Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[Tink_0123]

Tink, so what's the first thing you have in kind to do when you get off bedrest? My plans were to take a REAL shower

Happy 1 month to Missy!!!

To answer your question:

Well first thing that Saturday morning go to breakfast with DH. That used to be our weekend routine and since I've been on bed rest I haven't been able to do that.

Been craving Benihana's since October, so possibly go to dinner there hehe.

Also, go to baby's r us and get the last few things I need and return a couple of repeats.

Pass by work to say hello to everyone, and take a "Thank you" card since they all contributed with money to get things from my registry.

Perhaps, get a mani-pedi if theres time too lol

This is not going to be all in one day tho, don't want to over do it lol. But so far that's what I want to do.

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Tink, so what's the first thing you have in kind to do when you get off bedrest? My plans were to take a REAL shower

Happy 1 month to Missy!!!

To answer your question:

Well first thing that Saturday morning go to breakfast with DH. That used to be our weekend routine and since I've been on bed rest I haven't been able to do that.

Been craving Benihana's since October, so possibly go to dinner there hehe.

Also, go to baby's r us and get the last few things I need and return a couple of repeats.

Pass by work to say hello to everyone, and take a "Thank you" card since they all contributed with money to get things from my registry.

Perhaps, get a mani-pedi if theres time too lol

This is not going to be all in one day tho, don't want to over do it lol. But so far that's what I want to do.

Sounds like EVERYTHING I'd do! Benihanas sounds gooooooood!

 

[Hope2302]

@ prayerful, missy is doing so well. Happy 4 u! X
@dayday, happy viability! I am glad you've come this far!
@ tink, seems like you've figured it all out ur plans after bedrest. Sounds good!

 

[Twinkle 3]

Hi ladies

I know just lately I have asked an awful LOT of questions and all of you have been brilliant and answered them all. I am so worried and scared. I need your knowledge to help me.

I have been having pressure when I stand or walk it gets worse the longer I am on my feet.
I have always felt pressure in my previous pregnancies to the stage where it felt like my baby would just fall out. It also started at 16weeks in previous ones. My first pregnancy I made it to 29weeks with it and second pregnancy I only made it to 22weeks.

I have asked medical staff wether this pressure is normal or a warning sign of cervical changes but they arnt concerned as I'm not bleeding. They brush it off as normal and say if anything was happening my stitch would just be taken out and I'd miscarry.

Which isn't very helpful.

My consultant is brilliant but dosnt answer questions as he dosnt like to scare or reassure.

So as you can see im sat at home worrying myself and searching google to find answers which to be honest is the worst things to do as it scares me more after reading about failed stitches and repeat losses.

I know eaveryone is different and so each of us will experience different symptoms.
I also can remember lizzie saying pressure is normal plus aches and pains.

I am now placing myself on basically bed rest as this is when I don't feel any pressure or aches and pains.

What symptoms did everyone else feel with incompetent cervix and a stitch was it pressure and pains ? I just don't want to worry anymore

Thankyou and any help would be so much appreciated

I promise to stop asking so many questions soon

 

[sweetbuthyper]

Twinkle try not to worry to much hun, oh says I was feeling pressure St 16 weeks and it was 3 weeks prior to my cervix changing and pre stitch, its most likly just the position baby is in as they are still very low at that point, I am 3 weeks nearly post stitch I can walk around but if I try to do tomuch cramp up, I spend most of my time sat or revlined on the sofa, if I sit up right to long I cramp up so have to remember to keep changing position but think its more my muscles ajusting to the bump, try to walk around in short bursts it dhpuld get easier As your muscles ajust to help and as baby starts to move up a bit,

Really signs you are looking for of concern are cramps or back pain that comes and goes, tightenings without pain that have a distinctive pattern that is regular (braxton Hicks are normal and not concerning) and bleeding. And waters breaking

Your not that far post op and your body needs to get used to the stitch being there its a foreign object also they will have pressed and pulled your tummy around when doing the op.

Don't know if that ramble was of any help but please try not yo stress to much and take things easy, move around if you can a little so mucles font get weak but nothing strenuous no house work ect

 

[sweetbuthyper]

Sorry for typos my laptop is in shop being fixed so on my phone

 

[Agiboma]

happy vday dayday

 

[Twinkle 3]

thankyou that has helped im trying so hard to keep positive and not to stress but it is the hardest thing in the world. especially when i feel pressure. some days i could just sit and cry as 24weeks seems so far away but im determined to make it.

its reasurring to know that you get aches and pains too (wish we both had a normal pregnancy) you have helped better than the doctors/midwifes

 

[DAYDAY24]

Hey ladies thank you im really celebrating my vday on wed since they measure diff but appreciate yall support. Im now getting my sugar tested every time I eat cant take glucose test yet due to steroids

 

[lch28]

any one whose had a c section, is 4 weeks a normal time for AF to show again? I just realized that ive started bleeding much heavier this week. just realized its probably just my period. I only bfed/pumped for 2 weeks.

 

[Agiboma]

I suppose its possible. to get AF at this time for me it took a lot longer but for some ladies it comes back very soon.

 

[lch28]

it took 6 weeks with Sophia, but she was vaginal. hmm

 

[ShelbyLC]

@ Day - my hospital considers viability to be at 23 weeks Happy V-Day!


@ lch - I got my first postpartum period exactly 1 month after the girls were born - and that's while pumping full time!

 

[lch28]

oh wow! really? then i guess it is my period. ew.. i forgot how much i hate periods.lol

 

[Craigswife]

Hi twinkle3
I'm new one here and haven't posted much, but thought I would just say I understand your worry. I have a tendancy to worry a lot, but find if i keep my mind busy with something else then it helps. ive also banned myself from google, lol, theres too many horror stories on there and it only feeds my over active imagination!!! I must admit I'm better since going cold turkey on google! I try and focus on going week to week with little milestones along the way. From what i understand you have only had your stitch in for a couple of weeks and remember that I felt quite a bit of pressure to start with. I think perhaps your body is adjusting to having the stitch in place. I think feeling pressure is fairly normal and if its not accompanied by any other symptoms then is probably nothing to get too worried about. I think it's about knowing what's normal for your body. When I was pregnant with my son I would often feel some pressure too and I made it to 28 weeks with no stitch and funnelling. I try and tell myself that the midwifes and the obs are experienced and see lots of women with our problem and that if there was cause for concern they'd be worried too, not that I always believe myself, lol!

I had my stitch put in at 14wks and was told by my ob to carry on as usual, something I've struggled to get my head around! I've avoided strenuous stuff and got as much rest as possible. Interestingly I discovered a friend of mine who has 5 children had stitches with all 5 of her babies, I think the first stitch was a rescue one but the others were planned and she made it to 35wks plus with all of them. I found this really reassuring!
She said she was given the same advice, be sensible but don't treat yourself as an invalid, no strenuous lifting or exercise, no baths or sex because of infection risks and plenty of rest. It obviously worked for her, just hoping for the same.

Keep smiling

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Twinkle I worried a lot too Hun. Don't apologize. My best advice, worry when you have cramping with weird/ bloody discharge, and a water leak. If you don't have those , chill with your legs up Hun! Lol I regret wasting all that time worrying. I could have used that time to bond with my baby. It wasn't until days ago that she felt like mine and I felt that connection. Don't be like me, enjoy your pregnancy and worry when you go into labor and not a second sooner

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Ich AF arrived 5 weeks after my first and EXACTLY 28 days/4 weeks this time and I pump about 1 liter a day! I posted on here last week about it. I was in shock too! I thought I would get a little break. Guess not lol. I guess a few months from now ill be happy to see AF once hubby and I "reunite" lol. No babies for awhile. Phew! It was pretty bright and it comes in spurts. Some times nothing sometimes a faucet. Sorry tmi but if I can't share wuth you guys then who lol. Our bodies are clocks..

 

[wunderful78]

It looks like I may be getting sent home happy today !!

 

[Tink_0123]

Ich and Prayer, I def. feel for you ladies, getting your AF so soon after having your babies is def. not ideal. You'd think you would get a longer break after all you've been through, but like Prayer said, our bodies are like clocks lol.. Question: Are you ladies planning on getting on some sort of contraceptive?? I've been researching, but so far I haven't made up my mind.

Twinkle, please try not to stress, try to enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can. Unless you're feeling cramping or something that comes and goes at regular intervals, strange discharge, blood or water leakage then just try not to give it too much thought. Pregnancy is supposed to be such a wonderful experience as you're bringing a baby into the world, unfortunately for women like us, happiness is usually overshadowed by worry. Please keep a positive mindset, and definitely, do NOT google.

Wunderful, thats great news that you might be able to go home. I am super happy for you.

AFM, anxiety is definitely kicking in, I feel so close yet so far lol.. I just want the next couple of weeks to pass quickly. I know once I get to 36 weeks, Ill be able to do the things I need to do before she comes and not feel as guilty if I go into labor then as she'll be pretty well cooked by then. Also, the thought of how I'm going to manage feeds, diaper changes, etc is starting to freak me out a bit. I've cared for babies before, but usually give them back after a few hours lol this time my baby is going to be with me 24/7 pretty much. I know its the hormones freaking me out about this and I know I will be able to manage well at the end of the day. Just wanted to share my feelings with you ladies.

I wanted to share a picture I took on Thursday after my dr's appt.

 

[lizziedripping]

Hi ladies

I know just lately I have asked an awful LOT of questions and all of you have been brilliant and answered them all. I am so worried and scared. I need your knowledge to help me.

I have been having pressure when I stand or walk it gets worse the longer I am on my feet.
I have always felt pressure in my previous pregnancies to the stage where it felt like my baby would just fall out. It also started at 16weeks in previous ones. My first pregnancy I made it to 29weeks with it and second pregnancy I only made it to 22weeks.

I have asked medical staff wether this pressure is normal or a warning sign of cervical changes but they arnt concerned as I'm not bleeding. They brush it off as normal and say if anything was happening my stitch would just be taken out and I'd miscarry.

Which isn't very helpful.

My consultant is brilliant but dosnt answer questions as he dosnt like to scare or reassure.

So as you can see im sat at home worrying myself and searching google to find answers which to be honest is the worst things to do as it scares me more after reading about failed stitches and repeat losses.

I know eaveryone is different and so each of us will experience different symptoms.
I also can remember lizzie saying pressure is normal plus aches and pains.

I am now placing myself on basically bed rest as this is when I don't feel any pressure or aches and pains.

What symptoms did everyone else feel with incompetent cervix and a stitch was it pressure and pains ? I just don't want to worry anymore

Thankyou and any help would be so much appreciated

I promise to stop asking so many questions soon

Twinkle hun, pressure and aches were constant in my twin pregnancy and only stopped if I lay down too - which is why I daren't move for 8mths lol. I also experienced similar feelings with my 24wker however, which is why I always say that yes stitch and ic pregnancies do cause pressure and pain which are essentially harmless BUT if you're concerned you should always ask for a tvu if you can get it, if nothing else than to put your mind at rest.

Usually sinister pressure eventually ( and quite rapidly) progresses to bleeding and/or contractions so I'm sure you're ok sweet so try not to worry. Btw, ask as many questions as you need - we have all been there, and we ALL stressed just as much if not more