Is it better...

[JellyBeann]

I had a dream DH cheated on me the other night, it killed me when I first woke up, I actually believed he'd cheated, but then I remembered, I don;t think I could lose him, so I'd rather not know what I was missing at all!

 

[rosie5637]

better to have loved then lost i think.

i am divorced and although it was painful at the time i don't regret getting married. i look back on the years we were together with fondness, some great memories. i suppose it helps that we have remained good friends.

 

[Tiff]

Definitely better to have loved and lost.

I don't believe in the ostrich approach (ie: Head in the sand) to life. You need to be out there, living it. Yes, love hurts. Love scars. There's a song written about it. But to not ever have that exhilarating feeling when he calls, or when you know you are going to see him.

It reminds me of my favourite quote from Moulin Rouge: "The greatest thing you'll ever learn, is just to love and be loved in return". It is SO true!

 

[SKATERBUN]

I think we all have to be prepared to loose something we love someday its enevitable and we are equipped as humans to deal with grief and disapointment. The feat of dealing with it is what makes us grow stronger as individuals.
I think I would feel sad to have gone through my entire life without experiencing any love otherwise my life would be empty and souless
I appreciate everyday I have with everyone and that is what counts, so no point in dwelling on what may or may not happen

 

[rubixcyoob.]

Loved and lost.

O/T but this just reminds me of a song Up Against the Wall by Boys like Girls.

 

[redpoppy]

For me it would depend on Love and the definition of it.

If someone thinks they love you whilst being abusive, disrespectful, aggressive and generally not very loving, or causing you pain and unhappiness MOST of the time even without being those things and you love them (and they love you) then probably best to never have loved at all.

But if you loved in a real, true, caring, respectful, head over heels, symbiotic, two way give and take, sharing, growing together, learning and bettering each other kind of how it should be and feels as though it extends beyond the normal and factual to some magical level then definitely better to have loved and lost as the experience will leave you a better, richer, more rounded and experienced person afterwards, despite hurting you emotionally more than almost anything else ever when you lose it.

Haha! This rmeinds me of the legality of drugs thread. Just because Love can potentially ruin lives, doesn't mean we should ban it.

 

[Dopeyjopey]

@ redpoppy!

I don't think it is just the type of love, it's also the type of loss. When the person you love cheats or becomes a nasty person in a different way, you resent having loved them, which is a shame because love feels good!

 

[redpoppy]

@ redpoppy!

I don't think it is just the type of love, it's also the type of loss. When the person you love cheats or becomes a nasty person in a different way, you resent having loved them, which is a shame because love feels good!

Well, I haven't had romantic love fail like that but I have had relationships where someone I loved and who was very close to me turned into a horrible and spiteful and hurtful individual.

I still am glad to have known the person he used to be and have that person influence my life.

It SOOOO hurtful and confusing when they change but in a way you have to treat it as though the person you knew died and was replaced by some horrible being.

 

[Dopeyjopey]

That's a good way to look at it. I just feel like a fool! Suppose I should just conce.trate on all the poaitive things i gained from him

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

Depends on the kind of love you mean.

I think it's better to feel love (like you would for a partner) and lose them than not know.

I don't like the feeling of losing my MIL who I lost & loved. If that makes any sense.