in massive shock and worried about bump

[babytots]

Oh sweetie I am so so very sorry for the loss of your little brother my heart goes out to you and your family at this devestating time.

I'm sure baby will be fine in there but I have read (not sure what the truth is in it) that something as upsetting and stressful as a bereavement can set off pre-term labour so please do mention it to your doctor or midwife so they can keep a close eye on you if need be.

Please be gentle on yourself and take the time to grieve I wish there was something I could say to make you feel a bit better but I know there are no words. Instead sending you lots and lots of x

 

[BigPrincess]

Hunny, i am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

I know its not the same but my dad had a massive heart attack last week which was completely out of the blue. I live a long way away and couldnt get down and was so upset and stressed. Bubbs is doing fine though but i would definately go and see your midwife or doctor just to put your mind at ease.

Sending bug hugs xxxx

 

[emmi26]

im so so sorry hun. please dont worry too much about bump people dont realize how strong babies are my mw told me that as i had a lot of stress at the start.i hope yr baby gives you the strength you need im sure you will find it and yr brother will be forever watching over you x
if it makes you feel better think of a way to introduce baby to yr brother. my nan died and i miss her so much when my baby arrives i will take him to her favourite place that way i feel she can meet him x x

 

[Jellycat]

Sorry for your Loss. Speak to your MW or Doctor so that they will be aware of your situation and they may also be able to offer you something to help just for the first few days xxx

 

[FLU77ERBYE]

No advice hun, I just want to say Im so sorry for your loss xxxx

 

[Cocobelle]

I am so so sorry to hear about your brother, I can't imagine what you and your family are going through right now. My heart goes out to you all.

I can only echo what every one else has said about chatting to you midwife so that they are aware of what you are going through.

Much love to you xxx

 

[rainbow_11]

I am soo sorry for your loss!! Baby is probable fine but you could ring your midwife as she could help you deal with everything that's happening.xx

 

[a_c]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Your baby will be fine - i remember reading about pregnant wives of 9/11 worrying about their unborn children and there was no proven effect - just make sure you eat and drink okay through the heartache. Best wishes

 

[stardust599]

I'm so sorry for your loss sweetie. Take care of yourself and take each day as it comes. Please let your doctor and midwife know what has happened, it won't affect your baby but you need all the support you can get hun. If it's too hard to speak to MW/DR yourself can you ask a close friend or your partner to ring for you.

Thinking of you.
xxx

 

[I<3paul]

I'm so sorry. Baby will be fine, you just need to stay relaxed. I know that's hard at such a difficult time. Just lie down on your bed or in the bath, stroke your tummy and tell bump about his uncle and all the stories you remember from being young, it might be a more calming way to help with your grief. I'm so sorry again xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Hoping]

How awful I don't know what to say apart from I'm sorry that you are going through this. Bubs will be fine, just make sure you take care of yourself as best you can. XXX

 

[ShanandBoc]

Oh hunni i am so sorry for the loss of your brother

Your baby is stronger than you think.

I lost my Dad at 8 weeks gestation and then my Grandma at about 5 months.

Just let yourself deal with the grief, dont try and hold it in x

Im here if u wanna chat xo

 

[Cookie1979]

I am so very sorry for you loss, I know how hard it is to lose someone you are close to, I lost my mum in November, and I thought I'd never get over it, but I'm getting there, slowly but surely. I'm not going to lie it does take time, but I promise you will come out of the other side and you will be ok.

I'm sure your baby is absolutely fine, you are going through a terrible time right now and there is nothing you can do about how you are feeling, but please dont worry about your baby, being upset like you are will cause no harm.

I remember the early days, the shock, the disbelief the pain, but it does get easier I promise.

Thinking of you xxx

 

[mammym]

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news, my thoughts are with you and your family. Rest, sleep and eat when you can, maybe just let your midwife know whats going on too incase she wants to pop by and offer support. xxx

 

[chella]

So sorry for ur loss hun its a major shock i bet, but ur brother is now ur lil ones gurdian angel and his watching u proud that he is goin to be a uncle even thou he wont get to hold him which i best hurts like mad, i lost my sis a mth after havin my 2nd baby and couldnt see her much through pregnancy or when had him as she was havin treatments etc and its a shock but best thing is to tell midwife and doctors to get some support.

thoughts are withu and ur family at this time , bubba sounds fine his prob jus keepin u busy and lettin u kno that u hav him to look fwd too soon xxxx hugs xxxx

 

[Beth8ny]

Oh my goodness how terrible? What happened? Its so sad to hear of anyone dying but when it's someone so young it just seems so tragic!!! I hope that you and your family are ok.

Like everyone else has said its important to take some time to grieve properly. Im sure your LO will be fine in there and will not know what is happening in the outside world

My thoughts are with you

xxx

 

[MrsBump1]

Thank you for all your kind messages. Saw MW yesterday and she listened in to baby who sounded fine. She took my BP which was high (mines never normally in the normal range so high is very high for me) but she said thats understandable and told me to do what i can to keep calm.

Today would have been my brothers 30th birthday. I'm going to see him at the chapel of rest, i dont want to but i need to as im feeling like this all isnt real right now. I feel like i cant breathe

 

[ShanandBoc]

You poor thing i can only imagine. Just take it day by day and try as much as you can to take care of yourself and bubs, im sure thats what your brother would have wanted.

It will get easier with time i promise xo

 

[cath_x]

So very sorry for your loss