In 30s and Single

[AlwaysAiming]

I’m in my 30s and I’m considering looking seriously into options for becoming a single mum. I know this may be out of the ordinary, but I feel that making a considered decision to go it alone is potentially the only route left for me now. I don’t particularly want the hassle of a relationship, and I’ve been happily single for several years. But I would like to have a baby and a family of my own.
Has anyone else gone down this route?

 

[KylasBaby]

Sort of. I used a known donor with my ex girlfriend and had DD. Been single for about 3.5 years now and went to the same donor for #2.

I don’t feel there’s really any “ordinary” anymore. Families come in all shapes and sizes.

 

[DobbyForever]

I didn’t go the donor route but I considered it. It’s also something that I have on my mind for #2. But I am a single mom at 30. There’s a lot of perks to it to be honest. I may be jaded because my exes were all loathsome leeches. But I love it. Sure it’s exhausting and some months we only make due by borrowing from friends/family/credit cards but no regrets. And def yes families come in all shapes and sizes. You gotta do what’s best for you. If I had the money, I’d totes go sperm donor for kid number 2 in a heart beat

 

[Rags]

Hello and welcome. I am the very happy solo parent to my anonymous donor conceived son - who is now 10 (time flies by!!)
I was very aware, throughout my adult life that wanted a child more than I wanted a husban or partner. I'd always know sperm donors were an option, I remember a conversation at school when I was 16 and saying then that if I hadn't met the right person by the time I was 30 then there were 'other ways' of having a baby. As it was when I was 30 I was having a ball, in a new career and travelling a lot. As I reached my mid 30's I began putting money aside 'in case' and decided to put a little more effort into dating as I thought I might be missing someone. I realised after a short time that it would be incredibly unfair of me to be with someone for the main purpose of having a child and that any relationship would be unlikely to succeed. I spoke to my mum, hers was the only opinion I was interested in, and with her blessing I went ahead.

Funnily enough when I was chaperoning on a school trip a couple of years ago I was chatting to one of the other mums. During the conversation she mentioned that she was raising her daughter alone, I noticed lots of tiny gaps in what she was saying to me, after a while I jumped in with both feet, "ha, ha, did you use a donor..." she suddenly went silent and asked "how did you know?" It was lovely to tell her that I'd only guessed because I'd done the same - our children attend a catholic school in a very mixed medium sized town, possibly not the place you'd expect to see solo parents by choice, that's my way of letting you know that it's far more common than you'll ever realise. Good luck and if we can give you any tips just ask.

 

[kittiecat]

This isn’t something I have experience on but wanted to say if it’s something you really want I’d go for it! I think I would’ve done it tbh as I always knew I wanted to be a Mum no matter what. Families are all different