Is it just me???

[JASMAK]

Or does it seem that there is alot of replies to posts from people who really shouldn't be posting here (and some of those replies are inconsiderate). Just have been noticing it.

 

[honey08]

well ive not posted in ere till now, but thought we cud post anywhere anyways?

 

[Vestirse]

What exactly is your definition of "really shouldn't be posting here"?

 

[FJL]

I haven't noticed anything but in saying that I haven't been doing much reading lately as I haven't had time, so mainly popping in the journal section.

I actually consider people posting pregnancy tickers (only refering to non LTTTC'ers) to be pretty rude. I would appreciate people having the courtesy of turning them off when posting in here. I know this isn't a 'rule' as such, but I would think that it would be common sense.

 

[CareBear]

I've noticed a one or two inconsiderate comments, one by a new person in a thread that came across very rude.

 

[mer01]

i hope you dont mean me?



xx

 

[littlemorag]

I think it might have been me,

I am so sorry ladies, you are right, I forgot I was replying in a thread and not in a journal.

I certainly didnt mean to upset or offend.

I remember a thread when it was mentioned that some ladies while ttc for the first 3 months come to lttc and are perhaps insensitive by saying 'i am devastated i am not pg yet' etc.

I recognised that I was one of those people (although i didnt post in lttc) but now I am a little further on I can perhaps cope a little better with it.

However, I in no way am implying that it gets easier as time goes on and am aware that I am still at the start of my ttc journey.

Please accept my sincere apologies

Moragx

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

i really cant say iv noticed anything lately.. but i havent done much reading.. im struggling to read as i lost my glasses...

 

[Mynxie]

truthfully I only read threads in here if they stick out in their titles and are on the index, or if I'm in the mood to be able to cope with LTTTC iykwim? I hold my hands up and say that I'm not coping well and haven't for a long time and that I don't think we'll ever have a sucessful pregnancy now. Sometimes I wonder why I come here but there's alot of lovely people here whose posts make me smile n stuff - and it's my safe haven iykwim?

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

i no what you mean. its nice to have ppl come over for support and well wishes but it gets you down when you see all the pregnancy tickers.. ppl should turn them off when they come in here.
were very fragile ladies...

Big hug hunni
xxxxxxxxxx

 

[tracybirduk]

I have seen a few that have made me reel! But I think it is ignornace rather than milicious (sp). I suppose some people who have fallen 'easily' dont understand our heartache, but are usually posting with a good heart.

Tracy xx

 

[Faerie]

Firstly I don't think you can just turn off your signature (prob me being dumb) but I did just delete mine with baby stages on it.

I only ever post in here when I think I can be of some help maybe. I ttc'd for 2 years but had spent 5 years before that being told I couldn't ever conceive. I have endo, one tube, one ovary functioning, hormonal imbalance and multiple mcs - so I guess that sometimes I post in the hope of giving someone in similar situation hope, as I am now pregnant finally.

Saying that I can obviously totally understand the tickers being upsetting, and also would be pissed off if I saw someone in here gloating how they fall easily or whatever

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

you can when you write your msn in advanced it says atthe bottom when u scroll down turn off ticker.
plus u started in here.. you struggled, you felt the pain we do.
i dunno the posts that its intended 2 but im tlking genral..

 

[Arcanegirl]

There is a box below your quick reply that says "show your signature" you can tick it or untick it.

Ive not really noticed any posts from someone who shouldnt be here but i may have missed one.

 

[Faerie]

Thanks girls, I'm obviously a div, never noticed that box before!

 

[Arcanegirl]

I can understand the tickers upsetting people, though i dont tend to turn mine off. Those who know me know the long journey i had and are usually happy to see mine so ive not felt the need to turn it off, if someone said to me that it upset them then i would go ahead but noone has said that to me.

Girls please remember this section is for those who need assisted conception aswell, not just long termers. Some people know they need help before reaching the 12 month mark so may not "appear" to have been ttc long but have known problems.

 

[FJL]

AG - I personally don't find LTTTC'er preg tickers upsetting, it makes me happy that you girls got pregnant and I know how much you deserve it. My prob is with people that haven't struggled (eg, preg within 12 months without AC) that don't turn their tickers off. I just find myself rolling my eyes. I wish I didn't but I do.

 

[CurlySue]

To be honest there was one the other day that sounded so positively flippant and carefree about a person's worries and it kind of made me look sideways.

 

[Arcanegirl]

Ive now seen the posts this tpic is maybe referred to....

I dont really know what to suggest girls, these posts are from new people who ovb dont fully understand this section but i there isnt really a way of stopping them replying to posts in here

 

[FJL]

I think I just saw the post that inspired this thread too AG. All I can say is that if non LTTTC'ers want to post in here then of course thats fine but if we ask them to remove their PG ticker, or comment on their ignorant comments then they have to be accepting of that.

Sound fair?