Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[Twinkle 3]

thankyou lizzie. i cant wait until thursday for my scan and to see my consultant. i want to know if my cervix is holding up x

 

[Agiboma]

I was just sitting here thinking about how us IC ladies go through our pregnancies in a state of constant fear, and with good reason I may add. I just wanted to say at least take some time in the day to enjoy your pregnancy and the life growing within you. I certainly was detached from my pregnancy and lived in constant fear of one thing or another every pain or sensation had me worrying.

Now im at the end of the road i regret not taking more time to enjoy my baby and the experience of carrying her. I hope some of you ladies will do just that take time out even if its only 10 min a day to appreciate the good work your body is doing. Keep those babies baking!!!!

 

[Craigswife]

Abi, that is so true, I definately need to spend more time bonding with my bump. Im sure Im the same as you and the other IC ladies, too scared to bond too much with it in case something goes wrong, I suppose its your minds way of protecting yourself.
Im too scared to buy anything or talk about names for fear of 'jinxing' the pregnancy. I have days where I feel quite positive (but quietly so) and days that I worry about every niggle, ache or most recently orgasms, lol!!!

My husband is a real organised person and has made a start on the babys room, but I just cant get involved at all through fear! I really want to be excited and choose curtains etc, but have told myself once we are past 24 weeks I can begin to think about it then!

When I was pregnant with my son I made a lovely cross stitch which I embriodered and added his name on etc while I would be sat resting. Its lovely and I was really pleased with it, it now sits on his shelf in his bedroom. I really want to do one for this baby too, but too scared to order the pattern in case I jinx it, my husband thinks im being silly, which I probably am. If I dont get on with it, it'll never get done at this rate!!

Sorry if this is TMI, but Im still worrying myself about orgasms and my husband cuddling me etc is not helping me!! Ive had a couple of night time orgasms and one accidental one with my husband, whoops! We've completely avoided everything internal, as we were told it is an increased risk of infection with my stitch in. I worry if he slightly turns me on that it will cause my cervix to change or unstable my uterus, probably all daft worries but with IC I seem to lose all rationality!! He is on a complete ban from me from now on!!! Not worth the risk or the worry, lol!! If he's not careful he'll be the one moving into the baby's room, lol!

However, I feel absoultley fine and bump is good, very wriggly, which is so reassuring! This pregnancy is so hard emotionally! When I went in for my stitch 6 weeks ago I really thought Id fine once the stitch was in and the worrying would stop, little did I know!!

Its lovely having such a supportive thread here and people who understand. Hope everyone else and their bumps are well. xxxx

 

[chocolatecat]

Craigswife - I really think you should get your sampler. In fact I was going to suggest a craft to @twinkle.
I like to crochet and sew (on the machine, not by hand, hate that!) - I've been making little things for her. I find crochet very therapeautic (once there's something good on netflix). What ever happens to her I want her to have a few thing of her own that I've made with her in mind. that's why I think a sampler would be good for you craigswife. Hopefully you'll have a lovely happy ending, but if the worst happens, you'll want to feel that you treated your baby with the love she deserves.
It's also covers the 'bonding with your baby' for ten mins a day bit.

Scrapbooking is another idea, perhaps your story as a couple moving through your life together, then you have the addition of your baby pages to look forward to adding later.

Hugs to all xxx

 

[Twinkle 3]

Agi, that is what I have been thinking. I try to enjoy my pregnancy and I want to make it a good and positive experience which it should be. I don't want to regret not enjoying my pregnancy worrying so much but I think it's so hard not to. I think if i do ever start reaching goals, like 24,28 and stitch Removal then I will grow more confident and enjoy my pregnancy more.

I feel the way you do at the minute CW. I thought after my stitch placement I could stop worrying but I have infact worried more! I daren't buy anything for my baby until I reach atleast 24weeks. I'm waiting till I am atleast 30weeks to go and buy a pram. I'm terrified of jinxing things like you said. I wish I could have a normal pregnancy where I could buy things and dream of life with a newborn.
I find myself fantasising what life will be like when he's here but then I have to stop myself as I will only be more disappointed if nothing goes to plan and my hopes and dreams will be shattered.

I have thought of a name though. that's about it as I know whatever happens he will need a name.

Fingers crossed though I hope every lady on here makes it to term, we all deserve a healthy baby at the end of it.

I call this pregnancy my marathon, I'm at the half way mark, I'm achey and trying my best to get to the finish line

 

[Twinkle 3]

Also CW you will have to do what I do, stick a pillow or two between you and your husband lol

 

[DAYDAY24]

doc checking me today to see if i can go home. she will be checking making sure cervix is still close kinda nervous plus it is usually painful.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Praying for Great News DAYDAY!


Chocolate, I'm on the suppositories. I don't mind them so much. Do you know where you read about the suppositories being better than the Injectables? I've read data the other way around when I was pregnant with Amelia I got the 17P. I had round welts the size of golf balls the whole time where the oil pilled. It didn't fully get out of my system until this past Christmas and I blame the injectables for the reason I ended up with PUPPS POST c-section. I had it for 2 months and it was HORRIFYING!

If what you say is true, I'd rather be on the suppositories like I am right now. While I DO have nausea something awful, It's not as bad as the injections daily. My only question is whether it would cause issues with my chronic yeast infections and BV that I seem to get during pregnancy?? Would it also be an issue with a stitch too?

Hi Agi...Testing is next Monday. I'm not all that sure the outcome. I hyperstimmed which they say is good but most people I know said they didn't get pregnant on those cycles. We'll see. I'm not going to be a debbie downer. Better to be positive.

Love and hugs to you all.

 

[shanny]

I think we always worry...I have been through this journey before and I still worry, obsess about each twitch and wee and the current spate of weariness (I think its aneamia) but Ido try and enjoy it too. Especially now it moves. Although that is my big fear nearer the end, the not moving and not knowing something is wrong (guilty hang ups from my loss). Until it is here in my arms this preganacy tight rope walk coninues..............

 

[chocolatecat]

MA - here's the paper (lots of useful info)
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3267524/
(I work in medical research, so it make sense to me - let me know if there's bits that don't make sense!)

Mostly they say natural (eg pessary PG is similar to injected P17) but this bit caught my eye. if they're both equally good at preventing PTL then why not just give vaginal??

Natural progesterone has documented properties of inhibiting uterine contractions [85,98,100], whereas 17-OHP-C seems to have no effect on uterine contractions [85,99]. In addition, natural progesterone has an established safety profile in the first trimester of pregnancy from more than 11 years of continued and ongoing use in infertility as daily progesterone supplementation and replacement in IVF cycles [101]. Furthermore, in a recent very large preterm birth prevention study of singleton pregnancies, no cases of miscarriage associated with the use of micronized natural progesterone were observed [102]. On the other hand, 17-OHP-C is associated with an increase in resorption (miscarriage) in pregnant rats [96], total embryo-lethality in pregnant rhesus monkeys [103], a signal for a 30% increase in miscarriage in a meta-analysis of 17-OHP-C clinical studies [81], as well as an imbalance in miscarriage associated with 17-OHP-C in the largest placebo controlled randomized trial published to date [83]. In a study by Rebarber et al. [104], patients who received prophylactic treatment with 17-OHP-C had a higher incidence of gestational diabetes (odds ratio 2.9 [95% CI: 2.1-4.1]) than those who were not treated. The latter study suggests that treatment with 17-OHP-C may be associated also with increased maternal morbidity that is an additional safety flag.

 

[DAYDAY24]

Home tomorrow yay no change

 

[sweetbuthyper]

@ day thats great news
@ma i am on suppositories but rectally instead of vaginally as my consultant was worried about infection ( least i believe thats the reason)

afm i had contractions last night but belive they were braxton hicks, irregular crampy rather than painful and only lasting 30 seconds they died off after an hour so decided to sleep rather that go to the hospital. Hoping i did the right thing but didn't want to rush up there for nothing and if it has changed my cervix theres nothing they can do about it do why worry.

hope everyone is well.

 

[Agiboma]

@day that is wonderful news, will be nice to sleep in your own bed again with cuddles from DH YEAH!!!!!

 

[Tink_0123]

Day, great news that you're going home. Congrats on 27 weeks !!

Agi, just one more week till u meet ur princess, so happy for you!!

Prayer, hope both you and Missy are doing well

Hope everyone us doing well, keep those babies cooking.

 

[DAYDAY24]

Thanks everybody

 

[Agiboma]

@tink also anytime now for you also
@prayerful how is Missy doing?
@hope how are you doing hun, i find the time flew by once i got to 35 weeks, hopefully its the same for you ooo

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

MA - here's the paper (lots of useful info)
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3267524/
(I work in medical research, so it make sense to me - let me know if there's bits that don't make sense!)

Mostly they say natural (eg pessary PG is similar to injected P17) but this bit caught my eye. if they're both equally good at preventing PTL then why not just give vaginal??

Natural progesterone has documented properties of inhibiting uterine contractions [85,98,100], whereas 17-OHP-C seems to have no effect on uterine contractions [85,99]. In addition, natural progesterone has an established safety profile in the first trimester of pregnancy from more than 11 years of continued and ongoing use in infertility as daily progesterone supplementation and replacement in IVF cycles [101]. Furthermore, in a recent very large preterm birth prevention study of singleton pregnancies, no cases of miscarriage associated with the use of micronized natural progesterone were observed [102]. On the other hand, 17-OHP-C is associated with an increase in resorption (miscarriage) in pregnant rats [96], total embryo-lethality in pregnant rhesus monkeys [103], a signal for a 30% increase in miscarriage in a meta-analysis of 17-OHP-C clinical studies [81], as well as an imbalance in miscarriage associated with 17-OHP-C in the largest placebo controlled randomized trial published to date [83]. In a study by Rebarber et al. [104], patients who received prophylactic treatment with 17-OHP-C had a higher incidence of gestational diabetes (odds ratio 2.9 [95% CI: 2.1-4.1]) than those who were not treated. The latter study suggests that treatment with 17-OHP-C may be associated also with increased maternal morbidity that is an additional safety flag.

Day, great news that you're going home. Congrats on 27 weeks !!

Agi, just one more week till u meet ur princess, so happy for you!!

Prayer, hope both you and Missy are doing well

Hope everyone us doing well, keep those babies cooking.

Hey tink. Missy is good. They have her on a five day Brady watch to make sure she doesn't have any more spells. I'm so over this. Every dr has a different theory. Hoping she comes home soon. When I'm here she is fine with no problems. I stayed over night and it was great. I didn't mind the waking up at all! it's impossible to stay for 5 more nights though and leaving my 7 yr old. I will be back bright and early though
Tink! Aren't you overdue! Lol let the countdown begin. Do a cartwheel when your ticker hits 7 days

 

[Tink_0123]

For the first time in my entire pregnancy I'm feeling pressure. She's been pushing her head down for the past couple of weeks (which is painful btw), I suppose trying to engage or what not. But just a few minutes ago while washing the dishes I felt a huge amount of pressure like she was gonna fall out, even sat down and still felt it. I wonder if its the start of something.

 

[Agiboma]

@tink hopefully its the start of something for you
@prayerful yes i know what you mean about every DR having their opinion on the desats, just know that when she comes home your mind will be at ease, that was my only comfort when we had discharge delays. TBH i suspect its reflux, sounds like about the time it usually appears, have any DR mentioned it to you. After they confirmed reflux with my son they started hum on meds and that cured teh problem. I hope it sorts itself out soon for you hun.

 

[Tink_0123]

Agi, yep, any day now, I'm excited and very anxious to meet this little girl who's been turning my world upside down for so many months hehe.

Prayer, hopefully she doesn't have anymore brady spells, so she can finally go home.

Apparently, in the IC world i'm a bit overdue lol. I've been going to the mall and supermarket, walking bits, not overdoing it, and nothing yet. Except for the pressure I just felt, I wrote about in my previous post. I'm not in a huge rush tho, I want her to come when she feels ready, so we'll see when that is.

oh funny thing! DH is beyond nervous about the whole labor process, he sounds like he's the one that's gonna give birth to her rather than me. So he doesn't want me driving or going too far from the house bc he says if my water breaks i'll end up giving birth in the car. I know it can happen, but its not likely, but the way he puts it is pretty funny lol