Is This Insensitive Or Am I Over Reacting???

[givinguphope]

Here's a little history for you all.

Have been trying for 4 yrs.

Two weeks ago had IUI and on wed got signs of the which was on 11dpiui. I was completely . As it was early and from reading on here I was hoping it was implantation blood but had more today, so I thought I would test and it was

My MIL has been told and then tonight calls to tell me that my DH's cousin gave birth to her twins earlier today. I couldn't talk to her and had to pass the phone to my DH.

When he finished the call and I shouted how "insensitive I think she was" all he could reply was "it's not always about you"!!

I know my hormones are all over the place but am I over-reacting or was this slightly insensitive of her?

Sorry for this long thread but still quite new to this and couldn't explain it quicker.


to you all and hoping you all get your for xmas.

 

[miel]

 

[sam's mum]

Some people just don't think sometimes, or understand unless they have been there x

 

[Mynxie]

sweetie, it's hard and sometimes every birth announcement or "guess who is pregnant" conversation stings like a dagger through your heart. No advice to give, juat a hug xx

 

[Lazy Leo]

 

[littlestar]

 

[SianMA]

I think that people who haven't ever had difficultly TTC just wouldn't think that someone else's happy news could make us feel so awful.

You're not overreacting and hearing that kind of thing without a warning can feel like a knife in the guts, but most of the time the other person really doesn't mean to upset us - might be worth just mentioning that the news came as a shock and you'd rather not hear that kind of thing over the phone or without warning?

 

[pixielou]

Very difficult situation, obviously they want to share the news but it's hard to know what to do. Totally understand how you feel.
X

 

[Brambletess]

It is a bit unsensitive as you are going to be greiving to a certain extent right now, but she probably does not understand or realise the extent of how it feels, people don't unless they have been through it. I am sure she would not want to cause you pain. I am sorry to hear it didn't work this time.

 

[gymfiend]

You're not overreacting - horribly insensitive
My OH's sister is half way through her pregnancy and the other day was whining saying post baby she will be getting the implant straight away because she couldn't bear to be pregnant again. I almost burst into tears at the table. But I guess they don't understand huh...

 

[Bexy]

It really does get harder and harder to hear this sort of news and like others have said before, I think if people haven't been through any difficulty ttc then they cannot appreciate how sensitive the whole subject is!!

There never seems to be a week go by when a friend or relation hasn't just fallen pregnant or given birth and all I can think about is when will it be our turn!

Big to you and perhaps hubby could mention to his mum how the whole thing is affecting you all and she needs to think before she speaks...

xxx

 

[Schmelly]

That must have really hurt. I'm sure your MIL didn't mean to make you feel so terrible, but I understand how awful it must have been for you to hear this news ANYWAY, never mind the timing, which sucked

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[mwmm]

Awwww, it's not nice is it-I have usually held it together everytime the dreaded call has arrived with news of a birth, but, at the moment i am waiting for my first IVF,......i have to say that whether it be a failed IUI or IVF, if i got a call at that particular time, i think it would crush me too-
2 female members of the family had 7 terminations between them in the space of 5 years whilst i was trying to get pregnant(still trying:0(), and although i personally believe that every woman has that choice, i found it very very tough going because of the number of them, and because it wasn't handled with sensativity, but then, at that time, i had kept it a closely gaurded secret that i was having problems, only 'came out' over the last six months. I really do hope you are feeling better soon, and keep that chin up