Iugr again :(

[Dilek]

Hi

I just need somewhere to get a few things off my chest as im so upset.

I have had a previous low risk birth weight baby, my son was 2kg at birth and i was induced at 39 weeks. I measured small from 28 weeks with him and bp was creeping up. He is now a healthy 2 yr old He stopped growing at 32 weeks.

With this pregnancy im under consultant care and have had regular growth scans. My last was at 32 weeks and he was perfect.

However last week i got an email from my brother, all my family live in australia and im in london. Well the email said that my dad was going to have brain surgery as from no where his brain tumor just grew like crazy. I read the email and couldnt get in touch with anyone in oz. So in a matter of 30min i decided to travel out to sydney. My brothers email said that my dad has lost vision in 1 eye and that this surgery was worst than his 1st. So i left that night so i could make it before he had his op. Unfortunatly i didnt make it. I was under allot of stress but i tried not to get too upset.

My dad is now at home as the op went well. But ive heard allot of lies that he has been saying about me and my mum also believed me. Ive been really upset.

Ive gone off track but as i missed my 34 week check up with midwife i had it today. Im 35 weeks today and she was in a rush. Babys heartbeat good, bp perfect but she didnt mention fundal height. Once i got home i looked at notes and she wrote down 32 weeks.

I AM SO UPSET, i feel like ive caused this with all the stress ive been in and still am. I was in a fantasy thinking he was going to be a good weight. I called her and discussed what i read and she was like its the overall picutre we look at. She wasnt fussed and said more than 3 weeks they start to worry. I was straight out with her and said my son stopped growing at 32 weeks. She has now organised an appointment with hospital on friday. IM A mess.

 

[katlin]

I've not been there but hadn't in there hun and try to remember aswell fundal height can be inaccurate and can go a few weeks either way. Don't sit there and blame yourself these things happen and it is nothing you did iugr would happen weather you were stressed or not. Just hang in there till your scan it could have been a one off hang in there hun!

 

[LilyRian]

awe try not to be too upset hun, maybe she was in such a rush she got it wrong!!! my fundal height was always perfect yet my little guy had IUGR. the midwife always told me that when they measure fundal height they leave a gap of 2 inches either way so if you were measuring say 20 weeks and you were 22 weeks then they dont panic, likewise if you were 18 weeks and measuring 20 weeks!!! hope all goes well and it turns out to be just a simple mistake x

 

[Babybee5]

Hi have no advice really just wanted to say you aren't alone I've been having growth scans every 2 weeks since 26 weeks when they discovered my LO was 2 weeks behind all was good she was still 2 weeks behind but growing how she should in between scans anyway at my 34 week scan they discovered she had only grown 3 days in 15!!! I now find myself so worried the drs won't let me deliver at my local hospital unless I make 40 originally it was 34

 

[Wispyshadow]

I know saying try not to worry is not super helpful. They just make a best guess at babies weight. Hugs to you and hope to hear good news from your hospital visit.

 

[kelly6407]

I have had iugr babies, my first was 6lb, 2 weeks late although nobody diagnosed him with iugr till I had my daughter at 28w weighing 1lb 8oz. I've just went on to have another iugr baby at 39w weighing 4lb 15oz.

Like u I had growth scans, my last being 32 weeks and I was told he was growing fine and bang in the middle of the chart. However 32w is when my daily aspirin stopped which I was taking to keep pre eclampsia away. The pre eclampsia did show up at the end though and then out pops a iugr baby. However all my bump measurements were on track, always a few weeks behind but still growing.

These measurements don't actually detect iugr because they haven't in my pregnancies.
The only time my bump was cause for concern was my first baby and I had a growth scan because my bump was measuring far behind. Only to be told he was a good size (and my biggest baby)

 

[Fuchsia1412]

I think all the worries with your family are probably really affecting how you feel about everything else, the pregnancy and worrying about IUGR...If the midwife wasn't worried, even after seeing you and knowing your history, then I would relax a teensy bit (I know you'll obviously be unable to completely relax until you hear baby has grown)- because you will have been a patient to specially look out for from the beginning, so if she was even remotely worried, i'm sure she would have made more of a 'plan of action' with you, and mentioned it, and have discussed her concerns with you and other healthcare professionals. The thing is, lots and lots of people measure behind and ahead of their dates, and for most people it wouldn't worry them at all, it's in the forefront of your mind because of your previous experiences, but remember it doesn't signal a problem any more than it would for anybody else. Please don't be too upset about it it really may well be absolutely nothing, in my last pregnancy I measured up and down and all over the place, depending on how good the midwife was at using a tape measure. One said I was measuring ahead by three weeks. I told her that my scans hadn't detected this, and nor had any other midwife, and I didn't feel large- she measured me again and said 'okay i've taken off 2 centimetres, you're actually fine''. !