IVF General Chat

[maz]

Have any of you already had children before with another partner? My other half has a child from a previous relationship where they had IVF. I heard that the NHS wont let you have it for free if your partner has a child from a previous relationship. Just wondered if any one knew much about this

I think it depends on your PCT. I know of a couple who had a private cycle of IVF which was successful, and then they went for their NHS cycle for their second child. I don't know if it would've been different if one or other had had children from a previous relationship. Does the consultant know that your OH has a child from a previous relationship? If not, do you think you'd get away with not telling them?

 

[cking]

We havent got for a consultation yet but was just looking at the options available. My OH said that maybe we could get away without telling them but i'd feel rotten if we did and imagine how embarrasing it would be if they found out we lied. Could ruin our chances all together. They'll probably wonder how my OH knows he has a low sperm count if he hasnt had a child yet, it's not something you do just for no reason.

Thanks for your replies so far

 

[maz]

If they ask the question then I'd be honest, but I wouldn't volunteer the information if not asked. You could always say he had a test done a while back and that the results were a bit on the low side...

When is your appointment? Let us know how you get on...

 

[vineyard]

Just got all of my meds and talked to the doctor. Looks like I'll be doing 4 injections a day for several weeks. Ugh.

-Lupron
-Gonal F (am & pm)
-Menopur

 

[maz]

The injections aren't that bad hun... The thought of them is worse than the reality.

Good luck

xx

 

[vineyard]

I'm actually not that bothered by them. My husband is more bothered by the thought. Isn't he lucky that I'm fine with giving them to myself!!??!

 

[rachelle1975]

Hey Vineyard

God your DH is lucky you can do the jabs yourself - i will have to get DH to give me mine as i'm bad with needles... having said that i'm going to go for accupuncture when i have my cycle (thank you Maz!!).

Do you have dates yet for EC/ET?

 

[maz]

Rosh - the needles are soooo fine you really don't feel them. I was such a woose where needles were concerned, but I honestly didn't feel a thing - except that one time when I found a vein in my thigh - I still have a light bruise to remind me.

xx

 

[CurlySue]

I actually can't wait to start IVF now. That sounds pathetic since last week I was hating the idea but I am now resigned to it. I can't ovulate normally, can't conceive normally, so I suppose someone else will have to do it.

It all seems quite exciting, really. Roll on April.

 

[rachelle1975]

Maz - you sounded so positive re the accpuncture that's why i'm going for it! Besides, how can a girl with tats and a tongue piercing be scared of needles!! I cried having my tetanus but it doesn't hurt... it's the fear!!!

CS - i think when you resign yourself to IVF it does make it seem more positive - i have been reading all this great IVF success stories from 1st and second attempts and it just fills me with happiness! Even the girls who had the first attempt abandoned and second attempt they had to freeze them - within 5 months of starting she was pregnnat (with twins!). It'll happen - i figure if we throw enough money at it anything is possible

 

[maz]

Rachelle - that's exactly what my DH said to me! He said, you spent three hours in a tattooists chair and you're scared of a little prick that's over in a few seconds. That kind of puts it into perspective. My tat wasn't sore getting it done although I obviously felt it - the injections though are just a little nip and it's over. I considered getting my tongue pierced, but at the time I didn't fancy being restricted to only drinking soup, so I settled for my belly button, ears, and nose - although I now only wear my earrings...

How many tatts have you got? I want to get some more but haven't seen anything I like just yet. I wouldn't mind a big dragon on my thigh a la Pink, or something at the top of my neck, or something girly on my foot - but I just can't decid yet!!

 

[vineyard]

I did acupunture yesterday (DH too). It was great! It was so relaxing. And honestly, take a moment to pinch yourself. C'mon, do it! Pinch yourself. Okay, that hurt worse than the needles. Seriously!

 

[vineyard]

I finally put up a journal:

https://www.babyandbump.com/ltttc-ac-journals/89181-danas-infertility-adventures.html

 

[maz]

As I'm sure most of you know, I'm waiting for my 2nd cycle of IVF after the 1st one ended in early MC. I'm waiting for AF to show up so I can phone the clinic and get booked in. Is it just me or does it seem as though time is standing still??? I'm not stressed about going through the treatment - although I'm not feeling overly confident about having success - but I just feel as though time is really dragging. It's been 4 weeks since crimbo, and that seems like months and months ago... Hurry up AF and get here already!!

 

[vineyard]

Yes, time does appear to be standing still.

 

[Dilek]

Hi

I have never posted here, but DH and I spoke to fertility specialist on Wednesday and we are scheduled for IVF in May. We have nurses appointment in late April. I am very nervous about it.

I have been diagnosed with severe endo grade IV, lap was done 3 months ago and since then i have another 3cm cyst. My endo has proven twice now of its severity and rapid growth. So we can no longer try naturally. Im on Zoladex until IVF treatment. Would love to chat to everyone.

 

[maz]

Hi Dilek

You've come to a great place to ask questions, air any worries or concerns, or just generally to let off steam. You should get yourself a journal opened in LTTTC so we can all go through your torment with you. Good luck for May ...

 

[Dilek]

Hi Maz,

Thanks for welcoming me I have to admit I was reading through your journal last month and you have helped me so much. IVF doesnt seem as scary or as taboo as I first thought. I dont know what I would do without this site, I am from Australia and living in the UK now. I left all my family behind and feel like other than DH there is no one else to talk to.

But now I have BnB

 

[Mrs T]

Hello
Just though I'd say hi as it looks like I'll be popping in regualy for IVF info. My dh and I have just found out that our only way forward is IVF and ISCI, my dh sperm is low and what few live ones he's got wont swim anywhere.... poor guys!
We are still digesting the news we got last week, and have yet to see an IVF specalist to find out what involved.... so am clueless on the whole thing. We accually live and work in the Middle East ( Doha) and they do have fertility clinic here but my very honest gyo/ob DR has told me us not to waist our time and money here in Doha. Our best chances are going back to the uk, she said. So I dont know where to start looking for a private clinic.... any advise would be great

 

[vineyard]

Mrs. T welcome. I live in the US so I don't know the process of going private versus government. However, under LTTTC Journals, I have a journal called Dana's Infertility Adventures. I will be journaling about the process. I just started Birth Control Pills to regulate my cycle and will start my injectibles on 02/11 for a tentative embryo transfer date of 03/12.