Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[Agiboma]

Happy Mothers day to all celebrating it today, even though im in Canada, us North American got to wait till May, but everyone else have a great day.

 

[Hope2302]

Happy Mother's Day to the Uk moms and all other moms everywhere. You all do an amazing job fighting you kids corner, nurturing, teaching, loving and working 24, 7 both at home and at work to better your families. Enjoy.x

 

[Hope2302]

Oh and still being pregnant is the best Mother's Day present I could have wished for. 34 weeks is a massive milestone for me. 13 weeks ago when I learnt about having IC, I was a wreck, my husband was helpless as he was thinking we might not reach viability and if we do doing NICU for 3 months will be heartbreaking a second time. The doctor who put my stitch entered the results of my cervical length and how much funnelled I was, dilation and also my previous history of having a 24 weeker on their system which in turn delivers a result of how further my pregnancy could go on for. The results were 72% of getting to 24 weeks, 58% of getting to 28 weeks, 95% of not getting to 34 weeks and a 99% chance of not getting to 37 weeks. I remember seeing those results and my heart sank. 34 weeks was going to be major and I was going to get there and I am. I have to say I couldn't have done this without holding strong to my faith. Indeed God is surely out there looking out for me.
Can I just encourage anyone who isn't sure of a good outcome. Pls keep your eyes on the prize which is a healthy baby. Do your bit and leave the rest and hope that everything turns out fine. 37 weeks, here I come.

 

[chocolatecat]

Happy mother's day everyone.

Bit weird for me, as I think about Quinn a lot, as he was my son, but I don't think I'm a mummy yet. Trying not to get upset about it. Gonna focus on my mum, who has been doing so well since we lost my dad, but she needs some tlc today.

Had my weekly scan and all looks fine: ) I don't want to jinx things but have been wondering this for weeks, did any of you with an elective stitch NOT funnel or shorten? I'm pleased Im not so far, but worry that my uterus size caused ptl last time....any thoughts?????

also my Dr is gonna give me steroids at 23+6 she thinks they'll help for around 6 weeks. And were silly to worry about not being able to use a second dose at 30 ,weeks as getting that far would be an achievement. I checked Medscape and though prophylactic steroids aren't recommended without ptl symptoms I'm going to have them. It does say that a second dose can be given if labour starts over 7 days later.
Everything my Dr is doing is off the books now, were basing my care on what our research shows is best (including what you guys say) and what feels right. We've got to the stage where we hug each week. She's awesome!!!

 

[Twinkle 3]

Chocolate cat it's so upsetting reading that you don't feel like a mummy yet. You are a mummy and your little boy will be looking down on you today sending you lots of little baby angel kisses. I know my little boy will be up in heaven watching over me today aswel all of us who have been unlucky enough to have lost a child are lucky enough to have a little baby angel waiting for us, when I went to church the lady said to me "don't worry as when you get into heaven you will be one of the lucky mummy's to have a baby in heaven waiting for you"
this comforted me a lot. Even though I don't want to be in heaven just yet.


Being a mummy to angel is as good as being a mummy to a child on earth. Its hard as their not here with you and your heart aches for them everyday, it feels strange as they are meant to be here but you are still a mummy, and I'm sure your the best one that little Quinn could ask for

Also I'm so happy your cervix is holding stung. My consultant is also giving me steroids as a precaution but at 24weeks, I can't wait to have them x

 

[Twinkle 3]

For you chocolate cat

*What Makes a Mother

I thought of you and closed my eyes.
And prayed to God today.
I asked what makes a mother and
I know I heard him say,

A mother has a baby.
This we know is true.
But God, can you be a mother
when your baby's not with you?

Yes, you can, He replied
with confidence in His voice.
I give many women babies.
When they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime
and others for a day.
And some I send to feel your womb
but there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this. God,
I want my baby here.
He took a breath and cleared His throat
and then I saw a tear.

I wish I could show you
what your child is doing today.
If you could see your child smile
with other children and say,

"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of life and love and fear.
My Mommy loved me, Oh so much,
I got to come straight here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mom
who had so much love for me,
I learned my lesson very quickly.
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy, Oh so much,
but I visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep,
on her pillow's where I lay.

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
and whisper in her ear,
'Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'"

So you see, my dear sweet one,
your children are okay.
Your babies are here in MY home
and this is where they'll stay.

They'll wait for you with ME
until your lesson is through.
And on the day that you come home,
they'll be at the gates for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother—
It's the feeling in your heart.
It's the love you had so much of,
right from the very start.

Though some on earth may not realize you are a Mother,
until their time is done.
They'll be up here with ME one day,
and know you're the best one.
~Jennifer Wasik~

 

[Tink_0123]

Happy Mother's Day to those mommies celebrating today!!!

Twinkle, that poem brought tears to my eyes. Very lovely!
I hope you're feeling better these days.

 

[Tink_0123]

Hope, Congrats on reaching 34 weeks!! only 3 to go till u reach term, I'm so happy for you

Agi, just 16 more days till u meet ur little princess. Yippeeee

LoveSeel and DayDay, how are those twins doing??

Hope all you ladies are doing well and still cooking those beautiful babies.

AFM, I went to dinner last night with DH and my mom to celebrate reaching 36 weeks and getting off bed rest. I'm still taking it easy tho, I really want to reach 37 weeks.
Audrey seems to have found where ever my cervix is in the middle. She used to push down before but it would be on the sides close to my cervix, well holy crap it seems she struck gold lol. whether I'm laying in bed or sitting down she pushes her head down right smack in the middle and the pain I feel although momentarily is quite unexplainable. Today DH and I are going to MIL's house to spend some family time. They live about 45 minutes from our house, I'll be taking my pillows to lay down in the car on the way there.

Regarding the nipple shields, I bought some but have no clue how to use them, hopefully the nurses at the hospital will show me lol

Hope you ladies have a wonderful Sunday along with your loved ones.

 

[Agiboma]

@HOPE your post brought tears to my eyes, cause i know all too well where you are coming from. I didnt get those exact figures you did but i was told ill be lucky to get to 34 weeks and 28 weeks was our goal. I thought to myself if i get to 24 weeks without problems, then ill be happy. I spoke to g-d when i first learnt i got pregnant and said i cannot do 3 months in NICU again, nor can i take hospital bedrest etc. I knew the only way i was gonna make it to term was by g-d's grace. I too have held firm to this beleif letting g-d know i put everything in his hands, you know their is something very humbling when you submit, mind, body and soul to a higher power. In a few days hopefully ill be term and its so much more than i could ever imagine being the mommy of a 25 weeker.

 

[Craigswife]

HOPE, what an amazing story, beating all the odds, well done making it to 34wks! My story isn't quite as remarkable as yours, but in my first pregnancy I began to funnel at 23 weeks, I was told the worse by doctors and to prepare to give birth, which we knew meant no chance of survival. I prayed to hang on to 24 weeks, I had no stitch, no progesterone and my dr said there wasn't anything he could do apart from putting me on bed rest, which I did of course, they still didn't hold out much hope for me. However, I amazed doctors and held onto my little one to 28+3wks another 5 weeks on. He was very poorly to begin with, but again defied doctors and was out of NICU in only 7 weeks. He's now an absolute treasure and is celebrating his 4th birthday today, he's my world and more. I'm so blessed to have him.
I'm just praying that with an elective stitch and progesterone this time I can get his little brother or sister here safely.

 

[Hope2302]

@ chocolatecat, you still are a mom and a mom to be. And so you shouldn't feel like you aren't just yet. I am sure your angel baby is celebrating you like you deserve to be and I am hoping that in a few months time you will be carrying a new baby and looking forward to being celebrated every Mother's Day.
@ twinkle, that was a lovely poem.x
@ tink, thank u Hun and I hope you had fun with your family.
@ agi, glad u are almost term. I guess when you haven't got nowhere to turn and doctors, and you have done your best, if you believe in a higher power u just hold on and hope for the best and pray that he is watching out for you.

 

[Hope2302]

HOPE, what an amazing story, beating all the odds, well done making it to 34wks! My story isn't quite as remarkable as yours, but in my first pregnancy I began to funnel at 23 weeks, I was told the worse by doctors and to prepare to give birth, which we knew meant no chance of survival. I prayed to hang on to 24 weeks, I had no stitch, no progesterone and my dr said there wasn't anything he could do apart from putting me on bed rest, which I did of course, they still didn't hold out much hope for me. However, I amazed doctors and held onto my little one to 28+3wks another 5 weeks on. He was very poorly to begin with, but again defied doctors and was out of NICU in only 7 weeks. He's now an absolute treasure and is celebrating his 4th birthday today, he's my world and more. I'm so blessed to have him.
I'm just praying that with an elective stitch and progesterone this time I can get his little brother or sister here safely.

It is always good to hear of another positive story and I am glad to know your boy is doing great. All kids are amazing but preemie kids are precious as when you see them do things that the doctors say might not happen, your perspective tends to change that really impossible is nothing. All the best with this pregnancy and praying your baby comes home with you.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

@Chocolatecat, I too have been there. In fact, my Doula had me write Amelia a letter before we knew whether she was a boy or girl. I just was afraid to let myself feel for her. I was scared AND I missed Jackson Jeffrey something terrible. I too wondered if I was still a mommy.

What keeps me going is that our children are NOT dead. Yes, they're bodies are separated from us but they are very much alive in heaven. We are walking toward them. THEY Are the ones waiting for us at Home. Life here on earth is temporary. Heaven is eternal. So I like to think that my son is running in the garden with Jesus waiting for me. If he can't be with me, I at least know He's safe.

You ARE a mommy. You were with your little one that passed and you ARE now with the little miracle who will be here on earth with you. Congrats for making it this far. It IS to be celebrated. Take one day at a time. There will be times that you hit milestones with your little one now that you'll look back and wonder what it would have been like with your other one. I've had it. I still miss him terribly, but I know we'll be reunited one day. He's not behind me, he's in my future.

Happy Mother's Day! Love to you all.

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Hope you go Hun!!! Super proud of you! Carry bubba for me lol.
Agiboma , you make me want a TAC!

Ok ladies I don't know why, call me crazy but I miss my bump... I think I truly want another :/ . I want my little boy lol. I love love love my girls I do but something is missing. I think our family needs a third child. Haha! My husband would call me crazy if he read this. He wants a lot of kids " but changed his mind" after this last experience. I have a huge fibroid that needs to be removed and my Ob said I can get it removed in six months to a year. I guess Mr and I will talk about it after the surgery.
I know I'm crazy, talk about me :/
I figured since I know what I have now ( IC) we can do a preventative cerclage or a TAC I my Ob will do one.
Question to anyone who has had more than 2 c sections.. What risks did your dr tell you were affiliated? How long did you wait in between babies?

( maybe I'm just having a moment)

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Pardon my manners. I didn't know that it was Mother's Day in other places!

HAPPY MOTHERS day!!!

 

[ShelbyLC]

Prayerful - I desperately wanted another as well for the first little while after the girls were born. Once they came home, that feeling went away. I think, for me, the urge to have another came along with the feeling of missing something (my babies).

Happy Mother's Day to all the UK ladies. I played a trick on my OH this morning. As soon as we woke up, I happily told him, "It's Mother's Day!" He got really worried for a minute until I added, "...in the UK!"

 

[Agiboma]

@prayerful I understand the need to have another and missing your bump, when LO was in NICU i could hardly stand the sight of a full term pregnant woman, yes i know its an aweful thing to say and feel but i was so jealous and felt so cheated that i never got a very big bump and my LO did not get the comfort of being carried to term. I wanted more kids for sure i always knew that i would have another once i got the courage to get pregnant again. In regards to the TAC i think their is not prolem in getting it with two prior c-sections mine was done laproscopically so minimal cutting was done and it was not so invasive. I knew the TAC would give me the best chance as I an not a good candiddate for tvc, your DR may try to persuade you that tvc is easier to manage etc, but its not the right thing for you imo. I know for cultural reasons male children are often needed and you should go for it with a TAC in tow. But once you are ready and fully healed. I waited 2 years before i got pregnant with this baby after my last csection. My dr said minimum 12-18 months.

 

[karenh24]

Hi everyone need your advice, a bit of background info about me, i lost my little boy at 22 weeks 5 days most likely cause IC.
im now 14 weeks pregnant for the past 2 days everytime i get up from a sitting or lying down position i feel a slight pain like theres something on my cervix like a weight (obviously i know babys in there) is this normal or should i be worried?

 

[Twinkle 3]

Hi Karen have u got a cervical stitch in? Or being monitored for changes in your cervix ?sorry about your loss I also lost a little boy at 22weeks

 

[karenh24]

Hi twinkle, no stitch had my cervix checked at my dating scan and next scan will be at 16 weeks, it could just be me being paranoid i get worried easily this pregnancy makes me nervous, ive had stretching pains today as well so could just be my body adjusting