Irrational fears

[Mrs Doddy]

I'm 15weeks on Monday and things seem to be going ok. I had an early scan at 7weeks and a 12week scan heartbeat and dates were fine, I've got another 6 weeks till my 20 week scan- I feel like I'm in limbo- I've not really got a bump and although I think I can feel beanie I'm not 100% sure- it's always on my left side like little flutterings maybe a few times a day. I am worried that I will get to the next scan and something will be wrong or that I won't get to full term, I haven't really got attatched to the baby coz I'm scared if I do it will all go wrong

how can we stop these fears????

 

[Carmello_01]

Firstly, big fat hugs your way! I know exactly where you are at right now - the waiting between scans is like being in limbo. My only advice is take it one day, one hour, one minute at a time. I gave myself other little milestones along the way, some pregnancy related, others not so much. This helped. Even booking something as small and frivolous as a pedicure a week or so in advance, and then counting down the days helped me (I used this at the end of my first pregnancy too, but it's been really helpful during pregnancy after loss)

 

[Las78]

Hun, I wish there was a way to stop the fears, I went through exactly the same, was terrified when I went for my 20wk scan that they would fine something was wrong then I had a 28 and 32week one and again worried in case they saw something they hadn't picked up on my 20wk. I too didn't bond until I hit viability and even then it was a very weary sort of bonding, almost like "do I dare", Once I got to 30weeks and felt more kicks (anterior placenta so until then felt very little) I became a lot more positive and feel that in the last few weeks I have really bonded, I didn't realise just how strong the bond has become but you know what I think subconciously we bond from day 1 we just don't let ourself acknowledge that bond - I guess a way of protecting ourself from hurting if anything were to happen, not that it does. Don't worry about it hun, even if you don't feel any bond throughout I'm certain that will kick straight in as soon as your bubs is born.

Really pleased for you hun, can't believe you're at 15 weeks already, fantastic news, it seems to go by so quick (although I know it doesn't feel like it, I feel as though I have been preg forever)

 

[Lol78]

Aww Mrs Doddy, I could have written this myself. I'm 15 weeks 5 days and I'm terrified something is wrong. I'm not feeling much in the way of movement yet - but have felt some flutters a few days ago. I wish I knew how to help. I just feel like staying in bed all day until my midwife appointment on Thursday but I know that's not practical.
I think perhaps Carmellos advice is good. I might try to give myself other things to think about. Big sweetie, I really really know how you are feeling.

 

[Mrs Doddy]

Thanks everyone. I am trying so hard to stay positive and have been looking on the net for things we will need to buy - then I think what if we buy stuff and something goes wrong

Ive got a mw appointment in a week and really should just focus on that and she will be checking the heartbeat so I will probably feel better after that for a while - I hope that beanie's movements will be stronger then too which will be reasurring

 

[Las78]

Hun, we didn't buy anything till I was 28 weeks for the very same reason, even then I felt like I was jinxing things by buying stuff but all so far has turned out ok and I'm sure it will for you too.

Only a week to the mw appointment, as you say, try and focus on that. Keep strong x

 

[Drazic<3]

Aww, babes. I am just the same. A friend brought some clothes round yesterday and I freaked out and hid them away like it was some kind of dangerous thing to the babe. We are all scared but we will get there, day by day. Sending

 

[Sparklestar]

I'm 15weeks on Monday and things seem to be going ok. I had an early scan at 7weeks and a 12week scan heartbeat and dates were fine, I've got another 6 weeks till my 20 week scan- I feel like I'm in limbo- I've not really got a bump and although I think I can feel beanie I'm not 100% sure- it's always on my left side like little flutterings maybe a few times a day. I am worried that I will get to the next scan and something will be wrong or that I won't get to full term, I haven't really got attatched to the baby coz I'm scared if I do it will all go wrong

how can we stop these fears????

Firstly lady!! WELL DONE!!! I am so so pleased that ther pair of us have managed to hold onto our little bubbas this time

I'm 16+2 today and on good friday i convinced myself that i was leaking amniotic fluid and that i had an incompetant cervix and took myself to the hospital to be told its discharge.

I feel a little neurotic tbh and my feelings mirror yours by the sound of it. I can feel the baby move now, and like you say i get little kicks just to my left hand side. i've been able to feel it for about 2 weeks but it started like bubbles i thought i had wind

anyway, i just wanted to say that i feel the same and to wish you the very best of luck... mwah xxx