Im worried and anxious about what to do for the best

[aliss]

Sorry this has happened to her baby,her, and your family. What an awful thing.

Please let her know that you are there for her - now, not tomorrow. One thing a lot of the angel moms say is that they wish people didn't avoid them or what happened. I know you don't mean to avoid her out of fear of upsetting her, but just let her know that you are there for her today. If she is angry with you because of your pregnancy, it is her grief talking and she isn't thinking with a clear mind. Better to be a target of her (temporary) grief anger than the anger she may have if she thinks nobody is there for her. And for all you know, she may just want you to give her a hug today.

 

[Cocobelle]

I just want to say how sorry I am to read this

 

[hedgewitch]

hey hun, firstly i want to say how so sorry i am for not only your sisters loss but also your families,xx
i lost my daughter at 34 weeks last year and i am still reeling from it to be honest, she was also still born but had passed away a few days previous to delivery. the one thing that affected me and still to this day does is how everyone i knew didn't come near me, they thought it was better that i was given space and left alone but to be honest it made me feel even more isolated and alone, you need to let her know that you are there for her and as another poster said she may push you away but you must remember she doesn't mean it, she is grieving. to this day there is distance between me and the people i feel abandoned me during my time of need and they don't know how to be around me especially as i am now pg again, they don't talk about my daughter Lilly-Maye and that makes things or me so much harder. again i am so very sorry, hugs to you and your family at this terrible time,xx

 

[pinkgem100]

i am so sorry for what you are going through. x x I am currently 37 weeks pregnant and had a previous loss at 20 weeks, last sunday my sis was takin in yo hospital she was 10 weeks pregnant and lost the baby, even though i had been through a loss my self i didnt know what to do for the best, but she asked me to come the hosp with so bits for her, i was a bit unsure at first cus of my ever growing bump but as my mum said she has asked i go and before she lost the baby she knew i was pregnant!

you just need to br there fir you sis when she needs you and remember that ther is nothing you can do about being pregnant. x x Also try not to worry about it happening to you and if you do speak to your midwife about extra monitoring.

Big hugs to you and your family. x x x

 

[mommy2baby2]

You, your sister and your family have my condolences! I'm sorry for her loss!

 

[anna matronic]

I have no advice, but reading this is terribly sad for all concerned. x x x

 

[NetsaBaba]

Sorry this has happened to her baby,her, and your family. What an awful thing.

Please let her know that you are there for her - now, not tomorrow. One thing a lot of the angel moms say is that they wish people didn't avoid them or what happened. I know you don't mean to avoid her out of fear of upsetting her, but just let her know that you are there for her today. If she is angry with you because of your pregnancy, it is her grief talking and she isn't thinking with a clear mind. Better to be a target of her (temporary) grief anger than the anger she may have if she thinks nobody is there for her. And for all you know, she may just want you to give her a hug today.

Its 11pm and i cant get a hold of her thats why i said tomorrow and i think she will push me away to start with as i know her well but it is completely understandable and i will let her know that im there for her if she needs me.
I couldnt begin to imagine what her and her OH are going through.

 

[NetsaBaba]

And thanks alot everyone it is lovely how supportive you all are and nice to know the world still has some genuine and kind peopl left

 

[mrsgtobe]

Oh my goodness what a horrible thing to have happened :'(
I can only imagine what your poor family are going through.
If I were you I would probably send a txt to your sis or her oh just letting them know that you are there for them whenever they need you. Let them know you are thinking of them and their beautiful little girl and also tell them you understand if they don't want you being too close with them at this time.

That way your Putin the ball in their court and not giving them any added pressure.

 

[NetsaBaba]

Oh my goodness what a horrible thing to have happened :'(
I can only imagine what your poor family are going through.
If I were you I would probably send a txt to your sis or her oh just letting them know that you are there for them whenever they need you. Let them know you are thinking of them and their beautiful little girl and also tell them you understand if they don't want you being too close with them at this time.

That way your Putin the ball in their court and not giving them any added pressure.

You must be psychic because i just sent her DH a text more or less ssaying exactly what you suggested.
And thankyou for your kind words hunnie

 

[kfarb]

I would try to be there for her, but tell her, you'd understand if it's a little painful to be around you and to let you know. But that you're there when she's ready. What a hard situation! I'm so sorry for you and your sister.

 

[NetsaBaba]

I have done so and recieved a reply me and her DH are good friends also so im sure i can help in some way.

 

[SRTBaby]

That is so sad i am seating here crying, please reach out to her even if she pushes you away that is okay

 

[NetsaBaba]

Aww well thankyou hunnie i will try my best with her but i dont want to put to much stress on myself and my babies also.
Its a hard situation and i will just have to be there when needed.

 

[Dolly.]

hun that's awful, I'm so sorry
Don't know what to advise but hope you can be strong for your sister xxx