Insensitive - rant sorry

[Las78]

Hope you are all doing ok.

I'm generally a very open person and always have been, if something bothers me I need to talk about it.
When I had my m/c I couldn't talk to anyone for days afterwards, it was just too hard but found after that talking about it actually helped me accept what had happened.

Now 6 weeks on, I call my mum last night, mentioned that I had a bad day this week where I just cried and cried, surprised me as I thought I was doing ok. I think a lot of it was the guilt I feel at not going to Ryans grave since we buried him. I wanted to go on Mothers day but didn't. Said to my mum that I felt guilty about it and she turned around to me and said "whats the point of going" - OMG - what's the point??? The point is he was my son, granted I never got to know him as m/c at 17w+5 but he was still my baby, I still saw him and gave birth to him, loved him and always will.

It is times like this where I wasn't so open and most of all I wish my mother would be a little sensitive sometimes.

Rant over, thanks for listening

 

[booflebump]

Oh sweetheart - that was a really insensitive thing to say and I cant believe your mother thinks its acceptable to come out with that! Of course there is a point of going to the grave - but you shouldnt feel guilty that you havent felt strong enough to go. Dont let her make you feel bad for dealing with your grief xxx

 

[chella]

Omg how cold to say that' sometimes times like these u find out what ppl and family are really like deep down,

Ignore her, Ryan is ur son and if she cant feel that way for her own grandson well its her lost, yeah she never knew him but its her gandchild and blood relative i just cant understand how cold she is being? or is she keepin it tucked up that she is hurtin as i would of thought she'd be supporting u not hurting u xxxx

Take care and chat soon xxxx

 

[Aidedhoney]

Awwwwww thats mean but our parents/grandparents are different generations from us, years ago no one talked about m/c or stillbirths. I would imagine that your mum is hurting as well and perhaps doesnt know what to say.
When i lost my girls my mum sent me a letter telling me how hard it was for her to show what she was feeling as they were brought up not to show emotion etc etc.

Sorry for your loss
xxxx

 

[DiddyDons]

to you! I am so sorry My mam said to me on mothers day that there was "no point in crying over it!!" OMG!!

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