Yeah, I agree with you all - good pain. At least, that's what I've read. I'm almost looking forward to it, to be honest, although I'm having trouble seeing me with a baby. So there's a new problem - I'm not too worried about labour - every pregnant lady does it (although some have told me they were sick during labour and I don't relish that thought), but I can't imagine after that. Actually having the baby there - I'm a bit scared I won't feel what I should do. Am I being nuts?
LittleMrs, I don't think you can ever be prepared for the emotions that come after you have a baby. When I was pregnant with my son all I heard was 'When you first hold the baby in your arms you will think he's the most beautiful baby in the world and have this instant bond' so when he was born and I didn't feel that it took me a while to get over the guilt. Then, I expected to be so ready for this because I had babysat since the age of 13 and I was always comfortable with small babies but when it was time to leave the hospital I didn't want to go. I couldn't imagine being at home with this responsibility.
So I think that whatever attitude you end up going in there with, you're a completely new person when it's over but it all falls into place.
Naomi that cake is amazing and I'm glad your little girl had a lovely day!
I'm not so much freaking out about the labour part but more the life-changing aspect that comes with it - nothing will ever be the same. Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled and excited and cannot wait to be a mum, but it's still scary as.
I'm rubbish at keeping up with this thread too... I have no Idea what to post here! Most things i seem just to post a new thread on 2nd trimester... is that the wrong thing to do?
Well, anyways, an update I suppose:
Finally in the double digits, just posted my 26+2 week bump picture (and it's my avatar), had a bit of a scare sunday when I went into contractions (2-3 minutes apart!) but the doc says it was probably dehydration-and I'm not allowed to have sex anymore... boo! I have my GTT and another ultrasound on Wednesday; Doctor is worried there hasn't been enough weight/size gain (even though I feel huge). Having some issues with my mother- It's a LONG STORY which most of you probably don't want to hear, but here's the whole story if you want to read it...
So, OH hasn't been able to be there for an ultrasound yet... he has a job in the entertainment industry and is the only one trained to do his certain job at the moment... so basically, once he's committed to a gig, he can't call in sick or the show would be cancelled- at least for the day. He also hasn't been able to be at the hospital the 2 times I had emergencies- or at least what I thought were emergencies. So of course, I call up my mother for some support ( I probably would have called her anyways though since men can be pretty clueless about these womanly things and I would want to speak to someone who's actually been through it) Anyways, Sunday night I stayed at my parents' house, since he had to work late into the night and wouldn't be able to give me a ride back to the hospital if something were to happen. I had a follow-up appointment scheduled with my OB/Gyn the next day and while I was talking to my mother, I said nonchalantly (sp?) that they would probably have to do an ultrasound to check my cervix (the stupid nurse at the hospital said it was shortened- ended up being utter bull). My mom got all happy and giddy at the thought that she might be there for the ultrasound... but there was a catch. You see, I have this romantic idea in my head that my OH should be the first one to see his baby girl move around... so I didn't want anyone in the u/s with me unless it was him. My mother acted like I peed in her cheerios. She was telling me how dare I deny her something that could bring her happiness when she's the one coming to the doctors with me and helping me to and from the hospital-- why am I trying to make it so nice for someone (my OH) who hasn't been there for all the bad things I've been through? She claims I am taking advantage of her and she must distance herself from me and the baby now because she says I'll use visitation with her as a manipulative tool. I tried to explain to her that once he gets a chance to see the ultrasound first- with just me, him, and the tech in the room- she would be welcome to any subsequent ultrasounds. I even offered to pay for a private scan so that she could be there... she told me that paying for a scan wouldn't change anything and that I knew I had messed up and now was trying to compensate for it. She hung up the phone on me on Monday and I haven't tried calling her back. I figure when she's calmed down and ready to talk, SHE will call ME back. For all of you who read this, do you think I'm in the wrong or right in deciding to have my OH the first to see the Ultrasound with me?
LO is moving around TONS!!!- I can't seem to make her stop! And I'm hungry ALL THE TIME! She starting to get big enough to stretch into my ribs- ouch! but it's nice to know she's growing.
Boobs are still leaking- but now more milky than clear. Constipation is starting to settle in again, as well as the wonderful accompanying hemorrhoids (sorry if TMI) Also am starting to get some acid reflux- no fun! OH is getting more and more involved with playing with our LO- and he's started showing more concern and affection for the both of us! I love him!
Alright, I think I've ranted enough! I'm glad to hear what's going on with all you ladies and your not-so-tragic labor stories. I'm definitely going to try to have a natural birth without pain relief, but if I really need it, I won't deny myself. I'm afraid that I might need a c-section though, since I'm a tiny 5'2" and my OH is 6". If the baby's too big, I don't think my birthing canal will be large enough to accommodate! Also, definitely planning on breast feeding. Talked with a lactation specialist today, and although my mind was already made up, she solidified it more with all the benefits breast-feeding has to formula; I never knew that babies who were formula-fed have a higher risk of ear infection, pneumonia, obesity, diabetes, cancer, asthma and allergies, SIDS, and diarrhea/constipation!!!! Plus, breast feeding will save me tons of money on formula!
Wow thats what I call an update disneydancr!! Lol! Glad to hear all is ok tho and good luck at this weeks appt's!
Loving the pictures naomi. Your little girl looks so sweet. Love the cake too, if I had done it it would look nothing like peppa pig I'm sure. I'm just not that patient lol.
I can't wait to be a mummy too but it just seems like having this bump is the norm now if that makes any sense?!?! And the fact that a little one is going to be in my life after the birth is amazing. I thought I was ready for it and I keep going and standing in the nursery and getting out all his clothes and stuff, having really vivid O MY GOD moments lol. And I'll just be driving along or walking somewhere and the thought that 'I'M HAVING A BABY' will just hit me out of nowhere again. Its strange and a weird feeling to put into words really and OH doesn't get it bless him.
Nope, Disneydancr - you're totally in the right. My OH would've hit the roof if someone else had seen the baby before him. I can understand your mum's disappointment but she has to realise it's not her baby and should be happy that you feel (or felt perhaps) close enough to her to turn to her when things have been rough. By being the way she has she may have jeopardised her relationship with you because she's putting a price on her sympathy and help and you may feel that you can't call her unless you have something to offer in return. If anyone is being manipulative here then it's her - holding the help she has given you over your head in order to get what she wants. The end of the day we are born with our families but you choose your partner so she shouldn't be suggesting that he can't be bothered when it's really a work issue - it's not a helpful comment really.
Maybe give her time to calm down. I think you're going to just have to let it go. I love my mum dearly but she can be the queen of martyrdom ('Oh, don't worry about me...I only gave birth to you, and raised you but I expect it is my fault....' and on and on and...) and I've learnt over years that there is no point trying to discuss prior issues with her in order to get to the bottom of it and explain my point of view. However calmly I try to explain it she always takes offense and to be honest, during the pregnancy we've had a couple of near misses with very similar conversations to the one you and your mum had.
She'll come around - at the end of the day she'll want to be involved and see her grandchild - my guess is she's probably just hurt but doesn't know how to express it - her disappointment has made her angry. Just know you're not the only person who has problems balancing their mum's enthusiasm.
Also, my OH is 6ft 3 and I'm about 5ft 2. Apparently it's more to do with the birth weight of both and I was 7lb 7 and he was 8lb something (his mum tells me) and so I'm not too worried. My mum is 4ft 11 and if she can do it so can I. Also totally with you on the pain relief - I'm going to go without if I can but if I really need it I will. I'm going to breastfeed for money saving and I'm buying some reusable nappies (£300 compared to several thousand for birth-potty supply of disposables).
My OH still gets really overexcited whenever he feels the baby moving (she's a stubborn sod and doesn't play with him) and I'm so used to it it seems a bit weird that he still gets so overexcited. But really cute. aww
naomicourt - what a wonderful b-day cake and a precious little girl!
Is it too early to start washing baby stuff? I am so eager to be organized and have everything in it's place!
is sooo strong now it is amazing! I feel movements pretty much all the time now! Can anyone tell where is laying? I feel lots of movements up near my ribs so wondering if that could mean is head down and I am feeling kicks
We go for our follow up scan on Wednesday to find out if the placenta has moved up. I sure hope it has.
naomicourt - what a wonderful b-day cake and a precious little girl!
Is it too early to start washing baby stuff? I am so eager to be organized and have everything in it's place!
is sooo strong now it is amazing! I feel movements pretty much all the time now! Can anyone tell where is laying? I feel lots of movements up near my ribs so wondering if that could mean is head down and I am feeling kicks
We go for our follow up scan on Wednesday to find out if the placenta has moved up. I sure hope it has.
Argh veins! Anyone else found any of these lol? I was getting ready to have a shower yesterday and saw OH looking at me funny. I asked him what was up and he said 'whats that on the back of your leg' I had a look in the mirror and basically have this purple blue veiny thing sticking out on my left leg at the back just above my knee! How attractive ay lol!!
Lovealittle1 - yeah my bean is kicking lots too altho he was facing inwards yesterday and punching down low (ouch). I went to the MW on thurs and she told me he was head down so the movement I'm getting up near my ribs are feet. But still plenty of time for him to move round before getting ready for labour!
29 weeks tomorrow, onlt 7 weeks till mat leave!!!!!!!!! eeeeek xxx
Sorry hun, I haven't been ignoring you, have only just managed to have time to get on the PC ( I have been on my I phone and I can't update the front page on that) I will put you on now.
I know what you mean. It will be so nice to have my body back to normal with no more aches and pains but, will really miss having bubs wriggling around, especially as this will be my last pregnancy. Or will it?? haha xx
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Thankssss xx
is sooo strong now it is amazing! I feel movements pretty much all the time now! Can anyone tell where 
Or will it?? haha xx
