IVF General Chat

[vineyard]

For past and present IVFers.....

I am starting the protocol for IVF and thought it may be nice to chat with others who have been there and those who are going through it at the same time......

 

[CurlySue]

Have appointment on 15th January where will be scheduled for scans and tests and then placed on the three to four month waiting list. I hope it all goes okay...

 

[FJL]

Sounds good! We've done 1 stim cycle and 1 FET cycle (which was cancelled) will be starting on another FET cycle by the end of the week when AF should come.

 

[vineyard]

What kind of toll is all of this taking on your marriages?

 

[FJL]

TBH, I can definitely see why IVF causes divorces!!!

Me and DH are stronger than ever, but we've definitely had our moments. We were a very strong couple before IVF, but for couples that aren't, I think most of them would split up.

I think its something in life that will either make or break you as a couple. We have found communication to be the key...that, and for DH to promise that he won't take things personally when the drugs are talking!!!

 

[maz]

What kind of toll is all of this taking on your marriages?

We got a on our first IVF cycle, but unfortunately 3 days later I MCd. The whole process hasn't had any adverse effect on our relationship - if anything, DH now understands the whole TTC process better, and was made fully aware, by the clinic, of the potential mood swings that the medications could cause.

We are probably closer, post-IVF, than we were, but we're not really the argumentative kind - we rarely argue - we do have different opinions but we respect each other and don't argue and fight if we don't agree.

I am now waiting for my review appointment and then we'll decide when we go again... Oh the joys of daily injections!!!

Good luck for your cycle...

xx

 

[Helen_26]

We have our 1st IVF consultation on 26th March. I assume we will then be scheduled for tests and once approved I think it's a minimum of 12 months waiting list.
We have been ttc for 27 months and like FJL it has been tough for DH and I, but we are deffinately closer and stronger for it.

DH now understands the whole TTC process better, and was made fully aware, by the clinic, of the potential mood swings that the medications could cause.

My DH is really nervous about that. I get bad enough mood swings already!!!!!

 

[maz]

DH now understands the whole TTC process better, and was made fully aware, by the clinic, of the potential mood swings that the medications could cause.

My DH is really nervous about that. I get bad enough mood swings already!!!!!

As soon as I started my injections, I had weekly acupuncture sessions. I had no mood swings at all. This may be due to the acupuncture it may not. I don't really get mood swings with cow face anyway. Maybe it's something you could look at...

 

[Helen_26]

DH now understands the whole TTC process better, and was made fully aware, by the clinic, of the potential mood swings that the medications could cause.

My DH is really nervous about that. I get bad enough mood swings already!!!!!

As soon as I started my injections, I had weekly acupuncture sessions. I had no mood swings at all. This may be due to the acupuncture it may not. I don't really get mood swings with cow face anyway. Maybe it's something you could look at...

Thanks for that Maz. Alternative therapies really interest me. I will keep it in mind.

 

[vineyard]

I plan to do acupunture. If it'll calm me down and decrease stress, it's worth it!!!

 

[FJL]

I'm going to try accu next cycle I think. I was fine with the injections, it was only when we had started the scans and I wasn't responding and we were told the cycle would probably be cancelled, then I had scans every 2 days for a week...I was an absolute mess that whole time...I cried pretty much 24/7 but tried to hold it together at work.

 

[strawberry199]

I plan to do acupunture too... my FET cycle is scheduled on March'09.
I'm feeling really sad when get to know my failed cycle on Dec'08..
not even feel want to go to my mum's house because my brother and his baby girl is there too...

I do not want to touch any baby related things or even my niece...
I know i shouldn't act like this.. but i really feel so....

 

[Helen]

Hi

I'm a past ICSI person.

I think IVF and infertility generally puts a hell of a strain on your relationship. I think I was just extremely emotional the whole time and found it very difficult to hold under wraps. How are things for you vineyard? Just curious since you asked the question.

Strawberry199 I always felt that way too. One of my best friends had a baby and I had to stop seeing her for a few years despite her being a fellow LTTTCer. I would cry every time I held the baby. I think somehow it's harder when it's your sibling. My brother and SIL announced they were PG the week after we told my folks we needed IVF. It was heartbreaking, probably the hardest BFP to hear.

 

[rachelle1975]

Hey,

We are seeing the consultant on the 11th Feb and should have ICSI between then and August. There isn't a wait for us where we are so its more waiting for staff to be available!

DH and i have a good relationship, don't really argue and he's so chilled out he's horizontal. If i had a strop he just ignores me.... git! Reckon we will be just okay and i think the whole assisted business has made us stronger and closer already - we've stopped taking things for granted

 

[akcher]

Our IVF will be delayed for a couple months. We bought a house over the weekend and we will be moving next month. Once we get settled we will be back on the IVF train. I received my meds already and it's all overwhelming. I have packs and needles and pills and a whole box of stuff.

Going through this process has made us stronger but also stressful at times. Mostly it's the scheduling of the doctor appts. We have to go in so often and I'm sure our work doesn't like us taking the time off. We can't have a baby if we lose our jobs. There was one cycle when I was going to ovulate on the a day that DH was not in town. After trying to reschedule with client and not being able to. We were getting frustrated. But the doctor said we can freeze his sperm before he goes and all was taken care of. So it was not a happy week for us.

 

[maz]

Well I had my IVF review today - so I can now draw a line under the last couple of months. It went quite well, and the consultant was very positive about our chances next time which was nice to hear. Now we just have to wait for next AF, and hopefully we'll be able to get booked in for EC sometime in March...

I cried at the clinic today. We should have been having our scan this week, not a review to discuss our next cycle. Oh well - what can we do about it? Onwards and upwards I guess!!

 

[vineyard]

akcher, congrats on getting the house!!! That's so exciting. Now you can get all settled in and get ready for that IVF baby!

 

[cking]

Have any of you already had children before with another partner? My other half has a child from a previous relationship where they had IVF. I heard that the NHS wont let you have it for free if your partner has a child from a previous relationship. Just wondered if any one knew much about this

 

[vineyard]

I'm not sure but it seems if the first one was due to male factor infertility and required IVF that they should pay for it now. But, I'm in the U.S. and know nothing about your national health insurance.

I'm waiting for to arrive and then I start BCP to get my cycle on the clinics timing. I start Lupron injections and baby aspirin on February 11th and start Gonal F and Menopur injections on February 25th. It should be an interesting ride!

Anxious for that . I really am feeling hopeful and pray that there is no more disappointment!

 

[vineyard]

I should probably start a journal huh?