Is it only me who feels like they have to be their own doctor?

[MamaNess]

Ok, so if you've been through a high risk pregnancy, and or a MC you are probably as pregnancy educated as I am.... If not more.

My story....

I'm 32 and gave birth to a DD last December. The pregnancy was high risk, and I bled almost daily with a hemmhorrage.

I got pregnant again in May only to have an early MC at 4w 4d. In that pregnancy, I spotted on 9 and 10 dpo very light brown. Didn't have any pain... Test lines were always light and faint. Woke up on 4w 4d to a period and an hcg of 12. Nice....

We tried again ASAP, and I am now 4w 4d today. However, on 9 & 10 dpo I spotted the same tan brown discharge (same days as with the chemical pregnancy). Thought it was over. I had a stock of FRER and $ tree tests and thought I'd test till no line was there. To my surprise, the line kept getting darker. At 14 dpo the test line got as dark as control....15 and 16 dpo the test line is darker than control a smidge but no change between 15 and 16 dpo.

Had my first prenatal appt this morning which for lack of better words pissed me off. First of all, they didn't collect urine? Ok.... Then I told them I was having UTI pains and they still didn't want my urine. I told doc about the spotting on day 9 and 10. He asked if I had cramping those days and I said not really.... I asked if it could be residual IB since it was light brown. He said no. REALLY? Ok..... I could have sworn I read that 100 times somewhere online...... He said he wasn't very optimistic but we will have "hope". I was in the same exam room as the ultrasound machine and asked if he would scan me. He said it was too early to see anything. I said "even a sack? I thought you could at least see a sack... I have been having shoulder pain and wanted to rule out ectopic" he answered. It's too soon to see a sack and what does your shoulder have to do with ectopic?

Mmmmkkkk... Again I guess I'm an idiot. So, He sent me to get beta and I asked if he wanted me to repeat in 72 hours.... He said, no.... Next week is fine.

Again.... REALLY.?

So, my big question is, did any of y'all have a line that stayed the same a couple of days and everything turn out ok? Is all hope lost? I sure feel like he thinks so...

Thanks for reading my rant lol... At least he gave me my rhogam shot! Woo hoo!

 

[anxious mommy]

I rarely test more than once since the darkness of the line past a certain point can be pretty subjective test to test. In fact, this time my OB told me outright that beyond telling you pregnant or not pregnant, your home tests are pretty useless for all other pregnancy reassurance and after a certain points even beta tests are unreliable for dating a pregnancy. Brown spotting can be completely harmless, especially without cramping. Good luck and fingers crossed.

 

[Woofie1015]

I'm sorry your appointment went so badly MamaNess. The doc sounds like kind of a jerk. I'd be shopping for a new OB if I were you!

 

[dairymomma]

Some doctors are just idiots and I've found that I have to be my own doctor even with my specialist OB sometimes. I quit my former doctor because she was predicting miscarriage at 5+3 based solely on 3 things-1. I got pregnant 'too fast' according to her after a miscarriage (no AF between loss and bfp), 2. my hCG was high enough even though it was in the 'normal' range and rising at a decent rate, and 3. I was spotting/lightly bleeding. I couldn't handle having such a negative attitude from my doctor even if I sort of understood her viewpoint. I've had 8 losses while under her care and I get that she's as frustrated that we can't find any concrete answers for my fertility issues as I am. I get that her frustration got the better of her but I couldn't handle her attitude on top of my anxiety and fear so I switched to my current OB (who has also done the majority of my recurrent miscarriage testing). He's been amazing. Not one negative word, hasn't 'pish-tushed' me at all even when I've called his office directly with yet another freak out, saw me every 1-2 weeks during the first tri and did a quick ultrasound to verify there was still a hb as I continued bleeding from 5+3 to 10+4 and I've had a 14 week loss so I don't breathe until 15 weeks at least. I still have to tell him things that I've learned on here and he usually just takes what I say with a grain of salt but his understanding attitude and willingness to look into alternatives have more than made up for that. I'm now 37 weeks and counting. Love that I'm proving my former doctor's dire prediction wrong!

 

[silmarien]

Ugh. Doctors are idiots. I concur. They don't expect patients to know jack shit, and when I do start rattling off facts I've learned, they dismiss it. ONLY THEIR WORD IS RIGHT. I skip the next doc visit if my docs are like that and move onto greener pastures with a doctor willing to listen patiently and answer my counterpoints, and then explain their point of view.