Is your partner supportive?

[Kitty23]

Are your partners supportive of you during ttcing?

Mine is getting on my goat lol. I have hypothyoidism, which as some people might know hinders gettings pregnant if your levels arent normal. I think my levels are normal now I've been on meds for 7 months and the symptoms have gone.

But we were talking about ttc yesterday, I was surfing online trying to find things I havent yet done to help us concieve, as you do lol, and I was telling him. He justs says it will happen one day its your thyroid!

jesus christ man! He really cant fathom that it could be anything other than my thyroid!!!

I got moody as you do lol, and he's all " every month you make up symtpoms, you try new stuff and then you get so utterly disapointed when you arent pregnant. Just relax it will happen"

I almost died when he said that, sometimes I really dont think he wants it as bad as I do .

He genuinly thinks this is fun for me, every month that soul destroying bfn. Does he really think " it will happen one day" is bloody comforting!!!

And if that wasnt bad enough his disgusting brother, just got his " f*ck buddy" pregnant, they dont live together , she's 18 and now has given up her job and is on the dole because of course being 8 weeks pregnant does that to you! And she's crying because she cant drink anymore.

It was so hard not to cry when they told everyone their news, my heart stopped beating it was horrid. And bloody DH couldnt understand why I was crying so hard on the way home!

Lol so is your DH any good? Does he support you ?
xxxx

 

[JASMAK]

I would say that my husband is pretty suportive as far as men go. We talk about the troubles we are having very openingly, and believe it or not, we even joke about it. What else can we do when we are struggling? He told me he doesn't want to do this after the age of 40. He is 36 this coming March. I thought that was very generous of him!

 

[natthecat]

My OH is very supportive as in he wants a baby too and knows I want one sooooo bad, but as for me telling him what my cervix is like today or whether i have EGCM or not, he just does not like to know.

Purelybecause, i guess when they know all the details, they get a little stage fright worrying because they have such a short window to get their Michael Phelps swimmers in order!

We had quite a lengthy thread recently about the men. were some interesting stories in there!

 

[Redfraggle]

My DH is really supportive. I try to hide how I feel a lot of the time because it makes him feel really guilty he can't give me a baby but when I am upset he is lovely. Wouldn't be able to get him to listen to any details about the physical side of things we women go through but for the emotional side he is the best.

 

[CurlySue]

To a certain extent. He will do just about anything I tell him to but he simply will not acknowledge that there is a problem. That is the one problem with him, actually. I keep reminding him just how long its been yet he simply says "It will happen."

 

[HAYS]

aww chick sometimes i think men dont really think before they speak!

To be fair my husband is very supportive, every now and again he will give me that look, or say things like 'people just tell us to relax, maybe we should try it,it might work'
that usually ends in an arguement!!!

xx

 

[Kitty23]

Lol I wish men would stop saying it will happen lol or relax! Like curly sue I hate the fact my dh won't acknowledge there might be other reasons we aren't getting pregnant.

I think I'm going to stop telling him every detail of my body lol I've also promised him some non baby making sexy time tonight lol. I may even loosen up my sperm nazi ways hah! xxxx

 

[HAYS]

I call it sexy time too, think that puts my hubby off

 

[pixielou]

I must say that my hubby is very supportive he takes whatever supplements I give him, goes to all the appointments that we have etc and is there for emotionally. I try not to bore him too much with all the symtom spotting etc as as most men he's not too impressed by all that. He does sometimes come out with funny comments but I know that he means well and is just trying to help!

 

[CareBear]

My hubby very supportive too and gets upset too when another cycle ends with no Though he remains strong when I'm really upset then once I'm feeling better he tells me how disappointed he is too which I find helps cause I don't feel so alone and it feels like we are in it together! He keeps the PMA going unlike me and will say we'll get there in the end which kinda keeps my hopes up a little bit!!

 

[CurlySue]

My OH feels bad for me when AF arrives more than anything else. Its not that he feels bad himself but that he feels bad that I feel bad.

Sometimes I wish he would actually just tell me that he is worried but he never does.

 

[FJL]

My DH is extremely supportive in absolutely every single way. He shares my bitterness, frustration, sadness, hopelessness and everything that goes with TTC. Through our first IVF cycle he was just wonderful. I was an emotional wreck most of the time and if he didn't know what to say or do, he'll just hug me and hold me and that is usually all I need.

He doesn't share my 'need to know every single bit of info' drive and if you asked him how an IVF cycle worked, he'd probably fumble through it a bit! Where as with me, I need to know every single detail about anything and everything.

But yes, i'm really lucky...there is nothing I don't share with DH be it TTC or anything else in life, including the good and the bad.

I think IF either makes you or breaks you and there are bound to be rocky moments, but over the hole, it has made us even stronger because at the end of the day on this journey, all we have is each other.

 

[Beckic]

Whilst my DH will go to the appointments with me and will take whatever supplements I throw at him and will BD when I tell him to - he will not discuss TTC with me - even after 2 and a half years of it. He gets angry with me when I cry about it - he is of the 'bottle it up and ignore it' school of men thinking. If i try to talk about how I feel he tells me to 'relax' that 'it will happen' and that i 'have so much to be happy about i should focus on that' - when I tell him this doesnt help me he gets annoyed. the other day he even said 'this isnt the most important thing going on it our live at the moment'. WHAT!!!!! it is THE ONLY thing going on in my life at the moment - everything else just doesnt matter.

i have learnt that this is his way of coping and I cant change him. so i worry and cry by myself- and have all you lovely ladies to talk to when I need it.

Bx x x

 

[Helen_26]

I have to say my husband is fantastic. It's a journey that we are on together and he has been a tower of strength to me. I'm so lucky to have him.

 

[rachelle1975]

Yeah my hubby is supportive too.

At first i think he only agreed to TTC for my benefit but now it's going down the IVF route it makes him and i know he feels like it's his fault even though it isn't.

DH bought me 50 early HPTs from ebay this month - How exciting is that!

I really fancied a month off ttc this month especially as we have our FS appt next week but he is very much up for giving it a go and determined we will not need IVF! Bless him... if practice made perfect we would definitely be perfect!

 

[Farie]

DF is very supportive but I don't think he totally understands why I get so sad. He will always give me a hug and a kiss but will often say 'it will happen' ..... he tends to say 'focus on the good things we already have' which is true ... but it doesn't help when all I want is a baby!
TBH I think he feels that if he was stressed and/or upset about it all it would put more pressure on me and that's something he wants to avoid. I'm quite stressed enough thank you