Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[jadey_fae]

Morning ladies. How is everyone today?

Monroe - I would say at least a couple of weeks but I was advised not 2 at all to avoid irritating the cervix further. If u do use a condom to avoid any kind of infection. If u look online though the general advice is a week. Just listen to ur body and do what feels right for you.

Can anyone with a stitch tell me if their first bowel movement after was ok? I need to go but am so scared. Am I being stupid?

My vagina area doesn't feel as sore today but when I woke up my whole upper body (esp upper chest, jaw and neck) really aches and hurts when I move, chew or take a deep breath. I am assuming this is to do with the muscle relaxer in the general anaesthetic? Anyone else experience this?

Keep looking at my ticker....24 weeks seems so far away.....

 

[Craigswife]

Hope, congratulations, looking forward to seeing pics!

Monroe, my ob said we could resume sex when i saw her at 20wks, she said orgasm has no effect on the cervix. However we're really cautious, we have 'bedroom' fun as I seem to have a really high sex drive with this pregnancy, lol' I'm too nervous to let hubbie inside as i worry about infection and him nudging the stitch, id also heard semen softens the cervix, not sure how true this is??? I limit the orgasms, just in case and I find any type of 'bedroom fun' gives me braxton hicks, which makes me nervous! I think in terms of sex the guidelines are different for everyone depending on their circumstances, so I'd check with your ob first if I were you.

Jadey-fae, hope you're feeling ok this morning, you might feel a bit stiff today, being the day after. The next day for me I found I was stiff and walked like an old lady, lol!

 

[jadey_fae]

Hope, congratulations, looking forward to seeing pics!

Monroe, my ob said we could resume sex when i saw her at 20wks, she said orgasm has no effect on the cervix. However we're really cautious, we have 'bedroom' fun as I seem to have a really high sex drive with this pregnancy, lol' I'm too nervous to let hubbie inside as i worry about infection and him nudging the stitch, id also heard semen softens the cervix, not sure how true this is??? I limit the orgasms, just in case and I find any type of 'bedroom fun' gives me braxton hicks, which makes me nervous! I think in terms of sex the guidelines are different for everyone depending on their circumstances, so I'd check with your ob first if I were you.

Jadey-fae, hope you're feeling ok this morning, you might feel a bit stiff today, being the day after. The next day for me I found I was stiff and walked like an old lady, lol!

lol that is exactly what I am doing - pottering about like an old lady

 

[Craigswife]

Jadey-fae, I think our posts crossed! I'm glad you're ok. I too was nervous about having a poo, but it wasn't too bad, just a bit uncomfortable.
The time between 20-24wks does feel like it drags, twinkle and I can relate to that. But hang in there, it will pass. It's great you've got a stitch in place now, so your little one to strapped in tight, in a few days you'll physically feel back to your old self. I found I needed a hobby to keep my mind busy, so I started a cross stitch for my little one. The key is definitely keeping busy. Will you be working after your recovery? Work has been my saving grace for my sanity, lol!

 

[jadey_fae]

You answered my question about feeling stiff before I had even asked it
I do need a hobby u are right.
I am hoping to go bk to work when I get to 24 weeks. (I am a home carer for a lady with lupus and my job requires me to lift her and do all her personal care etc which can be quite heavy) So I think I will have to see how it goes. I only work 2 evenings a week because I am a stay at home mum to my 2 year old little pickle My OH doesn't want me to go bk til after I have had the baby.

 

[Twinkle 3]

cw i bought the mothercare support belt and going to give that a try to see if it will help. i have foubd the only real way up to now to relieve the pain is to rest as much as i can but it even hurts when i lift my leg up to put on my clothes which is hard. my baby was head down last week. i have my midwife coming today to check on him so i will see what hes doing today hoping he has moved and is bobbing around towards the top. i always feel like weird turns like hes having a massive shuffle about then his kicks change from there normal position so hopefully hes been good and moved

that sounds painful being tranverse!

hope congratulations. its lovely to hear your baby is here, at full term aswel you have done well.
i hope you make a fast recovery. cant wait to see the pics

thankyou tink im really hoping the weeks will fly by now. 24weeks has been a long time coming but im hoping i can hang on longer

jadey i was achey the day after, they flop your legs up on the stirrups quite high so imagine you have done a workout and thats how you would feel the day after and i was scared to go for a bowel movement. i filled up on weetabix and prune juice just to make it easier but all went well with the bowel motions lol. you will get to 24weeks. i never thought it was possible at all!! i use to moan to all these lovely ladies on a daily basis how much i wanted to reach 24weeks and it would be a dream come true to.. i never really expected to get this far and i have had a few scares and probably mental breakdowns haha but i got here and now im praying i make 28weeks! i would sit here and say dont worry but its easier said than done. i do beleieve you will get to 24weeks too. deffienetly take up a hobby like cw said. i totally agree or you will end up crazy lol

monroe i have never been advised about sex but i also havnt asked as i dont want to do anything..im super paranoid about causing harm and infection so i decided to not do anything at all i also darnt even take a bath due to infection... i do have showers though but draw the line at baths. even though my midwife said baths will be fine

 

[Twinkle 3]

Quick question on steroids :

I know there is a lot of ladies on here who have had steroid injections, I'm just wondering do any of you know the effectiveness of steroid injections? Like how far they advance babies lungs? And how long the effects last? I was told yesterday what the purpose of steroids are. But i wasn't told anything about the effectiveness or how long that effect will last for.

I have read on google that they are most effective within 1-7days buti don't understand it as I thought once the lungs are more developed, then regardless when you give birth the lungs are still going to be developed more from the injections, As the lungs can't undevelop can they? Also if I have one completed dose now then if I go into labour at around 28-29weeks will I have to ave another dose if the effects have wore off ?

I will try and ask today when I go for the second lot of injection but when I'm there all the questions float out of my head and I end up talking about the most useless things like weather.yesterday I was that shockedby the pain of the needles that I walked out of the room not knowing whether I should have booked an appointment at the desk yesterday for the injection, so I have to ring up this morning to make sure that I can just turn up ! So as you can see I'm pretty useless some times

 

[jadey_fae]

Just had a bowel movement But now I am scared bcos my stitches hurt again. Could I hurt the stitches??

 

[jadey_fae]

Oh crap just googled. Everywhere sys under no circumstances should u push. Now I am really worried as I did have to strain

 

[karenh24]

congratulations hope!!
Don't worry Jadey im sure everything will be ok, it's probably just sore.
I know what you mean about waiting to 24 weeks i feel like its a long way off!!

 

[Twinkle 3]

jadey dont stran and strain and strain but dont be afraid to push a little. i was badly constipated and have been twice since i had my stitch placed. i had to strain to get it out and im fine (touch wood) i worry about straining so i trh and make sure i can easily go by eating things that will soften stools try not to worry

 

[jadey_fae]

Ok I'll try not to worry. I am a nervous wreck

 

[Twinkle 3]

as soon as you have a stitch in there is something that takes over you and you end up the most nervous, paranoid women in the world lol. i have been terrible worrying constantly about the silliest thing

 

[Pink_Sparkle]

Jadey try and fill up with loads of water and have weetabix - that's helped me loads as normally I really need to strain. Also another tip when on the loo is imagine your blowing bubbles through a straw - it takes your mind off straining and let's your body do it naturally.

I've got my cervix scan in one hour and I'm so nervous. I've also been having brown discharge when I wipe - I'm really hoping its down to having a speculum in yesterday for a swab. Trying to stay positive though that's easier said than done!! Xx

 

[Pink_Sparkle]

Just been for a bowel movement and after I'd finished wiping at the back. I also wiped the front after a wee and there was red/pink blood not a massive amount. I really hope my stitch is ok. Xxx

 

[jadey_fae]

Im sure it is because they have been poking round with the spec. Its good they are still scanning you. I Was told no more scans now the stitch is in and no one is going to be checking my stitch? Infact my next appointment is supposed to be 29 weeks!

 

[Pink_Sparkle]

Thanks Jadey, I was told initially that I wouldn't be getting anymore internal scans but yesterday my
Consultant said it was important they check my stitch to check it's not tearing.
So here goes.... Xx

 

[jadey_fae]

Why do they think it will tear?

 

[Twinkle 3]

jadey thats quite long to leave you. i have seen my consultant 3 times since my stitch placement and i have another appointment for 28weeks. have they said you will be needing to give you steroids at any point?

 

[jadey_fae]

thats what I thought but when I asked if anyone would need to check the stitch they said no, unless I have problems with it. No one has mentioned steroids to me either. Should I push for that?