***January Jellybeans***~ 35 BABY GIRLS & 23 BABY BOYS BORN ~***

[jms895]

Everyone is different Smiffy, some are fine some are not. I was ok last time and worked to 36 weeks, defo not this time as knackred with work, uni and toddler I cannot wait to finish! x

 

[Lorts]

I worked until I was 38 weeks with my daughter. I have just completed the forms at work and said my maternity leave will start on the 3rd Jan. Baby is due on the 14th, however I am having a planed C section so he could be here about the 7th.

 

[LittleMrs]

Smiffy, I'm staying all the way to xmas break so I'll be just over 36 wks. I know exactly what u mean, beginning of th school yr is hectic but you may be fine. A colleague of mine left the Friday before her c-section so she was about 37-38 wks. I think the key is to sit down as much as you can in the last trimester.
I've been fine so far but everyone is different - do you have a TA in with you? If you can sit down as much as poss, if you've got a TA they could do some of the walking around. Prob more difficult with the little ones than it is with my lot as, when things get tough I can just say to them, I'm tired because I'm pregnant and other than the million and one questions they're usually pretty sympathetic as they have a better understanding.
I think you should just take it as it comes, see how you feel, you can always change your mind (I think it says in our contracts that if you take time off ill after 30 weeks due to pregnancy this can trigger maternity leave - so you can change your leaving date at any time).

 

[beccybobeccy]

I'm going to work until Xmas I think, feels like a good time to finish. I have 10 days holiday left from this years entitlement so I will take that beforehand with 4 days from next year and then my Mat Leave can start on the 15th Jan, day before bub is due....
Well.....at least that is the plan....

 

[Jolene]

Lorts, the 3rd of Jan is a great day, it's my birthday, lol. I'm going to have a c sec too and I'm wondering if baby will be born on my birthday. Is your daughter getting used to the fact that she's getting a baby brother?

 

[lauren-kate]

Lorts, the 3rd of Jan is a great day, it's my birthday, lol. I'm going to have a c sec too and I'm wondering if baby will be born on my birthday. Is your daughter getting used to the fact that she's getting a baby brother?

That's my birthday too

 

[sar35]

Can't beleive we're all reaching these milestones already! Time is flying by (although doesn't feel like it when I'm at work lol). My little fella has been moving around loads in the past few days and it's getting really obvious where he is laying now. And where his feet are lol as my tummy jumps when he kicks me.

Is anyone else wondering quite how they are going to manage at work until maternity leave starts? I've got 10 weeks and 2 days to go (with a half term wk in between) So will finish when I am 35 wks. A fellow teacher and friend at work has gone off sick today and she is 33 wks. She is just knackered so I'm worrying if I'm being too ambitious working till 35 wks?!!! Scary stuff as I'm so very tired already. Start of new term with a new class is always mental though so I'm hoping it will settle down in a few weeks.

Hope everyone is ok anyway - my sympathy goes out to those still feeling sick!! I hated it and was so glad when it went away at 15 weeks. Sending to all of you xxxx

im a ta and my baby is due in Jan, i was planning on working til xmas holidays but have just done my mat leave and im leaving at the end of this term, i really cant go on, its very stressful and im so uncomfortable, walking doesnt agree with me or baby and after the bleed at the weekend we've decided that our health is more important than work, not quite sure how we will manage financially but we have to think of mine and the babys safety x

 

[jms895]

I had originally got the 28th Dec as my mat start date (EDD 6th Jan) but now decided I had enough and want some time with little man x

 

[pinkie77]

Congratulations on all the scans and V-days x x

My v-day is today! I had the pre-term labour and pre eclampsia risk scan today too and that was ok. That's where they measure the length of the cervix, it's done routinely at my hospital (but not at many as far as I know). My cervix is 39mm long which is good apparently although I did joke to the scan person that my problem is the opposite and could she give me the possiblitiy of actually going into labour this time? I really don't want to be induced again

 

[Jolene]

So Lauren-Kate, there's also a chance you could get your baby for your birthday,lol. How do you feel about that? At first I was against it and said she must have her own special day but the more I think about it, it will probably be even more special.

Pinkie, congrats on your and babas v-day!

 

[LittleMrs]

Sar - so sorry you've had a rough time, you're totally right, work is not as important.

 

[LittleMrs]

Also

V DAY!!!!



Off to midwife in half an hour

 

[lauren-kate]

Happy v-days!

So Lauren-Kate, there's also a chance you could get your baby for your birthday,lol. How do you feel about that? At first I was against it and said she must have her own special day but the more I think about it, it will probably be even more special.

Pinkie, congrats on your and babas v-day!

I think it would be lovely... but OH might be cursing haha - Ryan's birthday is 11th December, then his mum's 13th, then xmas, new year, my birthday.. so I think he'd like a little break until girly's birthday!

 

[pinkie77]

Congrats LittleMrs! I've got the midwife today too, not til this afternoon though.

I could have a birthday baby too Jolene, mine is on the 10th January! Chances are she'll be born on a friends or relative's birthday though as there's only about 3 dates in January that we don't have birthdays on.

So it's going to be mad in January, with us all having babies and quite a few celebrating birthdays too!

 

[LittleMrs]

I'm a curious mixture of happy and sad this afternoon.
Been to the midwife and all is ok - heartbeat good, no protein or glucose in my urine, bp perfect etc - so we're really happy.
However, all the antenatal classes that she gave me are during work time. I know I'm entitled to the time an they can't stop me going but the CAN make me feel guilty about it so I won't be going.
Also, spoke to the mortgage company and there's no chance of a mortgage break while I'm on maternity so I don't know how we're going to pay for it at all - the choice appears to be lose the house or take a reduction in maternity down to the absolute minimum. So I'm sad about that - I'd thought earlier I might be able to take more than I originally thought (thought I might be able to take as many as 18 wks instead of 12) but now maybe only 6

 

[jojo-m]

Littlemrs glad you had a good apt but see why you feeling a bit mixed with the thought of working when your baby will be so small. Your not the first to have to do this, my sister only had 3 months off with her 2nd baby then went back full time and although she missed the kids she was happy it was the right thing to do. On babycentre site during my last pg there were a couple of women who had to go back within weeks too. I know this won't make you feel better but there are others in your situation so sure you can meet someone on here to help you x

 

[Jolene]

LittleMrs are you saying you might only be able to take off 6 weeks after baby is born? That's awful. With my son I had to go back when he was 3 1/2 months and that was really hard. A lot can happen in the next 4 months so perhaps you will still find a way to stay home a little longer. Wishing you all the best luv

 

[LittleMrs]

I've run the numbers several times - if I'm right then I can take about 12 weeks now, which is a relief as I've spent the whole day close to tears at the thought of 6 wks maternity leave. It's going to mean cancelling everything which is non-essential, even direct debits to charities and phone insurance - though I think we both feel worst about the charities. It's going to be tight but I'm going to save my a*se off and I'll make it work. OH is really rubbish with cash so I'll be the one tightening the strings for us both but I feel much better having worked out the possibilities.

Thank you, Jolene and Jojo M for your sympathy, hopefully now I'll be able to focus on the positives a little more.

 

[Jolene]

LittleMrs, I am now a stay-at-home-mum and financially things are so difficult but so worth it. (not to say you're giving up your job but just that I understand cutting back) It's going to be so worth the sacrifices for you in the end. They grow up so fast.

 

[smiffy85]

Sending lots of support to all those who need it and thanks for the messages about work girls. It helps so much to hear from other people who are in the same or a different situation.

For those ladies who have their birthdays on jan 3rd thats my edd!!!! Yay!

Having a good week at work so far and worked through the tiredness today. I have got a full time TA in my class and she is brill but can be prone to depression and stress when over worked lol. So I don't want to put too much pressure on her!! Just planning on muddling along and seeing how we go. I can only do so much and to be honest, although the little ones are very demanding, they can be left to their own devices to play if learning activities are set out for them. So thats good!

I've just had my Jane car seat delivered and I love it. It's so nice because it reclines totally into a travel cot so very handy. Not tried to connect it to the pram frame yet but I'm hoping it will be easy to work out!!

Sending hugs to everyone xxx