Bumpontherun
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Hi ladies,
I'm posting in this section rathet than babyclub as I think/hope I maybe have more in common with mums on here. I'm feeling really down and just feel I haven't got the hang of parenting at all and that I've messed up with Helen.
I love her so much, she's a really happy smiley baby and rarely cries,maybe that's part of the problem. I have never been able to just lay her down to sleep, I always picked her up as soon as she cried. At first she slept next to me and fed herself to sleep in my bed. Gradually I have bben able to feed her to sleep then move her to the moses basket. She was sleepin 8/9-4 and then 5-6:30/7 until 3 nights ago. Now she's waking at 12/1 for a feed and then only goes back down for s couple of hours before basically being awake feeding and dozing in my arms for the day. I don't sleep well co sleeping and I can't catch up on sleep during the day as she either sleeps on me with her head next to the boob or in a moving pram or sling. Everyone from my ante natal classes can lay their babies down to sleep and I feel lile such a failure that I can't. I'm the only one who can put Helen to bed and she needs me to nap, I just feel so tired and overwhelmed. I have the no cry sleep solution but just feel it's not going to work for me.I'm on the brink of giving up BF and handing DH baby and formula and telling him to sort everything out.
Today I tried controlled crying even though I know you're not ment to. She fell asleep after I went back at 10 mins but only slept for 20 mins before she woke up crying and I couldn't bear to do it again. Now I hate myself for being so cruel to her and am worried I have damaged her forever. Please can anybody suggest anything or reassure me that even a situaation as bad as mine will get better?
Thanks for reading
I'm posting in this section rathet than babyclub as I think/hope I maybe have more in common with mums on here. I'm feeling really down and just feel I haven't got the hang of parenting at all and that I've messed up with Helen.
I love her so much, she's a really happy smiley baby and rarely cries,maybe that's part of the problem. I have never been able to just lay her down to sleep, I always picked her up as soon as she cried. At first she slept next to me and fed herself to sleep in my bed. Gradually I have bben able to feed her to sleep then move her to the moses basket. She was sleepin 8/9-4 and then 5-6:30/7 until 3 nights ago. Now she's waking at 12/1 for a feed and then only goes back down for s couple of hours before basically being awake feeding and dozing in my arms for the day. I don't sleep well co sleeping and I can't catch up on sleep during the day as she either sleeps on me with her head next to the boob or in a moving pram or sling. Everyone from my ante natal classes can lay their babies down to sleep and I feel lile such a failure that I can't. I'm the only one who can put Helen to bed and she needs me to nap, I just feel so tired and overwhelmed. I have the no cry sleep solution but just feel it's not going to work for me.I'm on the brink of giving up BF and handing DH baby and formula and telling him to sort everything out.
Today I tried controlled crying even though I know you're not ment to. She fell asleep after I went back at 10 mins but only slept for 20 mins before she woke up crying and I couldn't bear to do it again. Now I hate myself for being so cruel to her and am worried I have damaged her forever. Please can anybody suggest anything or reassure me that even a situaation as bad as mine will get better?
Thanks for reading