its been a while

[lemontree12]

hey ladies havent been on in a while, been happily enjoying life with my little lady. starting a new job in sept, along with voluntary work and doing a gcse as im planning on hopefully going to university next year.
i am really loving life at the moment, a far cry from how i felt this time last year, as i struggled with pnd.

FOB has still had no contact with my daughter. my brother bumped into him out a few months back, they spent an hour chatting looking at photo of my daughter, fob apparently was crying saying he wanted to be in my daughters life apprently it was his ex( the girl he cheated on me with, lift me pregnant for after us being together for 4yrs) who stopped him seeing my daughter, she really wasnt a nice girl. he asked my brother to pass his number onto me. after thinking about it for a few days i decided to message him and say that i was willing to talk to him. i have no idea why i thought this compulsive liar was being serious, but he pretended that the phone was not his, so everything he said to my brother was a lie.

havent heard anything about him in a while until a mutual friend (was actually his friend, i meet her threw him, but she didnt agree what he done so is still friend with me) came round to my house this week, well basically fob is apparently sleeping with a bloke, and this bloke dresses up as a woman on occassions. those of you who know my story will know that fob has literally pulled every shocking line out of the book but this is just mad!! when we where in a relationship a few people had said they thought he was gay, and there was a time right at the start of our relationship when a gay bloke argued with me that fob could not possibly be my bf...
then another spin on it, my close friend who lives 2hrs away was in london today, she texted saying that she seen fob in london today with a new girl... jezzz that girl has no idea what shes letting herself for.

anyway, thought i would come on and tell what iv been up to.
xx

 

[Dezireey]

Hello hunny

Nice to hear from you again and super nice to know that you are all okay and doing well with your little girl.

Wow! your ex is a bit crazy, I thought mine was bad. Y'know maybe that explains a lot hun? that he may be gay / bi-sexual? Perhaps he is a very confused person about who he is and settling down with a family is just such a permanent thing, maybe he is really, secretly just gay and just tries to hide it or make others believe he is not. He should be true to himself and admit it though and get on with the life he should be living instead of hurting people as he goes along. Sounds like he was a bit scared of your brother and told him stuff to get him off his back?

We both know sweetie, after all this time, that our LO's are way better off without these sorts of fathers in their lives. The best we can do is let them know that we are not the type of women who just won't let them see their kids and leave it at that. I think the passage of time makes everything sit better and the pain slowly goes away. You are a strong Momma xxx

 

[moomin_troll]

Bloody hell that man needs putting down or atleast neutered hahaha

Ofcourse he was like that to ur brother, he was probably scared to get a punch in the face, which he would deserve.

Love seeing the photos of u and ur gorgeous little lady on Facebook so glad ur finally happy, u deserve it

 

[lemontree12]

to be honest i actually had a feeling that mayb he didnt want to be in her life because mayb he was gay and mayb thought it would ruin our lives. i have no idea because i was never given a reason.
well his older brother was gay and his dad disowned him, so if i was to put my bets on it id say he would be scared of his dads reaction, which is actually really sad. his family have alot to answer for, sticking by him while he disowns his child then possibly leading him to lead a life of lies. its a real shame because me being the nice person i am, i would of actually been his friend and helped him threw it.

 

[moomin_troll]

Ur far too nice, that's something I don't think I could forgive. I had an ex tell me he'd slept with a man before he knew me and that freaked me out enough lol

 

[Shezza84uk]

Bloody hell I didn't see that coming.. He's pathetic and selfish!!! If he knew he was gay or lets say he was confused or afraid he should have never got involved knowing he was emotionally and mentally unavailable however you are doing so well do not allow him to turn your world upside down because he cant get his priorities straight ( No pun intended) keep doing your thing she is such a beautiful, happy and secure little girl and you are doing great without him xx