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Hello everyone. Happy Saturday !( so beautiful, sunny and totally freezing today outside. I'm home with a log fire, so am just enjoying the view!)
There are so many people on here now i want to talk to, but i can't keep track of everyone, especially as i can't go back to the previous page to reread your posts! So apologies if i miss anything or anyone out, as i am a dunce about some things and feeling particularly dense today..
Heychickie - huge congratulations on your extra helping of baby! At last, someone else reaches the finishing line and is a happy mummy. Well done you..
Liven - Its so normal to feel depressed, especially when you've spent so long in pregnancy exile. When i reached 28 weeks (which had always felt like a massive milestone) i kind of felt an anti climax, as i just though ' no, i want to be 30 weeks' - the goal posts had moved and 28 suddenly didn't seem enough. And i just felt exhausted by it all, knowing i still had a way to go. But you're so nearly there, and those feelings will go, and be replaced by excitement the closer you get to your due date. I promise.
LaRockera - how is home? Hope you're feeling chilled and nesting nicely. And so exited about your stitch removal. Let me know how it goes - i'm starting to get slightly obsessed about mine now too...
Christiana - you sound nice and positive at the moment. Keep it up!
Bookfish - i'd say the spotting is normal, especially as it seems to be only when you wipe. But if it gets any worse, then i'd go see your doctors. I was told it took around a week to ten days for bleeding to stop, but that it was only really a problem if i felt it was getting heavier, rather than lighter. So just go with your instinct. It's almost certainly normal, but i say if you're still worrying about it, then sometimes having a check up can just ease you mind, and who needs to worry needlessly when they're on bed rest?!
JimmyJam - oh my love. I so so hear where you're coming from. Life can seem so shitty sometimes - there is no rhyme or reason behind the things that happen to us, we just have to smile and try and deal with it the best we can. You're doing brilliantly - 23 weeks this Wednesday. Yay! So close to viability, so just keep doing what you're doing. And i had a sneaky hair appointment when i hit 28 weeks, as the greys were just making me look like my grandma (and she's been dead for 20 years...). I'm planning a pedicure this week. I reckon a treat a week, as a reward, and home beauticians can be your own special God send.
Its so normal that you will feel massive highs and lows. I would swing from sobbing, heaving tears one morning, little Miss Perky Pants the next. My husband found my bed rest schizophrenia quite difficult, but managed to bite his tongue a lot and be just sympathetic. I just remember feeling so trapped and alone - on a rollercoaster that only i was on, and terrified of how it would end. I just knew that what ever happened, it was me and my body and mind that would have to physically cope with it, and that scared the crap out of me. I think you just have to go with it, and be honest with those around you, even if you might start to feel like a broken record. And tell your doctors on Wednesday that you're finding it mentally torturous - they are very sympathetic and know that it is so so normal to find it this hard.
But try and think of the positives - you're very nearly 24 weeks, hopefully you can get the steroid shots (so you can feel a bit more confident in your baby's development) and then you really feel like you're making real progress. You ARE pregnant, and already a mum to your little one. Your fluid levels hadn't increased last week, so that is GREAT. Plus with bed rest, it's very likely you'll see that your cervix will either have grown, or will have stayed stable when you're next scanned. Your stitch is working, and it's unusual for them NOT to work (and that is usually when they were placed as emergencies when you would already have dilated). You have the odds on your side, even though its scary to believe that. I found my coping mechanism seemed to be 'assume the worst'. That way i felt i could protect myself emotionally. In fact i still can't believe that I may actually have a baby after all this. It's self preservation.
Try not to worry about Matt. That will do you no good, as you have enough to worry about without extending it to how he is too. He will be fine. Encourage him to have a few nights out on his own (good he went out last night) as it will allow him to talk to his friends about it if he needs to.
But remember, this isn't forever. Life is long, and this time of stress is short in comparison, and in six weeks time you'll both feel a bit more relieved and back to normal. It's what marriage is all about - carrying the other person when they need it. And i'm sure you will do the same for him in the future.
Okay, my news.... Nothing exciting. Had my hospital day on Thursday. All fine. No more FFN tests as i'm now over 30 weeks. My stitch will come out in SIX WEEKS TIME!! I can't believe it. IN fact last night i had major pregnancy insomnia, lying in bed at 4am thinking about my last stitch removal, flash backs of childbirth...It's all starting to feel just a little bit more real. And yesterday me and Andy had a little trip out to Richmond Cinema. A nice matinee, two tubs of popcorn, plus a bit of fresh air. I felt almost normal (although i now officially waddle, so am a bit slow to move). I am just tired all the time again now, and hoping for a nice long nap tomorrow as it is Poppy's day at my mums.
Have a good weekend everyone. You'll all doing brilliantly. You may not feel it, but you are. Stay strong....
XX
There are so many people on here now i want to talk to, but i can't keep track of everyone, especially as i can't go back to the previous page to reread your posts! So apologies if i miss anything or anyone out, as i am a dunce about some things and feeling particularly dense today..
Heychickie - huge congratulations on your extra helping of baby! At last, someone else reaches the finishing line and is a happy mummy. Well done you..
Liven - Its so normal to feel depressed, especially when you've spent so long in pregnancy exile. When i reached 28 weeks (which had always felt like a massive milestone) i kind of felt an anti climax, as i just though ' no, i want to be 30 weeks' - the goal posts had moved and 28 suddenly didn't seem enough. And i just felt exhausted by it all, knowing i still had a way to go. But you're so nearly there, and those feelings will go, and be replaced by excitement the closer you get to your due date. I promise.
LaRockera - how is home? Hope you're feeling chilled and nesting nicely. And so exited about your stitch removal. Let me know how it goes - i'm starting to get slightly obsessed about mine now too...
Christiana - you sound nice and positive at the moment. Keep it up!
Bookfish - i'd say the spotting is normal, especially as it seems to be only when you wipe. But if it gets any worse, then i'd go see your doctors. I was told it took around a week to ten days for bleeding to stop, but that it was only really a problem if i felt it was getting heavier, rather than lighter. So just go with your instinct. It's almost certainly normal, but i say if you're still worrying about it, then sometimes having a check up can just ease you mind, and who needs to worry needlessly when they're on bed rest?!
JimmyJam - oh my love. I so so hear where you're coming from. Life can seem so shitty sometimes - there is no rhyme or reason behind the things that happen to us, we just have to smile and try and deal with it the best we can. You're doing brilliantly - 23 weeks this Wednesday. Yay! So close to viability, so just keep doing what you're doing. And i had a sneaky hair appointment when i hit 28 weeks, as the greys were just making me look like my grandma (and she's been dead for 20 years...). I'm planning a pedicure this week. I reckon a treat a week, as a reward, and home beauticians can be your own special God send.
Its so normal that you will feel massive highs and lows. I would swing from sobbing, heaving tears one morning, little Miss Perky Pants the next. My husband found my bed rest schizophrenia quite difficult, but managed to bite his tongue a lot and be just sympathetic. I just remember feeling so trapped and alone - on a rollercoaster that only i was on, and terrified of how it would end. I just knew that what ever happened, it was me and my body and mind that would have to physically cope with it, and that scared the crap out of me. I think you just have to go with it, and be honest with those around you, even if you might start to feel like a broken record. And tell your doctors on Wednesday that you're finding it mentally torturous - they are very sympathetic and know that it is so so normal to find it this hard.
But try and think of the positives - you're very nearly 24 weeks, hopefully you can get the steroid shots (so you can feel a bit more confident in your baby's development) and then you really feel like you're making real progress. You ARE pregnant, and already a mum to your little one. Your fluid levels hadn't increased last week, so that is GREAT. Plus with bed rest, it's very likely you'll see that your cervix will either have grown, or will have stayed stable when you're next scanned. Your stitch is working, and it's unusual for them NOT to work (and that is usually when they were placed as emergencies when you would already have dilated). You have the odds on your side, even though its scary to believe that. I found my coping mechanism seemed to be 'assume the worst'. That way i felt i could protect myself emotionally. In fact i still can't believe that I may actually have a baby after all this. It's self preservation.
Try not to worry about Matt. That will do you no good, as you have enough to worry about without extending it to how he is too. He will be fine. Encourage him to have a few nights out on his own (good he went out last night) as it will allow him to talk to his friends about it if he needs to.
But remember, this isn't forever. Life is long, and this time of stress is short in comparison, and in six weeks time you'll both feel a bit more relieved and back to normal. It's what marriage is all about - carrying the other person when they need it. And i'm sure you will do the same for him in the future.
Okay, my news.... Nothing exciting. Had my hospital day on Thursday. All fine. No more FFN tests as i'm now over 30 weeks. My stitch will come out in SIX WEEKS TIME!! I can't believe it. IN fact last night i had major pregnancy insomnia, lying in bed at 4am thinking about my last stitch removal, flash backs of childbirth...It's all starting to feel just a little bit more real. And yesterday me and Andy had a little trip out to Richmond Cinema. A nice matinee, two tubs of popcorn, plus a bit of fresh air. I felt almost normal (although i now officially waddle, so am a bit slow to move). I am just tired all the time again now, and hoping for a nice long nap tomorrow as it is Poppy's day at my mums.
Have a good weekend everyone. You'll all doing brilliantly. You may not feel it, but you are. Stay strong....
XX
I miss my home and my working space and my nice little town, but I'd do anything for my bubba, and I'm sure once she's here I'll be too busy to feel nostalgic.
Heychickie, bubs is gorgeous, well done mama!! Don't fret at how tough those early few weeks are hun, it does get easier. There is the section recovery, establishing bf and utter exhaustion to adjust to, but it does come together slowly over time. You'll find that once your milk comes in, sore nipple and screaming, hungry baby issues are resolved and everyone settles into life with a newborn. I found that with larger babies, hunger was much more of a problem whilst waiting for the milk supply to kick in - they are just so hungry and demanding.
it will be hard for no more than a few nights - then you'll have a life time of good sleep from your lo 
