Infertility?

[jules87]

DH and I have been TTC for a little over a year now. Admittedly there were a few months where I quit tracking my cycle because I couldn't deal with the stress of all the BFNs I was getting. I started tracking again using a Clear Blue ovulation tracker this last cycle. I had all these unusual symptoms (hot flashes food aversion, sore breasts, mild cramping around the time I should have implanted, moodiness.) So I was thinking that maybe this is it... But AF just reared her ugly head.

I know that there are plenty here dealing with this and I just don't know HOW to deal with it anymore. Every month its the same thing! And now.. the family has started (not so subtly) dropping hints about babies. Which of course makes it that much harder! I just don't know what to do/ think at this point.

I don't know when to finally say, OK I should go to a DR. Even if I did go to the DR I wouldn't know where to begin.

 

[dogluvr]

I feel your pain. DH and I ave TTC #1 for 8 years now. In that time we even attempted adoption twice and it failed both times. When family began dropping hints we would laugh it off but I finally had enough and laid it all out for them. Every last blunt detail. Needless to say the questions have now stopped! We sought help after about a year. DH is in excellent condition, I'm the one with unexplained infertility. I started with my PCP and then moved on to my Gyn for Clomid (3 rounds). We couldn't go any further than that because our insurance covered nothing infertility related. Keep your chin up and try to stay positive. Over the years my emotions have been everywhere and I would assume that's normal.

 

[jules87]

I can't imagine trying for 8 years! Thank you for your post. Even though I wouldn't wish this kind of stress on anyone, it is nice to know that you aren't alone and to be able to talk to people that know what you are going through.

I'm getting to the point where I'm going to tell the whole family whats going on, but I'm just not ready for that conversation yet.

I'm thinking I just need to suck it up and make the Dr's appointment.

 

[Myshelsong]

We have been trying since June 2011 with no success, not even one bfp so I understand the feeling hun.

I would highly recommend going to the Dr to find out if there is a medical reason for yourself and your dh. It is totally scary getting to that point, but at least it will hopefully get you some answers.

Relaxing ... well that is another story. It really depends on where you are that month. One month I will cry and get angry when af arrives. Sometimes I feel hopeless and feel it is never going to happen so I have sad days. Everything you feel is completely normal and OK. What you want to make sure is that it doesnt .... control you. Don't let this ruin all the great things in your life. Separating this from your marriage is probably the hardest thing to do. In order to just relax I have to be ok with being no ok somedays. If I feel like I have to cry, I will let my self cry for a good 10 minutes, if I want to scream ... the same. Then I pick myself up and tell myself to not be so crazy and get on with it. I find a good shot of baileys in my morning coffee on the weekend, or a small glass of wine and a bubble bath does great things for my moods. So does my husband.

And I know we are suppose to be restraining, but seriously ..... wouldnt you?

 

[jules87]

Yea, I've noticed the hardest part is to not let it affect our marriage. Not that I take it out on him. Its just that I feel so hopeless at times that I just don't want to be bothered by anyone. Which obviously doesn't help the situation.

I went to a Dr. about 6 months ago (so we had been trying for 6 months) and they did an ultrasound, but didn't find anything.

I think its definitely time for me to make an appointment though.

 

[RoccoBoxr]

I'd make an appointment dear. You can always look back when you're pregnant on a natural cycle and say "hmm maybe I jumped the gun", but you'd hate to look back when time snowballs and say "man I wish I had started earlier".

Plus, it can take a bit to get in with a specialist, it can take a bit to get labs etc done, it can take a bit to finally sit down and agree on what the plan is, then it can take a bit to wait out the current cycle to start a fresh cycle. I totally don't say this to be discouraging, but you'll be happy once you have a plan, and having a plan doesn't mean you can't still try naturally (or get pg naturally!).

Good luck Hun!

 

[CCClomidQueen]

You should make the appointment. could be a very short or very long road. Iv been trying 7 years and started with a RE a year ago. wish you much luck.