Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[TLM21]

thanks for all the support ladies
party in my bedroom once I get to 32, of course bed resting still... loL
you all inspire me, I see that you are at 39, 34 and 32 and it's sooo reassuring

 

[Tink_0123]

Twinkle, hope your feeling better today. Although V-day might seem far away, just keep in mind that you'll get there very soon. Keep your head up, and as always rest as much as you can.

Agi, 34 weeks and counting yay!! so exciting

Hope, 32 weeks, that's amazing

Day, Happy V-day! you're in the best place possible. Glad you got your steroid shots. You and your boys are in my thoughts

Princess, Welcome to the thread! Thats great news that you got your stitch in already. Although many dr's do not recommend it, but I do suggest to rest as much as possible if you can. It will definitely make a difference. Wishing you lots of luck and a quick recovery from your stitch placement.

Baby, OMG woman!! your little Mr. seems to be very comfy in there. Have you been doing anything to possibly bring labor on? or has your dr mentioned anything about induction since he doesn't want you to go over?

Prayer, hows little Missy doing today?? As far as your comment from last night, I think the reason my belly looks long is because its very low. Always been that way, not really big or high like most pregnant women I've seen. I've gained 35 lbs so far, considering that I've been on bed rest for over 2 months, I don't think its too bad.

Hope everyone else is doing well. Sending lots of your way. Keep those babies cooking!!

 

[TLM21]

princess welcome! I had the McDonald stitches put in so not sure about the other procedure, you may want to call your Dr and ask. I did have some minor bleeding after the stitches.
wonderful how's being home so far?

 

[baby_maybe]

Haha Tink, yes he seems to be very comfy! I'm seeing the consultant again on weds, hopefully to discuss some sort of plan for getting him out! lol. Since the stitch came out we've been dtd and I have been trying to spend more time walking, however my pelvis feels like its being split in two most days now, not to mention just the weight of it all so that's been a bit of a non-starter

See this is what happens, you worry for months (not unnecessarily I might add) that the stitch won't hold or you'll have a preemie and then you look around and realise you're 39 weeks with a reaaaaaalllyyy comfy baby who doesn't want to come out

 

[Tink_0123]

Haha Tink, yes he seems to be very comfy! I'm seeing the consultant again on weds, hopefully to discuss some sort of plan for getting him out! lol. Since the stitch came out we've been dtd and I have been trying to spend more time walking, however my pelvis feels like its being split in two most days now, not to mention just the weight of it all so that's been a bit of a non-starter

See this is what happens, you worry for months (not unnecessarily I might add) that the stitch won't hold or you'll have a preemie and then you look around and realise you're 39 weeks with a reaaaaaalllyyy comfy baby who doesn't want to come out

LOL thats life I tell ya. You never know what's going to happen. Would be nice to know whats going to happen early on in the future and avoid all the worry and heartache we go thru.

FX something happens for u soon (this week) naturally. I've heard induction is not pleasant.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi everyone! Just popping by to say hello to everyone.

We're starting a baseline sonogram for fertility treatment. I'd like to try for one more child. My husband is excited and I am a little scared. Luckily I have "some" personal experience to fall back on but will need some input on bedrest with a toddler when the time comes.

First thing is first though and we're starting next month for the TWW.

Hoping your all doing well as you wait for the littles. I know it was SO HARD with baby bear. Had I not by the grace of God found this post and Lizzie as well as all the other ladies, I don't know what I would have done. As you can see from the avatar, the stitch worked along with the 17p injections I had. After losing our son at 22wks, I never thought the day would come that I'd be a mother. It took us 8 years to conceive him and 10 to conceive her. To watch her grow...Oh how funny she is. I pray this for all of you!

So hopefully I'll be in here to join you in the next few months. Until then, just wanted to say hi and wish you all well!

 

[Twinkle 3]

Thankyou Tink bet your so excited to be coming off of bed rest soon I agree what you said to baby that we should be told what will happen in the future to avoid all the worry! That would be my ideal world lol

Hi mommys angel, Iv never met you before but it's so strange that you have wrote on here today as it was only yesterday I sat reading some old posts in this thread and I was mainly reading yours
Wishing you lots of luck in conceiving and in your pregnancy

 

[sweetbuthyper]

twinkle as long as you don't lay in bed all day and be completly inactive you should be fine re blood clots. I am resting but as i have said before mainly sat or laid on the couch and i get up and walk around the house every few hours.

 

[Agiboma]

@mommyangle look forward to seeing you soon. I do understand this thread really saves a lot of people from going crazy and with bedrest well us IC ladies got a lot of time on our hands. I also have a toddler and had a TAC (trans abdominal cerclage done) was told to stay on bedrest till 28 weeks but i could not really fully oblige because my son keeps me so busy. With a toddler you will need help or daycare etc. I was lucky my stitch help strong and has brought me this far. GL

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi ladies! Twinkle, how funny you went all the way back and saw MY posts. Seems like such a long time ago, though really it was just 16 months or so.

Agiboma, I've been wondering about that very subject. Already with fertility treatment it's slightly different than when we were trying to have her. We have IUI's. So he'll have to go in with his swimmies and I'll be alone this time. NOT very romantic but he said we'll be together afterwards as a family. This process isn't always the most romantic in the world. I suppose I better figure out a plan once we get going. My mom lives 40 minutes away and it's not always convenient to drop baby bear off.

I know Lizzy has a story too of what happened when she was carrying the twins. Hopefully I can get a little insight so I can come up with some kind of plan. My husband is home twice during the week and works 2nd shift. So most of the morning can be taken care of. If need be, we could use someone from 4-9 which is 5 hours each day for 5 days. I'll have to get an idea of how much sitters cost and if there is even anyone out there who will watch her at those hours. Maybe a homeschool teen?? Wondering how Lizzy did it and if she had anyone helping in the evenings. I KNOW my mom won't live with us and she can't check in daily because of the distance. THIS is going to be interesting. I'll worry more about that when the time comes. It was just a thought that occurred the other day.

How are you both feeling? I see you both have children prior to this pregnancy so have you had IC prior to this or did you just find out? Out of curiosity, have any of you done fertility treatment to get where you are or has ttc been relatively easy and the IC is the issue? I have a series of medical issues I have PCOS and am on an insulin pump with hypothyroid. I tried losing some weight...lost it and gained it all back because I had to go back on the insulin pump in order to ttc. It's the safest drug they say. So I'm back to square one until after we have the next baby. I'll stay off the insulin and hopefully lose more weight. I think once we have another baby it will be easier because I'll be able to stay off the insulin. Any added insulin floating in the body turns to blasted fat. ((sigh))

Good to talk with you!

 

[Agiboma]

@mommyangle My IC was diagnoised when i lost a baby @ 20 weeks so with my prior pregnancy i had a TVC stitch placed @ 15 weeks only for it to start failing anf i had funnled to the stich and had bulging membranes @ 23 weeks so had another rescue TVC placed @ 24 weeks, which held for a lovely 10 days and then i had my son @ 25+2. So this current pregnancy i have a TAC which has brought me this far, no funneling, bulging membranes etc.
I was also diagnoised with PCOS years back and this pregnancy i took nothing and was able to get pregnant i had taken clomid for 6 moths prior and all BFN so i took a break and BFP go figure. This will be my last pregnancy i cannot go through this again!

 

[Mommy's Angel]

@mommyangle My IC was diagnoised when i lost a baby @ 20 weeks so with my prior pregnancy i had a TVC stitch placed @ 15 weeks only for it to start failing anf i had funnled to the stich and had bulging membranes @ 23 weeks so had another rescue TVC placed @ 24 weeks, which held for a lovely 10 days and then i had my son @ 25+2. So this current pregnancy i have a TAC which has brought me this far, no funneling, bulging membranes etc.
I was also diagnoised with PCOS years back and this pregnancy i took nothing and was able to get pregnant i had taken clomid for 6 moths prior and all BFN so i took a break and BFP go figure. This will be my last pregnancy i cannot go through this again!

Oh my! You've been through so much with your experience. I lost a mucus plug and then ended up with a yeast infection and BV. I kept telling the medical personnel only to hear them say everything was fine. My amniotic sac was bulging too but the resident Dr. gave me a choice of staying in the hospital with my legs up in the air OR go home. Since she refused to intervene I figured home would be best. The dr.'s called to rush me back the next morning but it was too late, too much time lapsed from the Residents call on the matter and I gave birth to Jackson Jeffrey at 22wks and he passed 25 minutes later. It was heartbreaking and as you well know scares the life out of you EVERYTIME you get pregnant. With Amelia I felt as though I was fighting for EVERYTHING. They told me I didn't have IC but in fact had PTL. After chatting with the girls here I DEMANDED to be heard. Even went to a second opinion who read word for word the same thing the original Dr. said. I demanded they monitor me. Thank goodness, had they NOT, I would have lost Amelia the SAME TIME I lost Jackson. I had the Macdonald Stitch and 17P injections.

The fighting for good care never seems to go away here where I live. Not sure how it is with your area.

I'm SO sorry you've gone through this even with the stitch. Glad that the new TAC is working. I'm noticing that you are already at 32 weeks. Has it given you any room to breathe now that your this far along?

I'm like you, this is my last pregnancy WHEN it actually happens that is. It's hard enough to get pregnant with the hormonal injections then arguing for proper care here once I am pregnant. My husband and I know that after another child, we're done ttc. We've always wanted to adopt even before we got married. I'm an only child and would like a few children to have siblings. Both conceived below my heart and IN my heart. Luckily I have 4 more rounds of IUI covered under insurance and then we're done.

Thank you so much for sharing your heart and story with me. It's one I wish MANY of us didn't have to know. I AM however grateful we have this forum and each other to lean on. During my grieving stage, I noticed that there were SO MANY babies buried where Jackson is in the early 1900's. I can't imagine how the women back then dealt with their grief let alone not have the answers and medical inventions so readily available to us today.

I'd love to lurk in here to check on you ladies if you don't mind.

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Tink, I hope I didn't offend you I'd anything. You and belly are beautiful. I was round EVERYWHERE! Belly, legs arms face... And I lost it all in three weeks. I just need to tone up. You are way smaller (weight) so you'll be in a bikini a week postpartum. Work it! Lol. Missy is great I saw her today. She's up to 39 ml every 3 and she cries for it now . She takes the whole bottle and they bottle feed 3 times a day. She's up to 4 pounds 4 ounces. They turned her temp down in her incubator and she's been maintaining her temp since noon today. The goal is to take her out the incubator into an open crib by Thursday. Which us week 34 . I am so proud of her!

 

[Tink_0123]

Tink, I hope I didn't offend you I'd anything. You and belly are beautiful. I was round EVERYWHERE! Belly, legs arms face... And I lost it all in three weeks. I just need to tone up. You are way smaller (weight) so you'll be in a bikini a week postpartum. Work it! Lol. Missy is great I saw her today. She's up to 39 ml every 3 and she cries for it now . She takes the whole bottle and they bottle feed 3 times a day. She's up to 4 pounds 4 ounces. They turned her temp down in her incubator and she's been maintaining her temp since noon today. The goal is to take her out the incubator into an open crib by Thursday. Which us week 34 . I am so proud of her!

U didnt offend me at all hun thank u for the compliment! Thats great u lost all ur weight in 3 weeks
Missy is so adorable, shes getting so big and her weight gain is remarkable..thats great shes been able to keep her temp, hopefully everything will continue going well this week so she can go into the open crib.. Looks like shell b heading home really soon.. Im so happy shes doing well

 

[Agiboma]

@mommyangel wow you have had an ordeal yourself my goodness. I understand when you say that you have to fight for medical care, i had to be very FIRM with my Doctor that i wanted a TAC and not another TVC, they tried to convince me a TVC is effective and easy to mange blah blah blah. I told them NO, the TVC is not a good fit for me and i insisted and got my TAC

 

[Mommy's Angel]

@mommyangel wow you have had an ordeal yourself my goodness. I understand when you say that you have to fight for medical care, i had to be very FIRM with my Doctor that i wanted a TAC and not another TVC, they tried to convince me a TVC is effective and easy to mange blah blah blah. I told them NO, the TVC is not a good fit for me and i insisted and got my TAC

Isn't it a shame that we have to fight to be heard? I find it very disgusting sometimes. I advocate HIGHLY for women to know their bodies and do the research. I also encourage advocating for ones self and children. WE know our bodies and our children. Had I not done the research I wouldn't have found this thread to ask the women more information to differentiate all the information I was hearing.

It was so nice talking with you! While It's by no means the platform I'd like having all of us been through IC, I'm grateful for the opportunity to chat with other women who've been there too.

Thank you!

 

[lch28]

omg prayerful, she is just beautiful!

 

[Agiboma]

@prayerful i forgot to mention how aforable Missy is look at those big beautiful eyes and she's holding up her hand and saying " please popparazzi its enough photo's for now" lol

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Pardon me for looking back. Prayerful, please forgive me it looks as though you has OVER_THE_TOP exciting news. I didn't mean to take away from that. I didn't see your update. Your baby is SO beautiful!

What great news that she is eating well and gaining weight. Even more exciting that they are starting to turn down the incubator and she will be out on Thursday. You must be SO EXCITED!

Thought I'd come back and apologize for "crashing the thread" but also wanted to congratulate you on such a beautiful little one.

 

[wunderful78]

So cute prayerful I hope she gets to home with you this week

Hi to the new posters, I don't have any experience in the TAC I only have a TVC although I have never list a child or had a micro premi I can totally understand why a TAC would be your choice , the statistics of their success is very high! People may say its over the top treatment but don't listen because they aren't the ones losing a baby or having a micro premi ! I strongly encourage you to make choices you are comfortable with!

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