then a couple of days later he changed his mind. Well last spoke to him almost a fortnight ago. He has my number and said he was going to text everyday to find out how he is so that if James wanted to see him when he is older he could. Not happened at all so just shows how important he is to him. Sucks cos I know for a fact he is still seeing his other son. Oh and he has a new girlfriend so thats probably why!
