Is it hard to let baby go see dad??

[Mumtobe 1]

Hey girls.... Me and baby's dad ain't together no more,, and he being nasty and ain't txt or any thing,,, but when baby is here he is going to want to see the baby... I am finding it really hard to think my baby going be away from me for 2days or so... How hard is it going to be?? Plz help x

 

[LoolaBear]

when the baby is first born you do not have to let FOB have more than a couple of hours contact as baby will be dependant on you alone especially if you plan on breast feeding so dont worry about it too much even in court it tends to be nothing longer than a couple of hours until 6-9 months.

 

[Mumtobe 1]

Oh right... That's a gr8 help thank u x

 

[jaytee146]

my lo is a year and hasn't done a over night with fob. he's kept Her For Maybe seven hours Consecutively and that's because we'reDoing a graduated visitationSchedule. like pp said, don't worry about that right now. just focus on that sweet baby! he has aRight to see his child but if he can't respect you or be civil all bets are out the window

 

[teal]

I don't have any contact with my ex but I imagine, provided he isn't abusive etc, that you're doing the right thing for your LO by letting him/her have a relationship with their father. I agree with what was said above that initially, while LO is young, it will only be for a few hours xx

 

[HerMOM]

Hi everyone I'm currently 17wks and im going through a very very tough time with the FOB. Initially the thought of a baby wasnt what he wanted and I considered not keeping the LO but we came together and decided to keep her. Our relationship was rocky prior to being preg and is still to this day. I live with him four hours away from my family and I have always considered him to be my family since i have been with him but since our relationship is at its worst it seems I have been thinking to leave him. I think that leaving him is what is best for the baby and I but as far as our relationship goes its like doing him a favor to leave and seems to give him the green light to going back to his old ways (partying, irresponsible, inconsiderate..etc) basically everything i would never want my LO around. I know that its important for my daughter to have a relationship with her father when she is here but do i really want her to be around someone who doesnt respect me or treat me right? I want her to grow up with a fatherly figure who will show her how she should be treated and have someone to look up to. Is it wrong that I want to consider my daughter not being around her father because of the way he treats me??? I just think every expecting man should strive to be the man they want their son to be or to be the man they want there daughter to be with. .....

 

[taylor197878]

my baby is 2 on thur and she still doesnt stay at her dads she is far to young although my ex does come up and c her and the other 2 we have togther every few days he also takes brooke out all day once a week and he takes the other 2 overnight.

even though he is the dad its so hard to let go the first time he took brooke a nearly cried she was away all day from me an its not nice as we spend all our time togther.

but she enjoys and im starting to enjoy the piece and quiet.

 

[beanzz]

FOB see's LO on a Tuesday for 1 hour at mine, Thursday for 1 hour at mine and Sunday for 3-4 hours at his.

He'd see him for longer in the week if he didn't work so much. you don't have to send LO off for 2 days ur FOB can see LO a few hours a day if that's what you'd prefer! Plus when babies are newborn they need to be with mummy a lot