Regina, lol. I'm a total cow when it comes to that- I'm not feelin sexy then there's not a chance I'm doing that. My OH has wanted kids since he was 16 - I'm pretty much queen at the moment and that it's a girl too! He's got his own family coming soon and he's just constantly happy but I find the constant groping more than a tad wearing on my nerves. Don't think I'm as much of a nice person as you - I partially want him to understand how I feel and that means there have been moments where I've thought if it's not doing anything for me then why on earth should I. Evil, isn't it. Wish I was a nicer person.
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aw, blame it on the hormones. I'm sure you're perfectly lovely. I've had "evil" thoughts too. (hence, the "I'm giving you a blow job and you're satisfied... good for you but what about my pleasure" thoughts.) I'll do it because I love him, I want him to stay satisfied with me, and I like making him feel good, but I instantly get broody afterward... poor OH because then he feels bad too. I'm such a moody "witch" lately, I feel.
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I've been wondering the same thing today...although I think its still alittle to early for baby boy to arrive im only 36 weeks tomorrow so not quite full term. But ive been busy round the house just in case. the tree and all decoratinos are now put away. Livingroom is almost done just gotta move a few things and wash the floors once LO is in bed, then im moving on to our bedroom...the last piece of the house to finish before I feel like its ready for baby!!!!!!
To be fair I think we're perfectly within our rights to feel a bit upset about it- don't know about yours but I'm fairly certain there's a limit on how many times my OH would give me any 'satisfaction' without getting any in return without getting totally irrational and i'd be surprised if he'd even manage once! Twice would really shock me. Thing is- we wouldn't expect them to give without reciprocation so why should they feel ok about it? Sorry, rant over. Maybe your OH is different - I've just never known a man who would give pleasure unless he was getting it in return.
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Actually, he's been good about it before... before I got huge, and it got awkward, his goal was my pleasure and if he wasn't able to finish after I was satisfied and I was tired or whatever, he's always been ok and even offered to stop (even though I rarely take him up on it- guilt on my part or whatever)
Propose! Now! My OH would cry, he's adorable in every way but I accept his flaws and he can be a little inconsiderate. Lol. Anyway, other than that making you feel rubbish, how's things- any more action on the contraction front? Can you describe them to me? I'm
worried I won't know what they feel like.
worried I won't know what they feel like.
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Lol. I plan on marrying him... eventually. I'm still a bit jaded from my last marriage and am not eager to jump into it again. I'm oftentimes in the mindset that it's just a piece of paper, and people - if they're in love- will be committed to each other whether they have the paper or not. Or they won't if they don't want to be.
I'm doing ok... contractions aren't very strong right now. (grrr... back to my frustration at no DTD) . The contractions I felt were very much like period pains... but I don't know if your period cramps would be the same as mine. My periods have always been terrible- to the point where I would go to the hospital for pain relief. These contractions aren't as bad as my period... and I hope they don't get that bad, since on a scale from 1-10, my period is a 10 and I would feel physically nauseous and have to literally scream from the pain. (I even begged for death at several periods- it was so bad! One reason why I almost had a hysterectomy a couple years ago, but that's another long story) But as for these contractions, the pain started in my back- felt like I'd been bending over and picking things up all day, but the pain came and went- there wasn't much tightening, though, per-se. After the first pelvic exam, however, the pain shifted to right in the pelvic girdle. Felt like that 2nd day of your period where your body is trying to force your whole uterus out of your body at one go- a combination of that and a big ball trapped wind trying to make it's way out at the same time. Starts slow (like your body is telling you... here comes... get ready!) and then the pain and pressure (more pressure than pain though) builds up to where you have to force yourself to concentrate on something... breathing is good... and it holds there for a while (for me it was about 30-45 seconds) and then it'll get tolerable to where you don't feel like holding your breath so badly anymore (but don't hold your breath, as I was told it can make your contractions feel stronger, and isn't good because it takes oxygen from your baby).
Sorry, just realized it's a bit rambly- I'm just trying to give you a blow-by-blow of how I remember it happening last night.
I'm doing ok... contractions aren't very strong right now. (grrr... back to my frustration at no DTD) . The contractions I felt were very much like period pains... but I don't know if your period cramps would be the same as mine. My periods have always been terrible- to the point where I would go to the hospital for pain relief. These contractions aren't as bad as my period... and I hope they don't get that bad, since on a scale from 1-10, my period is a 10 and I would feel physically nauseous and have to literally scream from the pain. (I even begged for death at several periods- it was so bad! One reason why I almost had a hysterectomy a couple years ago, but that's another long story) But as for these contractions, the pain started in my back- felt like I'd been bending over and picking things up all day, but the pain came and went- there wasn't much tightening, though, per-se. After the first pelvic exam, however, the pain shifted to right in the pelvic girdle. Felt like that 2nd day of your period where your body is trying to force your whole uterus out of your body at one go- a combination of that and a big ball trapped wind trying to make it's way out at the same time. Starts slow (like your body is telling you... here comes... get ready!) and then the pain and pressure (more pressure than pain though) builds up to where you have to force yourself to concentrate on something... breathing is good... and it holds there for a while (for me it was about 30-45 seconds) and then it'll get tolerable to where you don't feel like holding your breath so badly anymore (but don't hold your breath, as I was told it can make your contractions feel stronger, and isn't good because it takes oxygen from your baby).
Sorry, just realized it's a bit rambly- I'm just trying to give you a blow-by-blow of how I remember it happening last night.
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Hey ladies! Just wanted to update~ my baby girl, Zahra Ma'at-Sekhmet, was born Tuesday, Dec. 28th @ 3:57am weighing 6lbs 12.7oz!
I'm just starting to get some type of "normality" back in my life, so I haven't written a birth story yet...
I hope everyone's year has started off great!
I'm just starting to get some type of "normality" back in my life, so I haven't written a birth story yet...
I hope everyone's year has started off great!
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Congratulations PurpleKisses! Another girl!
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All these babies!!!! Congratulations Neko! She's such a good size!
OOH! I'd better be next. I'm so frustrated right now. Mucus plug gone, contractions... but not dilating and no water broken.
OOH! I'd better be next. I'm so frustrated right now. Mucus plug gone, contractions... but not dilating and no water broken.
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Maybe you're a bit dilated. I didn't lose my mucus plug during the induction until I was 3-4 cm gone.
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well last night I was in the hospital because of cramping and contractions but I stayed at 2 cm. I guess I have to wait till the contractions get even worse or something. I think I probably lost my plug because they were (intentionally) rough on my cervix last night during the pelvic exams.
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Hey girls jsust had a quick flick back and even more babies born! Hope everyone is ok. I have found out I have a UTI which explains why I've felt so awful lately. Am now on Anti-biotics so hopefully will feel better soon. Doc also thought I was showin signs of PND as I was extremely teary (and have been for a day or so), but I feel much better knowing whats wrong with me so I think a lot of that was due to worry, but we'll see.
Other than that, Holly is doing great, although still making nighttimes a challenge!
Other than that, Holly is doing great, although still making nighttimes a challenge!
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aw, 
feel better!
feel better!
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ok, ladies, this might be it. I'm on my way to the hospital for the 2nd time in 24 hours. wish me luck. for those of you on facebook, if anything happens, I'll update there, since I can do that from my phone. please feel free to update back here on the forum. If it's false again, I'll update back here myself.
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Good luck Disney x
Cheers for the description, Regina - not at all rambly and they sound pretty much like what I'd expect them to (given what they do etc). I hope this trip to hospital is more productive for you (queue jumper - lol).
Congrats to the ladies with the newborns- some very beautiful names. I've lost count again but I know we're approaching 30 now.
Lisa, hope you're feeling better after the antibiotics - my friend had PND and it was just heartbreaking, but she's much much better now.
Last night I decided I'm terrified. OH and I laid in bed watching films and I suddenly realised that once the baby is here this isn't going to happen anymore- not just when the baby is small but until it leaves home! This totally freaked me out and I started to panic that we've not had enough time by ourselves as a couple and that having a baby will destroy our relationship and I'll never get my sex drive back. OH (rightly) pointed out that it's a little late to be thinking these things now. So now I'm even more panicky because nobody else seems to be thinking these things, they're just excited about the babies, whereas I can't imagine the baby being here at all and I'm still convinced something bad is going to happen to prevent the baby from arriving safely. Sometimes I think there's going to be a car crash or I'm going to fall and the baby is still-born, other times I think the baby will be fine but something happens to me instead. I just cant imagine us together. I'm going to be a terrible mum because I'm not going to bond with my baby! Help! Does ANYONE feel ANY of these things?
Congrats to the ladies with the newborns- some very beautiful names. I've lost count again but I know we're approaching 30 now.
Lisa, hope you're feeling better after the antibiotics - my friend had PND and it was just heartbreaking, but she's much much better now.
Last night I decided I'm terrified. OH and I laid in bed watching films and I suddenly realised that once the baby is here this isn't going to happen anymore- not just when the baby is small but until it leaves home! This totally freaked me out and I started to panic that we've not had enough time by ourselves as a couple and that having a baby will destroy our relationship and I'll never get my sex drive back. OH (rightly) pointed out that it's a little late to be thinking these things now. So now I'm even more panicky because nobody else seems to be thinking these things, they're just excited about the babies, whereas I can't imagine the baby being here at all and I'm still convinced something bad is going to happen to prevent the baby from arriving safely. Sometimes I think there's going to be a car crash or I'm going to fall and the baby is still-born, other times I think the baby will be fine but something happens to me instead. I just cant imagine us together. I'm going to be a terrible mum because I'm not going to bond with my baby! Help! Does ANYONE feel ANY of these things?
