Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[Twinkle 3]

Hi ladies I'm really upset today
Iv just been to see my consultant and had my scan, I ended up coming out crying

Last year at 20weeks pregnant I had a scan and my baby's head was so far down they couldn't do head measurements. I had to be rebooked in for another scan which I never made it to, I has backache stomach ache, pains in between my thighs. I felt as though my baby was coming and I was right. Only lasted 2 more weeks then my little boy was born at 22weeks...

Coming back to the present, I have been for my scan and my little boy is head down once again, so head down that no measurements could be taken and I have been rebooked to go back in 2weeks time! I have then seen a consultant, not my usual one as he's on holiday and iv told the consultant that I'm experiencing back ache, stomach ache and pains in between my thighs exactly the same as I was before my little boy came at 22weeks!

My consultant wasn't too helpful was very blunt and basically said if the baby is going to be born then there's nothing he can do, he won't do anything to help or prevent this as I have a stitch. He then gave me 3 options, option 1 was to go home and come back whenever I feel worse or if the pains don't go away (iv had these aches for 2weeks now!!!) iv got to ring delivery suite if I feel I need to be checked.... Option 2 was to have him examine me himself to see if baby was coming but my scan showed no funnelling and cervix closed, so I saw no point in this and option 3 was to be admitted to check on me....

So as you can see the consultant wasn't too helpful he didnt reassure me, he said with me feeling the same as last year my little one could be born soon and he said hopefully he won't be as I have a stitch but he tried reassuring menu saying next time they will give me a transabdominal stitch if this one dosnt work.. This really annoyed me as I want them to help me now not just let my little one come too early and say oh well you can try again

Any advice ??

 

[Hope2302]

I am so sorry twinkle that the scan couldn't measure baby's head and the doctor wasn't really helpful and sympathetic. The stitch being there should hold your baby and pls stay of your feet and lie down as much as you can. I am really praying that you get to 24 weeks and beyond. Hugs!

 

[sweetbuthyper]

Twinkle hunny try to stay calm,

first off teh fact there is no funneling and your cervix lenght is still good is great news, funneling would be seen before anything happened if its going to so none being present is a fantastic sign that the stitch is holding up fine, especially considering baby is pushing down on it.

I am having back pains occassionally and braxton hicks, and aches its part of pregnancy and not a sign anything is going wrong and i do understand that you are worried and why considering your history but they aren't things that are major concerns.

I understand where the consultant is coming from and why hes said there isn't anything they can do and thats because there isn't as hard as it is, they have done all they can placing the stitch there is no more that they can do.

Babys at 20 weeks still have plenty of space, just because hes head down this week doesn't necessarliy mean hes on his way just that hes got comfy there he could quiet possibly have moved by the time you have your next scan that i have every confidence you will make it to.

If you feel as tho you need to be doing more place your self on strict bed rest only up for quick showers and for toilet breaks at this point with no funneling it may be a tad extreme teh stitch is holding fine but if it makes you feel better do it.

hope you are ok x

 

[Twinkle 3]

Thanks hope I'm praying to get to 24weeks, I get my steroids then. I will do anything to make it another 4weeks I really hope I can. I need this little one to survive and I know it's down to me to help him stay in as the doctors arnt helping at all

 

[Twinkle 3]

Thanks sweet,I keep trying to reassure myself with the no funnelling and baby's still tucked up in there with a closed cervix im just scared how long the stitch can hold up... I think I was really hoping for reassurance from the consultant rather than the complete opposite, I felt myself ready to cry while he wa explaining things to me. I'm just so upset I want my little boy to make it and history feels like its going to repeat itself

 

[sweetbuthyper]

twinkle at the moment i would focus on the fact that at this minute there is nothing suggesting the stitch will fail at all, no funneling at all at 20 weeks is great even with stitch in place, it is possible it wil stay that way, they aren't even looking at mine i actually think its a good thing as i would only worry about it if it was being monitored.

i think today would have been emotionally hard for you no matter what, once you pass the 22 weeks its likely you will start to feel a little better.

 

[Hope2302]

@ faibel, pls don't give up. I have heard of a Dr Nick Wales from Chelsea and Westminster is an expert on cerclage and can be seen privately or you can be referred. Heard he is also really good at replying emails from ladies all over the uk. Pls get a second opinion especially in London were there are numerous experts. His email from the hospital website is [email protected]

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Twinkle so sorry follow your gut! I never experience labor pains but with this previous pregnancy I went into labor a week before my water broke. I was feeling vaginal pain, backache and cramping and labor and delivery turned me away. I should have fought. You should too.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi ladies I'm really upset today
Iv just been to see my consultant and had my scan, I ended up coming out crying

Last year at 20weeks pregnant I had a scan and my baby's head was so far down they couldn't do head measurements. I had to be rebooked in for another scan which I never made it to, I has backache stomach ache, pains in between my thighs. I felt as though my baby was coming and I was right. Only lasted 2 more weeks then my little boy was born at 22weeks...

Coming back to the present, I have been for my scan and my little boy is head down once again, so head down that no measurements could be taken and I have been rebooked to go back in 2weeks time! I have then seen a consultant, not my usual one as he's on holiday and iv told the consultant that I'm experiencing back ache, stomach ache and pains in between my thighs exactly the same as I was before my little boy came at 22weeks!

My consultant wasn't too helpful was very blunt and basically said if the baby is going to be born then there's nothing he can do, he won't do anything to help or prevent this as I have a stitch. He then gave me 3 options, option 1 was to go home and come back whenever I feel worse or if the pains don't go away (iv had these aches for 2weeks now!!!) iv got to ring delivery suite if I feel I need to be checked.... Option 2 was to have him examine me himself to see if baby was coming but my scan showed no funnelling and cervix closed, so I saw no point in this and option 3 was to be admitted to check on me....

So as you can see the consultant wasn't too helpful he didnt reassure me, he said with me feeling the same as last year my little one could be born soon and he said hopefully he won't be as I have a stitch but he tried reassuring menu saying next time they will give me a transabdominal stitch if this one dosnt work.. This really annoyed me as I want them to help me now not just let my little one come too early and say oh well you can try again

Any advice ??

What?? What a Jack@55! Well, there's no funneling and the cervix is still closed so that's a good sign. Aren't you on progesterone as well?? YOU know your body. If you need reassurance I'd have them admit you and watch you for awhile. I would be very careful about letting them do any kind of internal check if you feel this way but maybe the other ladies have other ideas for you.

So sorry for this scare. Praying for peace and that you get confirmation that everything is okay.

 

[Hope2302]

@ prayerful, that child of yours is gorgeous. See all that hair and those cheeks and its good to know she is doing well.
@ shelby, gorgeous T&B and chunky too if I must add
@ day, congrats you are home I am guessing. Nothing like familiar territory
@ agiboma, can't wait for your "this is it". Only a matter of days. Praying with you that all goes well with no complications or hitch whatsoever
@ tink, how is the tailbone? Bet you can't wait now. This IC babies have a way of getting comfy in there. I guess is when by all possible means they've been kept in, they just don't see a reason to come out even when they are free to. Lol
How are you other ladies doing? Wundaful, Tlm, lizzie, babymaybe, MA, sweet?

AFM, stitch removal in a matter of days. Baby is 3/5th engaged but I hear that could change and he could end up being free. I am sleeping for more than half of my day now. I try to post on here but end up sleeping in the process. I need to get my body back into active mode unless I'll be useless at pushing this baby out.. Lol.

 

[Agiboma]

@hope yeah for stitch removal so excited for you hun
@faibel please dont give up hun, its really pains me to hear what you are going through
@twinkle3 like the others said you are not funnelling so that is a good thing hun keep the faith the stitch will hold
@prayerful my goodness Missy is so sweet, glad to hear she is on her way home in a few days
how is everyone else doing?
AFM had another bp check today and its low so that is a good thing, lots of blood work done also, appearently my creatine levels are high hopefully they will return to normal after delivery. Next appointment is my csection on tuesday YEAHHHH. gonna enjoy the next few days with my son, until his little sister makes her appearence.

 

[Craigswife]

Twinkle, you poor thing, you want to be reassured by your ob not made to feel even worse! I agree with the other ladies, the fact they couldn't see any funnelling is a really positive sign. But having said that you know your body better than anyone. Why dont you contact your midwife tomorrow and have a chat with her, she might be able to get you a scan sooner. I was told at my 20wk scan last week that baby can flip around all the time and while she did my scan my little one had moved from head down to laying across my tummy. I bet by the time you walked out the hospital baby had moved. I would get your midwife to really push to see another doctor and repeat scan in the next few days, especially with your history.
I've been told do many times how good stitches are and they have an 85% success rate, but I know how hard it is being in the danger zone. I really feel for you xxx

 

[karenh24]

Hi twinkle i'd ask for another scan as well in a few days time if i was you but its a really good sign your not funneling i can understand you worrying and you have good reason to.im so paranoid i think every pain is my cervix doing something im really not enjoying pregnancy at all, im still vomiting and sometimes feel alot of pressure in my cervix while doing it, i have my 1st cervical scan next week and it couldn't come sooner

 

[Craigswife]

Twinkle, I just had another thought, a couple of weeks ago at a check up I mentioned I felt pressure and was uncomfortable, so they slotted me in for a quick scan there and then. So it shows it can be done, I think you need to create a bit of a fuss, they should be doing their best for you not having an "oh well" attitude.

 

[Tink_0123]

Twinkle, at ur stage babies move around and change positions a lot. Request another scan for a few days time. If cervix is closed and theres no funneling theres really no reason for concern at this time. I hope u feel better about everything hun

Prayer, Missy is gorgeous, love the chubby cheeks on her. Yay for coming home on Sunday

Afm, ob appt went ok. 3 cm dilated, so some progress made. Bp was a bit high twice so got sent to l&d for monitoring. Should my bp have remained high they would've induced me tomorrow; however, all my readings were fine while I was there and had growth scan too. Audrey weights about 7 lbs & has a ton of hair and is very engaged lol no wonder it hurts when she has hiccups.

Also, since hospital is a bit far and traffic is ridiculous to get there, dr scheduled an induction for 4/2 just to try and have a more controlled environment. But we'll see what happens next week otherwise i'm 12 days from meeting my little girl

 

[DAYDAY24]

So happy for you tink.the last couple days I think it has hit me that I will be mom to two in a couple months wow so nervous.

 

[Tink_0123]

So happy for you tink.the last couple days I think it has hit me that I will be mom to two in a couple months wow so nervous.

Yep, next thing u know u'll have those precious boys in ur arms.

 

[TLM21]

hello everyone
I'm doing ok, just have been feeling a bit achy down there, possibly uterus growing and baby's head being down as well.
super excited for agi, tink, hope a you ladies have done a great job so far.
agi 5 days hun, awesome!
tink any day now, love it!
hope yeeeee for stitch removal! closer by the minute
day finally home and almost 28 weeks, you must be so happy!
MA hope everything goes well with treatment!
shelby girls are so gorgeous, so healthy!
prayer I'm glad you finally get to take Missy home. she is beautiful
ich bet you are busy with Jonathan
twinkle hun Im sorry you are dealing with all that. just wanted you to know that at week 20 is was funneling, and cervix had gone from 3.4 to 2. needless is to say that I was freaking out! oh and baby's head has been down pressuring for quite some time, but my stitches are holding up, and I'm 29 + 1 now. I did put myself on sbr since week 20, Dr thinks I am on modified. that said if you have strong pains and you think they.should keep you in the hospital for monitoring, then do it. sometimes it's ok to make them pay more attention to you.
hugs to everyone,.

 

[TLM21]

wunderful you are you doing?
baby I'm glad Ruben is doing well now
sweet almost 26 weeks, for me time moved a slightly faster after that
cw love your positive outlook, the first time I told them I had pressure even when laying down, my ob also did a quick check up, which help my sanity a little, lol
faibel as the ladies said keep searching for the Dr that will put the stitch, I can imagine it being very frustrating, hang in there hun
karenh next week for the big scan, good luck. I know exactly what you mean about not enjoying your pregnancy. my favorite is when people say you should relax.and enjoy your pregnancy.... really. I feel like saying something nasty, but I just smile and nod....lol

again sending everyone positive vibes and

 

[sweetbuthyper]

hi all i'm doing really well have energy again now so am able to move around a bit more within reason or i get pain!, babys kicks are really strong now makes my tummy wobble , tlm i've been fairly calm since 24 weeks that was my main goal i was clinging to needing to be past that point now i'm passed i'm more relaxed and more active altho i get pain if i do to much. had no pressure or anything did have a contraction scare but monitored before i rang the hospital and they were irregular and stopped within an hour so pretty sure they were braxton hicks and only painful because i had already pulled my ligaments that day.

next goal is 28 weeks but time seems to be moving quiet quickly and we have started buying stuff and preping for his arrival altho he still has no name , my friends neice had her little one yesterday 29 weeker but weighing 2lb 13 so good weight on him, she only had half a uterus tho and so the hospital are happy she got to that point as they had never dealt with it before.

All in i'm doing great altho my iron levels have dropped again i think coz i'm craving steak