Is it time to get checked out?

[nikinabox]

Hi ladies.

I wanted to start with thanking you all for taking the time to read this, and also to apologize if I'm out of line for posting in this section, but none of the other threads seemed to fit my situation. I know so many of you have been struggling with TTC for much longer than I have, and because of that, your wisdom, and stories could help me if you wouldn't mind. I'm sure it's frustrating to see someone waltz in here TTC for 3 months, so I'm hoping my timeline (1 year) isn't offensive to you.

DH and I are both 28, we've officially hit our year mark (hit and missed) in TTC. Like many of you in my situation, I feel that I've done all that I can. From charting to preseed... from eating right, OPKs, to having DH wear boxers instead of boxer briefs.

It's just not happening. On top of that, since I've been off birth control (over a year now) my periods have changed. I spot for 2 days, then get my period (very very heavy) for 2 days, and then it goes away. Sorry if it's TMI, but it's mostly brown and seemingly only a little red. I've read about issues like this, but was hoping to hear from real people if you can relate to me. I wasn't concerned, until I realized that we'd been ttc for a year now with no luck, so I am going to call my doctor and set up an appt. or even just get information on fertility testing.

If you look at my chart history... you can see that I've been ovulating late, and that I tend to get my period around 11-12 DPO. It's fluctuating a lot.

What do you think? Can any of you relate? I, like many of you, just feel so defeated. I tend to be a perfectionist in most areas of my life, so to not succeed at something you try so hard to achieve... I don't know, it just kills me. We can't wait to be parents, but it looks like we have to.

 

[Emmi]

I know how frustrating and heartbreaking it all is.

I would suggest that you go to your doctor and get some blood tests done - to see if you are ovulating etc. Also - get your hubby to have his sperm tested. You need to see first of all if there are any initial fertility issues.

It is such a difficult journey but I think once you take the step to see if there any issues, you do feel that you are doing something positive to help

 

[Petzy]

I agree! Its proactive after this amount of time to start taking the steps to see if all is in working order or not. Most things, are not complicated to solve, and those that are, well thank goodness for modern medicine!

I started going to a private clinic a year after we started TTC... I ended up getting pregnant right as we began the testing. I had a M/C but I am still with the clinic and back In the TTC game. They are very knowledgeable and it makes you feel good to know you are doing something about it. It certainly cant hurt ; and it can be very informative and exciting too.

I wish you the best in your TTC journey! Lets hope for our sticky beans soon xx

 

[nikinabox]

Thanks ladies.

I really appreciate the support. I wanted to tread lightly here because I know there are some people who have been going through it for so long, and I wanted to be careful not to offend.

Like you said, I'll feel that I'm doing something positive and in the right direction if I go to the dr. so I'll be setting that up as soon as possible.

I hope all of us get our sticky beans soon. I'm sorry to hear about your misfortune in the TTC area... I wish the best for you ladies!

 

[Petzy]

One year is enough time to want to start investigations... that being said, it is entirely possible that there is nothing wrong and its only matter of time, but there is no harm in beginning to see what is going on, so that you can have confidence that you are doing what you need to do, to get that BFP !

Good luck to you, you are in good hands on this forum!

 

[Myshelsong]

I agree it is best now that it has been a full year with no luck to search for some answers. Book an appointment with your Dr and make sure you DH is on board for testing. They will want to do blood work for you right away and possibly a SA for him just to see how everything is going.

Good luck, I hope your journey is a short on.e

 

[JenniferS92]

Hiya .. i would urge you to seek help at this point.. whether you are worried about seeking help or not .. i'm telling you this from personal experience .. Oh was scared to go as was i and i didn't want to push him and stress him out when we all know the best thing is to not get stressed!

That was 3 years ago now and i look back and wish that i just made the appointment with the doctor and get it over and done with!!

We have only just gone through with the doctors ourselves in September to be referred and have our first appointment in nov which unfortunately we had to change to the 13/12 just gone so this Thursday (19/12) we get the results from my OH's Semen analysis appointment and then they will talk to both of us regarding were we go from here.

Please don't wait as long as we did .. It'll be worth it for your own peice of mind and wellbeing and getting a BFP finally .. i'm about at any time to talk to if you need GL

xx

 

[Pinkie3]

Most doctors will start doing tests after one year of TTC so I think now is the right time to start the investigations. There are quite a lot things to look into, for me it took nearly a year to have all our tests, lots of blood work, a couple of SA for the OH, I had my tubes and womb checked etc. I am sure it will be quicker if you go privately but it can be quite a long progress.

Sorry to hear of your struggles with TTC it is a very emotional journey no matter how long its been. Good luck with all your tests and lets hope we all get out sticky beans soon