"It'll all work itself out once the babies born"

[budgie23]

....is it just me, or is anyone else sick of hearing this from friends/family???

I am sorry ladies but I need to vent, or I am going to explode!

I am so sick and tired of having this said to me...yea I get it, you think that it will make me feel better by saying it, BUT ACTUALLY IT DOESN'T!

Your doing so many things:

-Giving me false hope that once my little girl is born, a magical exorcism will happen on FOB and he will actually give a shit

-Making me dread that I still have to wait 2 more months for things to "work out"

-Making me pissed off that they haven't worked out BEFORE the baby is born

-Making me emotional

-Making me be up at 1.30am writing this post because I cannot sleep I am that stressed and angry and hurt and upset and goodness knows what else!


I am sorry for the outburst everyone, and I am sure that in some cases it does work out...but I just wish people would stop telling me what I want to hear, instead of giving it to me straight...

Rant over...thank you for reading if you have xx

 

[mixedbeautyx]

 

[whatwillbe]

Its better to let your feelings out rather than bottle them up hun, this is why i like these forums, i get to rant!! Hope your ok and it gets easier for you

 

[Jade--x]

It used to annoy me when people said that to me - I was seriously ill and everyone was saying 'it will all be better when the baby's here' - Yes it would as it was being pregnant making me so ill..But that was months away and just made it seem even further away!x

 

[lemontree12]

I got this all the time, and it got to me too, I was with my fob for 4yrs he made ne homeless and got with someone pretty much ASAP, I too barely slept with stress, hurt and worry!! I thought how is everything possibly suddenly going to be ok, my fob wants nothing to do with our baby and he refuses to even talk about it...

Well my lo arrived and everything is prefect for me and her! Fob has done really cruel things since her arriving but honestly o couldn't give a shit about him, me and my baby live a happy life together and any feelings for fob disappeared when I looked at my lo and realised what a cruel man fob was! So although your fob nay notcome around, things will be ok, u will realise whos important and who's not! I too could never see the end of the tunnel but in the short space of 2weeks my lo has brought me more happiness than anything! And I know I can say I watched every moment of her growing where it will be fob who will eventually realise what he misses out on!

Xxx

 

[Dezireey]

I got this all the time and no, things did not change when my boy was born. He is nearly two months old and his father hasn't asked about him or seen him. He doesn't give a shit, obviously. I'm usually a glass half full sort of person but there are times in life where you MUST look at something in a glass half empty way ( for your own sanity) this is one of those times.

Ignore these people and tell yourself he will never change, then better to adjust and adapt to that reality than getting your heart broken again when FOB does not man up once baby is here.

 

[RaRalalala]

Ugh I got it too, the only thing that worked out was that I realised fob was an even bigger ass than I first suspected, bottom line is you don't give a damn once lo is here because as someone else said you know they're missin out on so much and you get it all

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

I get this all the time too! I'm like no... It won't. Because it's already worked out... Fob left me, wants to play happy family with my son and his gf, I'm not allowing it, I'm taking his money. End of story lol

 

[drsquid]

im single.. only ever wanted 1 baby... pregnant with twins.. people keep acting like this is a good thing. dont get me wrong, dont wanna root against either of them but.. this really isnt what i wanted

 

[Lemonflower]

Yup I got this too!

Just vent here, write it down and get it out.

Sending you massive hugs

xxx

 

[Ceejay123]

Me and OH had a rough time when I was pregnant, I had people trying to come between our relationship, a girl found it very difficult to take it that I was pregnant and wanted to break us up. I had a pretty scary pregnancy (LO was very small). If it helps - Things did work out for me when little one arrived. People kept saying it would, I kept telling them to go to hell because it was none of their business and they didn't know what would happen. For me it did work out - Me and my OH are absolutely perfect now six months on and my LO is completely healthy. This girl has got lost because she eventually realised he wasn't going to leave me, he loved me. Don't give up hope, either way you're going to have an amazing baby It's going to be more important to you than anything. x

 

[twickywabbit]

I just smile and nod now.

 

[MommaAlexis]

Yeah I hate it too lol. He hasn't replied to a single call or text since January, is dating someone new and pretending I don't exist after we were engaged for three years and TTC. No, no, it won't work out, and I don't even want it to at this point.

 

[Laura2919]

When FOB and I split I was adamant this was the last time, we'd been here many times before! I just didn't want to keep doing it. Every time we would argue, show immense jealousy it was pathetic. He thought each time he could go off have sex with someone else and I'd take him back. Admittedly if he had come crawling back in the first 5-6 weeks I'd have taken him back because the future was scary but there came a point where I just thought this will never ever work, we aren't compatible. We got to together, he was 16 I was 18 Chloe and Jaycee came along when I was 22 and he was 20. All too young too soon.

He's moved on with his life, new girlfriend, new home and we have as little contact as possible. I've moved on with my life, I love how my life is without him.

My family would always said you'd work it out blah blah blah but I knew and now they do too so they don't say it.

 

[teal]

I'm sorry it's getting to you You're right though, it doesn't always work out. I've not seen my ex since before I found out I was pregnant, he broke up with me when I told him and cut contact.

 

[murbahlady]

"is it just me, or is anyone else sick of hearing -Giving me false hope that once my little girl is born, a magical exorcism will happen on FOB and he will actually give a shit"

NO, Its not just you at all. Ive been quoted the very same thing by well meaning mutual friends. FOB doesnt seem to realise that I need help during pregnancy as well as after bump arrives! My family are overseas which compounds the issue.

Dont waste another second worrying about something which might never be. Be happy and look after yourself and your little girl X

 

[moomin_troll]

U don't need a man for things to "work out" People can really say stupid things
Seriously if he doesn't give a shit now then I doubt he ever will and why would u even want someone to walk back in and say ok I've changed my mind I want to be a happy family now!

But really things will work out, u will have ur gorgeous baby. It's the hardest thing ule ever do but u wont even remember ur life without her/him.
Life never goes the way u plan or want, we just have to live with what's delt unfortunately x