Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[truthbtold]

Hi ladies just updating its been 6 days since I ditch the stitch and still no signs of labor yet. Guess the stitch worked too well

 

[kateqpr]

That's what happened to me! Stitch out then......... Nothing.

Waters broke a week later but I still had to be induced as the stitch had fused some of my cervix shut!

Good luck!

 

[lizziedripping]

Hi ladies

MA, can't wait to see your finished deco. Makes me look really useless in the home furnishing dept! Everything in our house is 100% shop bought, I wouldn't know how to darn a sock, let alone knock up some curtains You are reallyx talented mama! Xx

Kate Hun, you've really made me think with your last post. You say that you had to be induced last time because your cervix was fused shut from the stitch? You do know that often cerclage women actuallyz have problems in labour from scar tissue which makes their cervix refuse to dilate? Something which also strengthens the cervix in future pregnancies and effectively reverses the effects of IC.

I do wonder if your cervix is pinching and bleeding because the stitch is pulling against some of this fused tissue. As it comes under strain from the growing baby, it could well be irritating the scar tissue and causing all your additional symptoms. I also suspect that maybe your cervix is strengthened by this scarring and IC is not as much of an issue for you as it was last time - just a thought Just thought that might offer some reassurance? Or maybe not.........xxx

Truth Hun, not surprised at all that nothing's happened yet - very typical and ironic after all the weeks of worry that you'll deliver months too early. Take care xxx

La Rock, you ok hun? You seem to spend so much time looking after everyone else, we don't hear much about you these days. Hope youre enjoying the pregnancy a bit more now? When its over you really miss the bump, so make sure to enjoy it while it lasts my lovely xx

Vali, apsara - you ladies seem so much more relaxed now. Sara Hun, you have done so well considering how scary things were for you for a while. You still ok? How many weeks are you now? Xx

As for me, Christmas was busy and fraught - all kids were poorly with hideous coughs and colds. They still enjoyed the day tho I think. Looking forward to the arrival of all our 2012 babies, look how far you've all come in 2011. Truths, you're next I think, closely followed by Susannah? Hope I've got that right - maybe we should make a list of due dates. Keep baking everyone

 

[truthbtold]

Doctors appointment today all he said was my cervix is soft and 1cm it was so disappointing I had tears in my eye. Mainly because I have a tooth that needs to be pulled my jaw is swollen and the dentist wont do a thing until I deliver.

 

[vaali]

Lizzie buddy! you are so right!! much much relaxed now here.. & you are right, i already started thinking i would miss the bump after he pops out but same time looking forward so restlessly to carry him in my arms & nurse him (esp the very first time ). I wish i will be in my full consciousness during the ever first feed to cherish it then as much as i do now!
Also this waiting period as you guys say after the stitch removal is getting me all restless already. lol.. like how badly we would want to be pregnant the month we start planning for it & make a big drama out of it every month, we want the bub too to be out sooner the stitch is removed i guess Blame the oestrogen & progesterone!!!..
Hope your kids are doing good now & i wanna tell this time & again 'you' are such an angel!!
Guys can we make the list of due dates..? please mention your EDCs at the end of your posts, i will compile it all & start a new thread on the due dates of IC moms.
EDC 29th jan 2012
May we all bake it & make it to term buds

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi ladies! I too am waiting patiently for all the lovely 2012 babies to appear. It's SO EXCITING! Wishing you all a lovely New Year.

Lizzie...I actually decided to learn (keeping in mind I'm STILL learning and not that great) at everything when we were waiting. I had a 10 year wait for baby so there has been time. I learned to quilt first with a local weight loss group from sparkpeople.com and we started walking for charity and then started creating quilts to enter into the New York State fair which after being judged went to local children's hospitals. After our son died, I needed something to come out of the funk so I chose knitting classes and it turned out that it was THE MOST healing atmosphere because I was with a mother who lost her son fighting in Iraq, a recovering breast cancer patient, someone whose son was in a terrible accident who is now dealing with brain trauma, etc. I learned how to darn a sock ironically in that class and it's quite easy..like tying a shoelace almost.

I had a lot of time on my hands and no children at all so I was able to do it to keep sane. It's a bit harder for time these days though. lol I'm also not as creative as many others. Haha

 

[heychickie]

So glad everyone is doing so well! So far so good here, too. I'm 33w 2d now, and little boy makes me aware of his presence forcefully every day.

I hope everyone continues with success into the new year!

My EDD is February 16, but I have to have a c-section and it's scheduled for February 10, so that's the late still go. My stitch won't come out until I'm in the operating room and baby has already been delivered.

 

[vaali]

●☆●° 。 ° ˛˚˛ * ●☆● May this new year bring all the joy, happiness, love & luck we deserve.. Happy New year 2012..●☆●° 。 ° ˛˚˛ * ●☆●

 

[LaRockera]

La Rock, you ok hun? You seem to spend so much time looking after everyone else, we don't hear much about you these days. Hope youre enjoying the pregnancy a bit more now? When its over you really miss the bump, so make sure to enjoy it while it lasts my lovely xx

This is an amazing thing to say, and I appreciate it more than you may think.

In fact, I wholeheartedly appreciate every single person on this thread, both for your invaluable help and because you've seen through me and know who I am. I've had it much easier than most of you, but please know I empathised every step of the way, as if I were walking your shoes. But your know that already.

Unfortunately, due to certain very unfortunate recent occurrences I am now considering leaving BnB.

Anybody that wants to keep in touch, I've sent Kate my email address and she can forward your details to me- or you can pm me this week with yours.

Also, any other ladies that may come across my posts in this thread and need clarification with something, I'm sure Kate will help transfer your question to me and I'd be only too glad to help.

A big wholehearted thank you again. I would have wanted it more than anything to have by baby and watch you have yours, as I feel that the stitch experience and its respective journey is something quite different and an emotional rollercoaster. I am hoping however, that I will be able to keep in touch in different ways.

 

[HelenGee]

Oh La Rock- that sounds ominous, hope all is ok. Will miss you on here but will message you to keep trackof your progress.

Lizzie - I'm right there with you, we've all been ill for a few months with nasty colds, then Christmas eve was spent at the emergency docs as Oliver got a chest infection. Hopefully you're all on the mend.

MA- wish I had your homemaking talent, I often joke that our house is a student flat. It irritates me that I don't have the time, money or eye for design, not forgetting the talent for craft, to sort our house out! Your home is beautiful, Amelia will be so proud of her talented mummy x

Kate- hope things are calm with you, your posts make me chuckle, you're just so honest, wish I had been when I was stuck in bed, I went bloody crackers! Good luck and hope your hospital stay amounts to nothing. What Lizzie said makes absolute sense, it is likely that you have extra strength in your cervix from scarring. Fingers crossed x

Truthb- my stitch was removed at 35 weeks, I went into labour at 38 plus weeks. The irony eh?! Patience, my sweet, you'll soon be holding bubs x

Wishing you all a very happy, healthy new year with lots of term safe arrivals. Amy- wishing Connie strength and health, she will be very proud of her wonderful brave Mummy x

 

[truthbtold]

Thanks Helen. Its getting depressing after losing a baby last december I wanted to be holding my baby this december.

 

[lizziedripping]

Truthb - Of course you're impatient to meet lo now, and after all you've been through Not long now darlin' xxx

LR - got your PM and then read here you're thinking of leaving I'm sure you have very good reasons and wouldn't want to pressure you, but please don't go sweetie We are a unique, bonded group of women here with you very much a key part of the team. I'm sure the others would agree with me when I say we would miss you terribly. Please reconsider, even if only to participate in this thread

Helen Hun, sorry to hear lo was poorly. We didn't end up in casualty but one of the twins was very ill and I think the worst I have ever seen any of my kids Hope you and yours are better now?

Lol x

 

[vaali]

[/QUOTE]

This is an amazing thing to say, and I appreciate it more than you may think.

In fact, I wholeheartedly appreciate every single person on this thread, both for your invaluable help and because you've seen through me and know who I am. I've had it much easier than most of you, but please know I empathised every step of the way, as if I were walking your shoes. But your know that already.

Unfortunately, due to certain very unfortunate recent occurrences I am now considering leaving BnB.

Anybody that wants to keep in touch, I've sent Kate my email address and she can forward your details to me- or you can pm me this week with yours.

Also, any other ladies that may come across my posts in this thread and need clarification with something, I'm sure Kate will help transfer your question to me and I'd be only too glad to help.

A big wholehearted thank you again. I would have wanted it more than anything to have by baby and watch you have yours, as I feel that the stitch experience and its respective journey is something quite different and an emotional rollercoaster. I am hoping however, that I will be able to keep in touch in different ways.[/QUOTE]

Larock.. no way sweetie! we will terribly miss you...! wondering whats making you leave BnB & i hope everything is fine there .. shocking news from you on this new year day my heart goes out to you & im going short of words.. can i ask you to reconsider, please?

 

[apsara.m]

oh la rock... i don't know about the reason behind your decision to leave BnB but may we request you as lizzie said can you be with us in this thread only if it is not too much to ask? all the very best la

lizzie iam 33+5 weeks now and way more relaxed than a few weeks before. now iam waiting for my appt on 10th to know about the possibility of normal delivery.
hope your kids are doing fine now take care lizzie

helen how are you hope oliver is fine now

truthb all the very best. come on baby don't make truthb wait anymore...

garrickbaby hope you are fine there

vaali... did they removed your stitch? then how are you feeling now about the pain 'down' there

MA you spend the 10 years in a very useful way but here iam wasted it no kids to look after then also don't know anything crafty... hope to see your finished nursery soon.........

love you all ladies there

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2012 to you all

 

[LaRockera]

First off, happy new year to everyone.

Second, I woke up this morning to find an incredible amount of pms both in my BnB and my email inbox, and I'd just like to say a big, emphatic THANK YOU for that. Any unpleasant feelings I may have experienced the last few days were instantly dissolved, mainly because, even though I knew that overall people in BnB liked and respected me (like any other member really), I never hoped for such an overwhelming expression of friendship.

You're all people whose friendship I cherish, that have helped me through the worst, and whose ethos and integrity make me feel flattered for being wanted in your group. Any sense

I got a pm from someone in this group today that asked me whether one single stupid incident was worth sacrificing all the friendship I give and take here. Reading all these emails, I believe she's right.

I'm taking a short break to cool off (even though I feel amazing already) and will be back shortly. In the meantime, I'm receiving pms. x

 

[kateqpr]

Hey all

Larockera - glad to hear you're not leaving us completely. Hurrah!

Now i have a stitch question....(yawn) which i probably know the answer to, but i just like to ask these things for a bit of reassurance.

I've woken up this morning with a weird uncomfortable feeling low in my abdomen - so where my stitch is inside me (it doesn't feel vaginal / like the outside of my cervix)
It feels like something pushing or pinching again, and comes and goes depending on my position. I think i might have slept curled up in a ball, which seems to put pressure on the stitch or at least push is against something inside me.

Does anyone else have these weird feelings in that area that comes and goes? It's not painful enough to go to hospital for, plus there are no other symptoms that would worry a doctor (and God knows i hop to hospital at the drop of a hat at the moment, and all they worry about is bleeding, infection or the stitch opening) so i'm guessing its normal.

Hope you're all well.

TruthB - your baby will be along soon! I promise (hey, it's gravity, so got to happen soon). I found a spot of reflexology and some sex broke my waters and least go things started!!

Lizzie - sending you a hug. Just because i think you might like one x

 

[garrickbaby]

Happy New Year!

Just wanted to check in, everything is going well with me. I'm 34+4 today, my baby shower is next Sunday so I'm so excited for that. I'm getting so excites, and impatient now since January is finally here. I have a scheduled C/S for Feb 1st but no one think I will get there so we consider ourselves having another Janaury baby. My first daughter's bday is on the 10th. I have two more 17p shots left but they won't take the stitch out until after my c/s. I'm offically off of bedrest, after being confide to the house since I had my stitch put in at 13 weeks.... although im not doing much of anything different it just feels good that I made it this far.


I have to take NST each week and so every week, I have to be on the machine for much about 45 minutes (usually its 20 minutes) because the baby never does well at first then after I drink and they buzz my stomach she responds better, So I have a feeling one of these appointments they will just decide to take her because of that.

Truth- I think your next, I know how much you want to hold your baby, but its right around the corner for you... can't wait to hear the good news soon.

I'm currently debating on getting my tubes tied during the c/s or try Mirena birth control... my husband think i'm too young to have the tubes tied (I just turned 31 in Dec.) but i'm sure I don't want any more kids, but who knows. Does anyone have experience with Mirena?

 

[truthbtold]

Garrick everyone I know that has mirena took it out do to spotting and bleeding inbetween periods. I had planned to get my tubes tied when I was pregnant with my angel baby but after losing her I have decided not to do it until 35. I turn 30 in february.

 

[garrickbaby]

Garrick everyone I know that has mirena took it out do to spotting and bleeding inbetween periods. I had planned to get my tubes tied when I was pregnant with my angel baby but after losing her I have decided not to do it until 35. I turn 30 in february.

Thanks Truth- Before I loss my son I had come to the same decision. I just don't want to go on anything that will give me any kind of complications and I really don't see us having another but then again after the loss of our son I didn't see us getting pregnant again either.... its seems like the hardest decision. I just can't afford to get pregnant any time soon and I hate bc pills.

 

[lizziedripping]

Hi ladies, and Kate, thanks for the hug Your pain sounds ok to me hun. I had most of my pain low down in my abdomen and suspect for me it was stitch/bladder related. The irony about a stitch going 'wrong' as it were, is that there is less actual pain and more pressure-type sensations. Even when labouring against the stitch with Evie I had no actual stitch pain other than the contractions. Certainly there was nothing to indicate to me that the stitch was failing, even after I'd dilated right thru it and Evie had poked her foot through the stitch. There was lots of bleeding, and I was obviously in labour, but as far as vaginal, lower abdominal and stitch type symptoms there was virtually none.

I think ( for what it's worth) you have lots of scar tissue, have had a previous baby so have tired, over-stretched muscles, a squished bladder and a blooming great foreign body sewn right thru the mid- section of your pelvic floor!!! All contribute to the myriad of sensations you are experiencing, but are essentially harmless.

Since having the twins I have held on to some of the bladder pains and tenderness in my lower abdomen that I had when the stitch was in place - particularly when my bladder is full. Now of course they don't worry me at all but when pregnant I was crippled with fear! I now realise that much of the pain was down to the stitch, precisely because it was working and holding fast against my ever tightening organs and tissues, as my cervix strained under the weight of the boys.

What is probably normal for many pregnant women, especially in second and third pregnancies rings alarm bells for us hun. I am convinced that my bladder gave me lots of grief all by itself, and that combined with the stitch put me in hell I suspect that may be your problem too. Of course if it gets worse, or the worry is just too much then NEVER hesitate to get checked - that's what the hospital is there for Take care xxx

LR - thanks f or reconsidering, and remember, the only opinions worth listening to are those from the people closest to you

Xxx