Is this kind of pathetic?

[captain-ally]

My HB left about.. 2 months ago? and already I'm trying to wrack up the nerve to call an old flame. I know he's a good man (which is why I ran away from him - getting a good man all of the sudden is terrifying for some reason) but how do you tell someone you've only talked to once this past year that a) you're pregnant, and b) you wanna hook up?

I'm lonely as hell, and I know I still love this guy. I didn't think it would work out because he's 41 and I'm 22 But he's exactly the kind of guy I should be with (one who's not afraid to tell me to shut up when I'm acting like an idiot, who hates drama, and who is a sexy fox with an accent lol). Now I'm letting my imagination get away from me, thinking that because he's 41 and I know he can't have kids (I don't know if he knows..) that he might welcome a little baby into his life? Should I wait till I have her to let him know?

I'm not sure if I should even call him, it's probably not appropriate and for all I know it'll just drive him away all together and break what's left of my heart, but I almost want to know now so I can plan something further ahead than next week.

Don't know what to do...

 

[angels330]

i think if you can really see yourself with this man and being happy, you should go for it! youve got nothing to lose if he doesnt think hes ready but if you dont know what might happen you'll always be wondering. congratulations on your pregnancy! x

 

[amelia222]

I say go for it. Maybe if you do than I will be brave enough to call my ex who I am still very much in love with, but I left him for the loser who later impregnated me.

Just call him, you have nothing to lose.......(says the world's biggest hypocrite )

 

[captain-ally]

I say go for it. Maybe if you do than I will be brave enough to call my ex who I am still very much in love with, but I left him for the loser who later impregnated me.

Just call him, you have nothing to lose.......(says the world's biggest hypocrite )

Yeah, same here. There must have been some universal flux that day that made us go completely mental. Pick up your phone and call yours on the count of three, lol. We can post our horrific results later.

 

[Naya69]

i would go for it other wise it will drive you crazy thinking about what ifs xx

 

[xarlenex]

i would go for it other wise it will drive you crazy thinking about what ifs xx

Totally agree. I hate "'what if's"

 

[Pyrrhic]

Why hasn't he got in touch with you?

 

[captain-ally]

Why hasn't he got in touch with you?

He's a full out bush man - like, he lives in a cabin in the woods with a woodstove and no electricity. When I found out he got a cell phone I nearly died of shock. He's been living in town this year because he has work all winter, which is unusual. He'll answer it if it rings but I think this is the first phone he's had in almost 15 years, so he doesn't use it very much. I know he asks about me and how I'm doing, because a mutual friend of ours always lets me know (she wants us back together pretty bad, lol) but she's not sure if she told him I was pregnant or not because she wasn't sure I'd want her to.

I don't know what's worse, the what if's or the answer I don't want to hear...

 

[xJG30]

Only one way to find out..

 

[faun]

Do it, its better to find out now rather then not doing it and a few months down the line still thinking what if. If he's as great as you say even if he doesn't want a relationship he would stiil be a great friend to have and a positive male influence in your baby's life. Best of luck.

 

[PeanutButter]

i wouldn't be too concerned about his age, I'm 20 and my partner is 43 ha. If you're going to call him I would suggest keeping it casual, I mean you haven't talked to this guy in a while. Tell him you've heard he's been asking about you and you wanted to call to see how he was doing.