***January Jellybeans***~ 35 BABY GIRLS & 23 BABY BOYS BORN ~***

[sar35]

hey girls! Not had chance to read back so hope iv not missed too much. Just wanted to post and say hey. Am in hosp til thursday, boo, but everything is v sore so glad of the help. Baby Girl is now Holly Laura as of yesterday and is doing fantastic. Am struggling with the breastfeeding though and getting v lil sleep so its getting me down a bit. Am gonna talk to doc today as not happy b/f but feeling a lot of pressure to do it, so we'll see. to everyone!

hey good to hear from you! loving your girls festive name too! I expressed or tried to for 2days as he was in SCBU but was really disheartened when i wasnt getting a lot of milk or anything! Im FF now and in hindsight of his tongue tie its prob the best decision all round and OH can help with the feeds, I was waiting for the negativitiy surrounding it but tbh I have had a lot of support, You gotta do what you gotta do

 

[Jolene]

Lisa, why are you in hospital for so long? I'm sure you just want to be home now!

 

[hodbert]

Lisa, why are you in hospital for so long? I'm sure you just want to be home now!

because i had a c-section and they keep u in for 4 days here. Wld love to be home now!

 

[noja]

Anyone else snowed/iced in and suffering TERRIBLY from cabin fever?!

 

[mum2be2011]

hey girls! Not had chance to read back so hope iv not missed too much. Just wanted to post and say hey. Am in hosp til thursday, boo, but everything is v sore so glad of the help. Baby Girl is now Holly Laura as of yesterday and is doing fantastic. Am struggling with the breastfeeding though and getting v lil sleep so its getting me down a bit. Am gonna talk to doc today as not happy b/f but feeling a lot of pressure to do it, so we'll see. to everyone!

hey good to hear from you! loving your girls festive name too! I expressed or tried to for 2days as he was in SCBU but was really disheartened when i wasnt getting a lot of milk or anything! Im FF now and in hindsight of his tongue tie its prob the best decision all round and OH can help with the feeds, I was waiting for the negativitiy surrounding it but tbh I have had a lot of support, You gotta do what you gotta do

Lisa - do what you feel comfortable with. Breast-feeding doesnt come easy and both you and Holly need to learn how to do it, it is hard work. As Jo says get as much help from the hospital staff as you can, dont feel disheartened or bad about it. There is alot of pressure to breast-feed but at the end of the day it has to come down to yours and Holly's happiness and what is best for you both. If you end up using formula its not the end of the world, Holly will do just fine on formula.

Sarah - When your baby is in NICU/SCBU it is hard to try and keep the supply of milk going, you did well. With Phoebe I had the luxury of having her with me for 2 days before she went to intensive care so my milk had a chance to come in. It is really hard trying to express the milk when you dont have your baby in front of you. I was advised to put a vest under Phoebe in the incubator or have her cuddle a toy and everytime I expressed to take the vest or toy with me (to smell) and a photo of her to help with the let down reflex. It wasnt the same as feeding her directly from me but it did help.

You should never feel bad if you are unable to breast-feed. I expressed whilst Luke fed her expressed milk from a bottle (Phoebe wouldnt latch after being in NICU) and we managed till she was 6 weeks then my milk dried up. The negativity you get from not breast-feeding is awful. I used to spend hours crying to Luke about not doing the best for her etc etc and it was his mum who turned round to me and said a happy mum = a happy baby, formula is just as good as breast-milk and not everyone can do it. It comes naturally to some and others struggle.

to both of you, (Lisa and Sarah)

 

[LittleMrs]

Rachel, I wonder if the dragon is aware that research shows that using a dummy in the first months of life reduces the chances of cot death significantly. Just a little fact that you can share with her if she decides to get stuck in again once the next LO arrives (also, I'm
a fount of useless baby knowledge if you ever want to stump her totally- it'd be my pleasure). I believe my dad's mum was similarly opinionated when I was born and the breech has never really healed, you have my sympathy.

 

[mum2be2011]

Rachel, I wonder if the dragon is aware that research shows that using a dummy in the first months of life reduces the chances of cot death significantly. Just a little fact that you can share with her if she decides to get stuck in again once the next LO arrives (also, I'm
a fount of useless baby knowledge if you ever want to stump her totally- it'd be my pleasure). I believe my dad's mum was similarly opinionated when I was born and the breech has never really healed, you have my sympathy.

Oh I know Tracy, she wont listen to anything and she is always right. I even emailed her a link for a medical website on the lactose issue that clearly states that breast milk contains lactose, but she was having none of it. (she claimed that breast milk doesnt contain lactose)

I ignore her now plus we dont see her that often and when we do Lukes eldest brother is there. (Luke's eldest brother is very good at deflecting and changing the subject so the opportunity she used to have is no longer there). She sent us an email the other day about how bringing up children etc has changed and I wanted to print it off and rip it up in her face. She hasnt got a clue that she is so hurtful with her comments. My christmas present from her and Luke's dad last year was counselling. I had a nice long letter stating that im quiet, shy, lacks confidence etc... and that this affects my relationship with Lukes brothers and his family. She even had the nerve to say that I was affecting Phoebe and that al Lukes brothers are concerned that Phoebe will turn out like me. 2 of Luke's brothers read this letter and sent very strong worded texts and emails to her. The eldest brother turned round and said how close does she want us to be? sleeping together (I get on really well with his eldest brother, like bestmates.)

 

[Mom 2B]

lovely name Lisa! glad your both ok and be home soon! Breastfeeding is bloody hard for 2 weeks, if you can pesevere through that you would see a massive improvement but even though I'm very pro breast feeding I don't believe its so important to get really upset and anxious over, a happy mum means a happier baby and thats whats important! Get as much help as you can from midwife, healthvisitor, breast feeding support peers etc but if you need to formula feed don't beat yourself up over it! Be sure before you stop though because its pretty impossible to restart breastfeeding after you have stopped! (((hugs)))) x

Mom2be its a bit hard to guess what your boobs will do after you give birth anyway, and how much weight you will lose round your back and how much they will swell with milk, I barely had size difference once milk came in with DS, only the day it started and had a bra full of rocks were they big! I wouldn't worry until you have had baby, they might well turn out just fine! x

im going to wait until baby is here and my milk comes in before i see if i need a new bra or not but for now its soo uncomfortabe wearing them cuz they are tight. Withmy Lo my size didnt change once my milk came in so they fit just right from about 7 months on until she was 14months and we stopped nursing. I just hope i lose some of the back fat quickly so they fit better....or maybe its because my bump it so big at the top....not sure but hope the bras fit better once baby is here....4 weeks today! or mayb e earlier if the pupps doesn't calm down.

 

[Jolene]

Lisa, why are you in hospital for so long? I'm sure you just want to be home now!

because i had a c-section and they keep u in for 4 days here. Wld love to be home now!

Oh I didn't realise you had a c-sec. How long did it take you to get up and move around?

 

[smiffy85]

For those of you on about bras check this out! I am usually a d cup but when mothercare measured me they put me in an f or g?!?!?!! Crazy times they look huge but if my boobs are gonna swell then all the better (I do have 1 boob a lot bigger than another tho and that may have affected it hehehe)! Jack was amazed at the size of the bras! They fit on my head

My parents are gonna be nannan (as was her mum to me) and gramps (as was his dad to me), Jack's parents are gonna be grandma and grandpa and then jacks grandparents will be Barbie and Gray as thats what Jack named them and what evryone calls them anyway lol!

It is so cold outside - nto been out all day and Jack has been bored on his first day off lol. Hes finally arranged to meet his freinds and has gone out for drinks this evening.

I think the antibiotics are working but still needing paracetemol to enable me to swallow without grimacing everytime lol!

xxxx

 

[blessed]

Congratulations on baby Holly!! You'll be out of the hospital before you know it and home with baby... right on time for Christmas!

I'm so nervous about breastfeeding also... I really hope it works out for you, if not, no worries, you must do whats best for you and baby, and thats a happy mommy!

 

[Fraggles]

Biggest tip I can give for BF is dont expect much milk in the first 2-3 days 3-4 if you've had a section. I was taught to hand express the colostrum and then used a syringe to suck it up off my nipples.

 

[LittleMrs]

Rachel- let me at her, I'll set the stupid woman right. My problem is knowing when to stop expressing myself (I'm quite quiet and shy when meeting new people - that or nerves make me gabble incessantly). I'd tell her if she wants to be involved at all then she butts out- if not then she's making a conscious decision not to be a part of your life. Ooooh, I'm so mad for you- how dare she? Dysfunctional psycho witch (not first choice of name to call her). If phoebe turns out like you then you've done a good job- you talk to all of us. Gggrrrrrr evil, venomous piece of ...... You're obviously a much better person than I am- I've nearly screamed at OHs step mum after she phoned up and convinced him that his dodgy knee was going to kill him and that a dodgy knee was what killed his dad (instead of the deep fat fryer she kept on constantly and the fact that she made him give up all exercise) - took me (and the dr) months to calm him down after that one, he was convinced he was going to drop dead. Women like those two that give step mums a bad name.

 

[jms895]

I bf for nearly a year if anyone wants any tips its soooo easy once you get past the first few weeks xx

Had a crap day girls gotta go growth scan in morning. fundal height not grown in 3 weeks. Now measuring 36 wks not 2 wks ahead.Wish me luck that placenta is ok xx

 

[LittleMrs]

Wishing lots of luck, jade. What will they do if LO not growing properly? Xxx

 

[jms895]

I'm not sure it's the birth I'm worried about- I mean, I am a little worried about it, I've never done it before. Think I'm more worried about coping with parenthood and the house being unsafe- just found that part of the window in the kitchen is coming away from the wall, the one in our room is letting in water and then there's the doors and the plaster in the house is rubbish and there's the condensation in the bedroom and the list goes on. I'm worried the house isn't fit for a baby and something will go wrong or they'll take the baby away because the house isn't good enough or I won't cope with going back to work or we're going to struggle with money or we'll be rubbish parents or my OH will leave it all to me. I just feel like there's so much to do but there's not enough time to do it but it's all so surreal that it doesn't matter anyway because there's never going to REALLY be a baby. Does that make any sense at all? Like I say, I've had way too much time to think
about it now. Was it like that with your first?

Yes its a massive step isnt it and very overwhelming xxxx

How warm is it Jolene, im freezing here I never want to be this pregnant in the cold again

Laura hope you manage some sleep

Gosh the nausea I feel today is worse than the morning sickness (which im sure will hit soon)

Wow the girls numbers are on the rise, come on the boys

Cmon bouys let have ya!!!!

Hi ladies 5:30 am here and I am wide awake! DH make spaghetti last night and it was yummy but think I ate too much and that is why I cannot sleep. I was watching the news last night of all the snow in the uk it is pretty intense for what you are all used to over there. I won't mention the temperatures here in Canada though I do feel bad bringing a newborn home in what is our coldest moth of the year! 4 days till Christmas!

OMG 4 days!! So wonder which one of us will give birth Xmas day? You seen Channel; 4 listings for the One born at Xmas programmes? I love One born every minute

Hi Ladies, just noticed on another thread that JaymeeBee is being induced today. Fingers crossed everything goes ok for her and bean. Another girl for the January Jellybeans.

Good luck Jaymee bee

hey girls! Not had chance to read back so hope iv not missed too much. Just wanted to post and say hey. Am in hosp til thursday, boo, but everything is v sore so glad of the help. Baby Girl is now Holly Laura as of yesterday and is doing fantastic. Am struggling with the breastfeeding though and getting v lil sleep so its getting me down a bit. Am gonna talk to doc today as not happy b/f but feeling a lot of pressure to do it, so we'll see. to everyone!

Gorgeous name and lovely to hear from you! Ignore all the pressure hun, do what you feel is best xx

For those of you on about bras check this out! I am usually a d cup but when mothercare measured me they put me in an f or g?!?!?!! Crazy times they look huge but if my boobs are gonna swell then all the better (I do have 1 boob a lot bigger than another tho and that may have affected it hehehe)! Jack was amazed at the size of the bras! They fit on my head

My parents are gonna be nannan (as was her mum to me) and gramps (as was his dad to me), Jack's parents are gonna be grandma and grandpa and then jacks grandparents will be Barbie and Gray as thats what Jack named them and what evryone calls them anyway lol!

It is so cold outside - nto been out all day and Jack has been bored on his first day off lol. Hes finally arranged to meet his freinds and has gone out for drinks this evening.

I think the antibiotics are working but still needing paracetemol to enable me to swallow without grimacing everytime lol!

xxxx

I am an E usually, an F now and was a G when breastfeeding Caine the first few months then when my milk supply settled i was back to an F. Am ewxpecting the same again and using the same bras.

Biggest tip I can give for BF is dont expect much milk in the first 2-3 days 3-4 if you've had a section. I was taught to hand express the colostrum and then used a syringe to suck it up off my nipples.

I expressed by hand for Caine in the hospital for the first few days as he wouldnt latch. The first 6 weeks were very hard with latching and growth spruts and sleep deprivation but am so glad perserveered and managed nearly a year

 

[jms895]

Wishing lots of luck, jade. What will they do if LO not growing properly? Xxx

They will check his size and the performance and blood flow of placenta etc. Worst case scenario induce me this week but only if placenta not performing

Fingers crossed!

Hows you chuck? x

 

[sar35]

good luck Jade x

 

[mum2be2011]

Rachel- let me at her, I'll set the stupid woman right. My problem is knowing when to stop expressing myself (I'm quite quiet and shy when meeting new people - that or nerves make me gabble incessantly). I'd tell her if she wants to be involved at all then she butts out- if not then she's making a conscious decision not to be a part of your life. Ooooh, I'm so mad for you- how dare she? Dysfunctional psycho witch (not first choice of name to call her). If phoebe turns out like you then you've done a good job- you talk to all of us. Gggrrrrrr evil, venomous piece of ...... You're obviously a much better person than I am- I've nearly screamed at OHs step mum after she phoned up and convinced him that his dodgy knee was going to kill him and that a dodgy knee was what killed his dad (instead of the deep fat fryer she kept on constantly and the fact that she made him give up all exercise) - took me (and the dr) months to calm him down after that one, he was convinced he was going to drop dead. Women like those two that give step mums a bad name.

What is it about step mothers? grrrr. Luke's stepdad is the nicest bloke you could ever meet, he is so gentle, kind, approachable. Its unbelievable. He has been there for me and Luke through are roughest times and the best part is he doesnt take sides and he doesnt judge. He sits there, listens and then makes suggestions or asks questions. He never tells us what to do. The year before we conceived Phoebe we almost split up and it was Luke's stepdad that made us realise how stupid we both were being. Luke's Mum (My MIL to be) is just the same. They are both really supportive and you couldnt ask for better in-laws. I love them to bits and just wish my parents were as approachable and supportive.

We had 3 m/c's before we had Phoebe and Luke's mum, stepdad and older brothers got us through it. When we go into labour with this little lady Luke's oldest brother is first contact and childminder for Phoebe (despite being 3 hours away) and Luke's mum will be on the next flight available from France to help us out and take over from Toby, so he can go back to Swindon. Luke's stepdad will follow on over a few days later in the car to come and see us and also help out.

Tracy - cant believe she said that, its awful. How can a dodgy knee do that

 

[LittleMrs]

Jade, I'm good. My temper is not great- frayed around the edges to say the least but it's all just very surreal- I don't really believe it's going to happen and that there's going to be a baby.

Rachel- apparently OHs dad had a bike accident that could've caused a clot that caused a heart attack several yrs later. Still not a hereditary problem but she went on and on about how he'd always had a problem with his knee and it killed him. Basically, she lied. A lot. Not the first time. We don't talk to her now.