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Hey Ladies,
Long story short(er), DH and I both said we were ready for a 2nd baby but DH doesn't want to actively try for one. He said he felt when we were TTC#1, everything seemed too mechanical and he doesn't want to do that again. So he doesn't want to know when I'm ovulating or anything like that.
This frustrates me because I am wanting to actively try and I do know roughly when I'd ovulate. Trouble now is, he questions me every time I want to have sex with him. He asks are you wanting it because you want a baby or because you're actually in the mood? The answer is always both but now he has started declining DTD more.
During my pregnancy and for the first 7 months of our daughters life, he complained we never had sex. Now I am throwing myself at him and he is holding out. I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't win. My cycles are usually 31 days and my AF finished on the 21st. Since then we've DTD on the 22nd, 25th and 29th. I want to DTD again tonight but again DH is holding out. He keeps sending me these mixed signals, saying he's ready for another but then holding out on me. What would you ladies do? I've tried being spontaneous with it but then he ruins it by asking the bloody questions. It was him who first came to me and said he was ready for another (we want our first 2 to be close in age), I've not pressured him into this. Ugh, I'm just getting so frustrated. Any suggestions?
-AussieBub
Long story short(er), DH and I both said we were ready for a 2nd baby but DH doesn't want to actively try for one. He said he felt when we were TTC#1, everything seemed too mechanical and he doesn't want to do that again. So he doesn't want to know when I'm ovulating or anything like that.
This frustrates me because I am wanting to actively try and I do know roughly when I'd ovulate. Trouble now is, he questions me every time I want to have sex with him. He asks are you wanting it because you want a baby or because you're actually in the mood? The answer is always both but now he has started declining DTD more.
During my pregnancy and for the first 7 months of our daughters life, he complained we never had sex. Now I am throwing myself at him and he is holding out. I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't win. My cycles are usually 31 days and my AF finished on the 21st. Since then we've DTD on the 22nd, 25th and 29th. I want to DTD again tonight but again DH is holding out. He keeps sending me these mixed signals, saying he's ready for another but then holding out on me. What would you ladies do? I've tried being spontaneous with it but then he ruins it by asking the bloody questions. It was him who first came to me and said he was ready for another (we want our first 2 to be close in age), I've not pressured him into this. Ugh, I'm just getting so frustrated. Any suggestions?
-AussieBub