Radiance, that is frustrating! I see you're in California, is there not another (bigger) hospital you can make a trip to? It may be inconvenient, but I (believe) started getting significant cervical changes at around 15 weeks. That's usually the time IC presents itself because the baby is getting bigger at this point. I didn't know anything about IC at the time, but when I was complaining of pain, the ultrasound tech checked everything
except my cervix.
If it had been caught then, rather than one month later, the stitch probably would have been more effective than it was. (Because I had almost no cervical length when I finally got the stitch.) Don't freak out though, like Lizzie said, cervical "lowness" is not an indicator of much (plus you already have 2 children, so your body knows the routine), and vaginal swelling is extremely common in pregnancy and not at all an indicator of cervical issues.
Little JD is 4 weeks old today! (30 weeks gestation) He's doing great. The doc said he's kind of on "cruise control" right now. He's gaining about an ounce a day (currently at 2lbs 14ozs) but his lungs are doing about the same; he's on high flow doing OK. He's kind of working hard, but isn't requiring a ton of oxygen. The nurse thought she heard a heart murmur so he got an echocardiogram today, but the doctor doesn't seem concerned about it. The nurse practitioner ordered the echo, and the doc later said he wouldn't have ordered one at this point. So hopefully it's nothing.