Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[karenh24]

hi i am in the UK and haven't had a stitch just close monitoring, my last loss they weren't sure if it was because i had a really bad uti or my cervix

 

[TLM21]

hello everyone hope everybody is doing ok.
happy belated mothers day to all of you in UK
@agi my back pain subsided thank God, the Dr gave me something for gas after I told himthat I told him I thought it was trapped wind, and felt better. it was awful pain. everything else is ok, few days of 28 w, can't wait...
congratulations to you on amazing 36 weeks!
@ich J looks fantastic, so adorable, enjoy him hun
@sweet congrats on v day, and much further, you'll see
@day 26 weeks is awesome, keep baking the twins, so happy for you
@wunderful look at you, after the hospital stay time seems to be moving, 36 w here you come
@hope congratulations on beating the ods and also on being 34+ weeks
@chocolat glad you had a good day, and can celebrate mothers day, I think we become a mom the day we concieve... but I know no one else can see it... keep banking your baby , oh and we also become mothers to our wonderful nieces and nephews.
@tink you are also amazing off of bed rest, I dream of that day, lol
@MA thanks for your support for everyone, hope all goes well
@twinkle the poem was beautiful! about packing I'm with you, no idea, to be, honest I don't even know what to pack, but I guess I will start next week. I think I have to send mom or husband to get a few things
@Karen welcome, keep resting and drinking lots of water. get a 2nd opinion if you need to. have them closely monitor the CL. some ladies here have made it all the way without a stitch, but I believe they were resting. hang in there hun
@craigswife congratulations on getting to the 20s, 24 is close by!
all of your comments about possibly getting pregnant again made me smile, I would love to have 2 kids, not sure my husband can go through it again though. he's not used to seeing me in bed unable to do all the things we women do so we'll see once the baby is born and we get adjusted to our new and awesome life.
also made the comments about MIL made me laugh, I'm pretty lucky with mine so good luck to everyone.
hope everyone else is doing ok and baking all those wunderful babies.
XO

 

[DAYDAY24]

Thanks tlm2 yay we are two weeks apart have someone to experiance this with since everyone else seem to be in 30s or below

 

[TLM21]

@day we'll be counting together , I'm not sure if you already said, but are you out of the hospital?

 

[DAYDAY24]

No my doc said prob at 28 weeks if remain stable

 

[xGracex]

Hi everyone I really need some advice. I posted on here a while ago, but really haven't said much since although I have been following this constantly. I'm really not much of a talker unless I am really worried about something, but I would really like to try and be more involved so maybe some of my worries can be eased.

I recently lost a baby at 23 weeks due to IC. My current doctor I have now(not the same doctor I have previously) agrees that it was more than likely because of IC. So he is referring me to a high risk clinic where he said they will decide if I need a cerclage or not. I will be 16+1 when I have a booking appointment in this high risk clinic where they will asses me and decide if they want to give me a cerclage or not.

I am convinced a cerclage will help me so I will definitely be pushing to have one, but will 16+ some days really late to be getting one?

I don't think I could handle what happened before to happen again so I really want everything to be done right. My doctor(not the high risk one) said he will be monitoring me though before I go just in case my cervix does change before.

I am just going to be in constant worry until the appointment. I wish I could just have some answers on for sure if they are going to give me the stitch or not. I am so impatient.

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Grace the latest I've heard a cerclage being put in is like 21-22 weeks or there about so your good. The thing is though you want a cerclage early while you have cervix left

 

[Twinkle 3]

Hi grace i totally understand about your worry. i was the same when i was your gestation. i still worry hugely now aswel. i lost my little boy at 22weeks and i was 100% sure in this pregnancy i was going to have a cerclage..i told the hospital thats what i was having and didnt want the monitoring.

i was panicky until i had the stitch put in place. 16weeks isnt too late for the stitch to be put in. especially if you are being monitored before. but if your 100% sure you would prefer the stitch rather than waiting and being monitered then cant you ask for the stitch to be put in place asap? i would ask the hospital and explain you are worried

ill just add i had my stitch put in at 14weeks

 

[Agiboma]

@grace 16 weeks is just fine for a stitch some hospitals will do them up to 24 weeks.

 

[Twinkle 3]

also when i was first pregnant the hospital gave me a date to see a high risk doctor but i felt it was too long of a wait and i rang the hospital and explained i didnt want to wait such a long time as i knew i wanted a stitch and i wanted it asap. i spent days on the phone and even changed hospitals just to ensure i got the stitch when i wanted so dont be afraid to ask for it sooner of thats what you want

 

[TLM21]

@day well 2 more weeks til out of the hospital and many more at home
the good thing is that they can monitor you constantly, for me is sometimes hard as husband works, a mom and friends so I have to depend on if they have time or not... I'm trying to not be super demanding but don't want to do anything I'm not supposed to...
@Grace how often are you seeing your ob now? have you tried to explain to your ob, and maybe Dr to Dr you can get an earlier appointment, everyone is different so you probably won't have an issue waiting, but just in case... meanwhile just get lots of rest and don't lift anything heavy.

 

[Twinkle 3]

My baby is kicking really low down, it feels really really low like basically kicking my stitch. Is this a cause for concern? It just feels like a strange sensation. I'm hoping he moves up soon and kicks somewhere else

 

[sweetbuthyper]

Twinkle its no cause for concern bean was kicking low ( painfully low) into my cervix for weeks, hes just moved up now at 24 weeks altho still kicks low sometimes. hope you lo spins round soon but its nothing to worry about.

 

[Twinkle 3]

Thanks sweet its so scary it feels like he's trying to escape as it feels low like hes in my lady bits!! But hopefully he is still tucked up in my uterus lol. I hope he moves up soon

 

[xGracex]

thank you to all of you. I feel more at ease now hearing it from people who have experience with this. I try to stay away from google because all it does is make me worry!

I have a doctors appointment this week thursday so I will probably express my concerns then. I am not sure how often I will be seeing my doctor yet but I'm sure I will find this out on thursday.

I have so much more things to ask my doctor this time around than last time. Last pregnancy was so much simpler in the early stages than this time around!

 

[sweetbuthyper]

Twinkle you lo will be still in your uterus , just will be kicking the top end of you cervix and causing it to feel lower, my lo kicked low for weeks as i said he still kicks low occassionally he seems to fine being breech comfy, i keep telling him not to get used to it lol, hope yours moves round a bit for a while for you but as i said low is normal from what i've read they don't tend to move higher til 24/25 weeks when they have more space.

 

[sweetbuthyper]

Grace, welcome ( i know i'm late in saying it i'm rubbish lol), i had the wait and see approach and had no cervix changes til 19 weeks and had the stitch put in the next day, 16 weeks should be find for placing preventitives here in the uk are typically put in between 14-16 weeks, hope you get answers from your doctors later in the week tho.

 

[Twinkle 3]

Oh god it so scary isn't it! I havnt a clue what he's doing today but hes havin the biggest wriggle imaginable..This is the lowest he's ever kicked. Thinking of standing on my head some moves lol. I hope he moves up like you said sweet and nope you don't want a breech baby

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi there Grace,

Twinkle is right. While 16wks is okay, if IC is what you have you'll want to have the cerclage around 14 wks. I had my at 17 wks with my daughter and that was because I MADE them monitor me because they weren't convinced I had IC still.

The good news is it sounds like you have a Dr. who is on your side. THAT is a HUGE plus. Next, the fact that he's monitoring you is GREAT. If there is any question your length is fluctuating or deminishing, it will be found with weekly monitoring. Finally, I too would call and ask for the date to be at 14 wks. Maybe call the high risk office themself and ask to be put on a list if anyone cancels during any days those weeks starting wk 14. The sooner the better.

In the meantime, take it easy. If you can, stay on bed rest. Drink lots of water and please don't lift anything too heavy. I think right now your at a good place so while the worry is there, the advocacy step your taking is in your best interest and your doing EXCELLENT.

When I lost my son, once we were pregnant with my daughter all politeness went out the door. I demanded to be monitored, when they told me what I didn't want to hear I went for a second or third opinion, finally if I didn't want anything put up there...I'd say no! So you know your body. Don't be afraid to be politely FIRM and don't be afraid to say NO!

Welcome to the board. At the moment I'm a lurker again but I have been in this room and I hope to be in the upcoming months. I'm having fertility treatment.

You other ladies with the mother-in-laws. Holy Cats! I know they may be trying to help but that's not input I'd want. Luckily my mother in law already knows the hardships we've been through. She knows we are in a place she has never been. My parents on the other hand...((SIGH)). Nough said.

Love and hugs to you all. I'm SO excited about all the babies that will be coming.

AFM: Had my iui. Went well though I felt sick and had a terrible migraine. Only time will tell. This thread isn't about IUI so I'll keep it at that.

 

[lizziedripping]

Hi ladies, how is everyone? MA - I do hope your IUI is a success. How many mature follies did you have in the end? Xx