Is anyone here ttc BECAUSE of their age?

[Shelley71]

Yep. I'm 40 and he's 35 and next month marks the third anniversary of our first date. We have no plans to get married, so that's not an issue - but we do want a family. There is no way that I would be worrying about this so much if it wasn't for my age. Otherwise, we would be enjoying more time together, but unfortunately our alone time is coming to an end because of my age. That is IF I can get pregnant - not happening so far.

 

[chubbin]

I'm sort of in the same position with wanting a second child, I don't think its controversial its a very real and valid concern.

Things are just settling down after a job change, LO is sleeping though and we have a great routine. I'm scared about what work will say if I get pregnant. I'm worried about disrupting our routine. We'll probably need to look at getting a bigger house, bigger mortgage and so it goes on but unfortunately I don't feel like I have the luxury of being able to wait much longer to start TTC as I am also 40 and can almost hear the clock ticking away. The other things I can reclaim at a later date though, completing my family has to take top priority due to my age.

to everyone!

I can relate to everything in this post. I would also add that I would like my LO to have a sibling close in age to them. Not necessarily because it would be nice for them (although its cool if it is), but because I want to get pregnancy and the nappy years out of the way asap. I still fantasise about sleep

 

[silktree]

honestly, if I had time, I would wait 5 more years before TTCing. hubby and I have been together 9 years, but we have such a great life full of our careers, travel, doing what we want when we want. Ive never had that huge urge, but always wanted children 'at some point'. so I do feel we are trying now as I dont want to miss our chance, but ideally I would wait if I had time. we did a big trip to australia last year as a big trip before kids, but theres so many other places Id love to visit.

someone once told me to try sooner than you want, I wish I had done that now I realize it can take time. also I think once you have kids all the feelings of wanting to travel and no time for yourself will vanish and be overshadowed by the love!

Same here. Hubby and I (both of us are 36) have been together for a looong time and we've had such a great time travelling, socialising and doing what we want without homely responsibilities. That changed a bit last year with buying a dog and not being free to just take off abroad at the weekend. With fertility decreasing after the age of 35, my thoughts are that I should not postpone much longer. I have booked in for a bloodtest at CD21 to see whether there are any issues although so far I noticed along with starting a FF chart that my luteal phase is 15 days with my follicular phase varying from 10 days to 13 days i.e irregular AF. This month my follicular phase was only 10 days so it looks like I'm going to have to change my ticker!