Is anyone else doing IVF due to there being no other chance of having a child?

[africaqueen]

I know it seems a odd question as obviously those of us wanting/having IVF need it to assist in our goal of becoming a mum, but i wondered how many of us have completely no chance of EVER getting pg without IVF?
I see a lot of ladies with unexplained infertility and some where they have tried so long its the next step, but wondered how many women are in my situation of knowing there is no chance whatsoever of ever having a child without IVF? Not even the tiniest chance... I have no tubes and i must admit, today it truly dawned on me, that there is no possible miracle for us... the only way i will ever be a mum to our biological child is if IVF works and its upset me. I have had fertility issues with pcos and hormone issues for yrs and always knew i would struggle before the loss of both our babies an my tubes, but now to know i will never get pregnant unless its done in a lab... its heartbreaking. I am not on a downer, but the dire reality of the situation has really hit home for me and its scary and upsetting and just wanted to knw if anyone else in same/similar situation? xxx

 

[wannabmum]

Hi huni firstly huge so sorry you are feeling so low this journey really is a roller coaster isn't it, DH & I are in exactly the same situation the only difference being for is it is MF the only chance for us is if IVF/ICSI works as he has azoospermia (no sperm at all in the ejaculate) I used to feel the same as you in so much of the fact the harsh reality that we would never be able to conceive without it being in a clinical enviroment, knowing that I would never be able to just surprise him with the fact we are preg but now I'm trying to do my upmost to take a positive spin on the situation in so much as being grateful for the advances in technology that allow is the prospect of having a family as if it wasnt for these fantastic procedures & people that do it we would be in a situation where there would be no possibility. If you ever need to talk/rant I'm here for you huni


xxxxx

 

[africaqueen]

Thank you for responding wannabe mum. I wish neither of us were in this situation but it feels good to knw i have support and you are right. If IVF was not availble... well i cnt bare to think of it. I read your siggie and can i ask what happened when u adopted your baby? or did i read it wrong? we are hoping to start IVF in the spring so pray we get to be bump buddies xxx

 

[misseycat1]

Hi Africa queen,be reassured that you are not alone. Like you our only way of concieving is IVF,also for me due to tubal problems. At first I was devasted and like you got very low(crying all the time) but then it began to sink in and I just clung on to the hope that IVF gives. Without it we would never have the family we dream of.We had our first round of IVF this summer and were blessed. I still can't believe it. We've come so far and it hasn't been easy but be assured IVF is getting so much better as science progresses and more and more success stoires are now out there(i'm one of them) Keep positive, stay strong with your partner and I wish you all the luck in the world for your treatment when you start. xx

 

[hayley1982]

Ive heard of women getting pg with no tubes before.i know its rare but it can happen.we are all here for you lovey

 

[teapot]

if you're feeling down.

Me too, blocked tubes - well, there was "minimal spill" on one of my tubes at lap & dye, but the tubes all scarred (& when nothing's happened in 8 yrs...), so the Gynae bloke said IVF was the only way for us.

As the others have said, at least there is IVF/ICSI. I've struggled with the thoughts that all the temping/OPKs & symptom spotting I did in the past was a big old waste of time. I have to admit, that IVF doesn't excite me, it terrifies me, but I know if I don't give it a chance, I'll regret it big time in the future.

It's all too clinical & unromantic for me, but then my SIL said that the 'natural' conception of my nephew was fairly unromantic & that she'd have a word with my FS!! ha ha

Concentrate on the good stuff, there is help out there, we're very fortunate to have access to this treatment. If we were born 30 years earlier, we'd have no choice. Best of luck to you & I hope you get on that list soon.


xx

 

[ZumbaQueen]

Im with you AfricaQueen. I am in the same boat as wunnabmom, my DH has no sperm. So our fertility specialist told us our only option was ICSI not even to go thru with IVF. My DH also has hormone problems with his testertone levels so we are still learning more about this situation. Im pretty nervous about it all to be honest, its all so new and its a lot to go through. So don't get discouraged and stay strong. WIshing everyone lots of luck. Hugs to you all.

 

[wannabmum]

Thanks huni it would be fab if we could end up bump buddies

Of course you can ask the baby we were adopting was my sisters he came home from hospital with us was with us for nearly 3 weeks only for them to change their minds first we knew was when police turned up at our house after 9.15pm he was then back there for 2 & half weeks then back with me along with his sisters on a cpo so he his currently still with me and has been again since 3 weeks past monday but just till social services get everything sorted and he goes back again defiantly not an easy situation at all its tearing us apart emotionally but I have to be there for him and put my own feelings aside so what can I do.

xx

Thank you for responding wannabe mum. I wish neither of us were in this situation but it feels good to knw i have support and you are right. If IVF was not availble... well i cnt bare to think of it. I read your siggie and can i ask what happened when u adopted your baby? or did i read it wrong? we are hoping to start IVF in the spring so pray we get to be bump buddies xxx

 

[wannabmum]

To all you other girls also hoping you all get your BFP soon and we can all joing the preg forums

xxxx

 

[puppymom32]

Sarah,
It will happen for us and I am so glad someone decided to create IVF as I cant imagine not even having a shot of having a baby. So lovely to know even though it sucks that we are not alone. Big Hugs. We will get our 2011 BFPs!!! Good Luck to everyone.

 

[africaqueen]

Amen to that Amy! how are u doing?

Thanks for all replies and positive take on things ladies. Starting to feel better about it all now and just cnt wait to get started

As regards getting pg with no tubes... there is a 1% chance of that but obviously it would be a ectopic in a different area as there is nowhere for the egg to go except where it shouldnt so we are being very careful regards that xxx

 

[puppymom32]

I'm good babes just waiting in limbo forever too it feels like. Just wish we could start right now. I am so impatient. I asked my Dr about BC for fear of an ectopic somewhere else and he said no way it wouldnt happen. I'm like really bcuz who would of thought 3 ectopics would have happened I feel I am definetly the exception versus the rule. We havent been safe at all. I guess there is still a little bit of me hoping by some miracle the egg could just magically fall in the right place.