Is it normal to want to keep your maiden name?

[cocokitten]

Hi all

Just wondering if many people are(or have if already married) keeping their maiden names, or double barrelling it or keeping it as a middle name?

My OH is really touchy about this issue, is that normal do you think? so i think if i actually want to get married we have to at least compromise by keeping both!

I just cant make my mind up wether to get rid of my maiden name completely, I'm the last one to have it, and its MY NAME if you get what i mean, feels like id be doing away with my identity

Anyone else have any of these thoughts before?

 

[Pops]

I thought I would be a bit sentimental about my name but I can not wait to be Mrs Boyo. I think I'll always be a ******** but I am very excited to be a **** too, our own little family, me, my boyo and our baby girl

I am fond of my name and I'm sure more than once I'll still call myself it but I am defiantely taking my husbands name

xxx

 

[jackiea85]

I took my husband's surname as I wanted us all to have the same name when we had a family, and also because I hated my maiden name (Burke!). It's totally up to you hun, lots of people keep their maiden names or double barrel them now x

 

[24/7]

I can't to become Mrs *****, for me it's one very exciting part of getting married. x

 

[cocokitten]

I dont know if im wild about his surname though.....

feel so bad saying that but...

if it was jones or whatever i wouldnt think twice...

 

[Kimboowee]

Im not taking my OHs surname completely. Im double barreling it! His name surname doesn't go with mine yet it fits really well with my name so im going for it!

Have you spoke to him about it?

 

[Logan's Mum]

My OH's surname is all right, common-ish, and suits me. But its not me, my surname means too much to me, even though its my dad's surname and I dont ever see him now. If I dont take his surname though I will be the only one in his family who hasnt, so am double-barrelling it. Sounds a daft combination but dont care Do whatever makes you happy, as you will have to live with your choice!

 

[cocokitten]

yeah, hes fine about me keeping mine as long as i take his as well.

I kind of understand why he's like this...or do you think i should tell him where to go on this one?
i really cant decide, I said i wouldnt mind our kids having just his surname but ITS MY NAME!lol feels really important to me, but then being married to him is too

 

[cocokitten]

My OH's surname is all right, common-ish, and suits me. But its not me, my surname means too much to me, even though its my dad's surname and I dont ever see him now. If I dont take his surname though I will be the only one in his family who hasnt, so am double-barrelling it. Sounds a daft combination but dont care Do whatever makes you happy, as you will have to live with your choice!

same for me, it will sound silly double barrelled but i'll be the last one to keep my dads surname.

 

[Lil_Baby_Boo]

I'm taking my OH's name - I do love my surname, it makes me feel proud TBH, My Grandad and his father were scottish and my grandads mum was spanish -so there was quite a mix.
My OH's surname is quite unusual - I am a bit worried of sounding like a one hit wonder pop star but I think I'll have to go as my full 'Samantha' when were married.

New name, new start - thats the way I see it. I will always be a "my surname" and I'll always proud of where it came from - Scottish Roots
xx

 

[Deb_baby]

i really want to keep my last name when we get me & OH get married. ive mentioned it to him but dont think he has really taken me on, i think id probably double barrel but use my last name last and still be what i am just with a mrs at the front.

 

[sparkle]

I will miss my surname because its unusal but I cant wait to have the same surname as OH and my son. Even if it is Horn!!!

x

 

[hopeandpray]

I'm not even engaged yet but i know that i will be keeping my own name. i love my name, i love my family and i'm not at all keen on my OH's name. i want to be a doctor and i know it sounds petty but Doctor D**** sounds wrong. i don't think it means i'm any less committed to him and when we have kids if he wants us to have the same name he can take mine. also his father is a monster and i do not want to continue his legacy in any way

 

[cocokitten]

I don't think many men would be keen to take on their wifes name!

But it is annoying how touchy men can be on this subject

 

[kiki]

I'm not taking my OH's surname. Our son has his name through my choice but my DD (not his) has mine. Also, this is my 2nd marriage and I really don't want to go through all the hassle of changing again after I changed back to my maiden name 1st time round.
Plus the fact I can't stand the rest of his family so why would I want their name???

xxx

 

[bubbles123]

Completely normal! I would advise that you get married and leave your name as it is for a while. That's what I did. Get used to being married first then decide on your name. I don't mean to sound harsh but ignore what your OH thinks, it's not his name and he doesn't have to live with it!

I eventually changed my name a year after I got married but kept my maiden name as my middle name and gave our son my maiden name as a middle name too. It was entirely my choice and I mainly did it to have the same surname as my son and if I'm entirely honest I still don't think of my husband's name as my name which is why I kept my maiden name as a middle so I can still use it. I was really lucky though in that my OH had no opinion on the subject as he knew it has nothing to do with how I felt about him and that after living with my name for 30 years it was as important to me as his name is to him.

So my advise is get the wedding out the way and see how you feel later rather than rush into something you might regret X

 

[Lover]

I love my OH's surname so I'll be taking his. It's double barreled already so I wouldn't add my surname even if I wanted to

I don't see my dad or his side of the family so my surname doesn't mean much to me and I never liked it anyway