January testers?

[AshNAmber]

Time to vent!! So last night it really just hit me like a ton of bricks.. My niece is pregnant she is 13!!!!!! Last night her mother was talking to my DW like nothing like it was no biggie going on and on about how shes having a boy and who they are naming him after and on and on and all I want to is How the hell this CHILD!!!!! Has sex once ONCE and end up pregnant. She shouldn't have been doing it at all!!!! I just don't even know how to react to this or how I'm supposed to feel .. I know everything happens for a reason and I know god has a plan for us but I don't understand this and just don't get it. I'm mad, hurt and just so upset it took everything in me last night not to just cry.. I had a dream we were up there when she had the baby and I had to leave I couldn't deal with seeing this little girl that looks like she is 9 having a baby.. I just don't know

 

[krissie328]

Ash, that is such a tough situation. I completely understand where you are coming from. I hope you get your bfp soon!

 

[amantila]

Awww ash...what a difficult situation. Sending hugs and positive vibes your way.

And an update from me: tested early at 10dpo and got two bfps this morning!!!

 

[Trr]

Time to vent!! So last night it really just hit me like a ton of bricks.. My niece is pregnant she is 13!!!!!! Last night her mother was talking to my DW like nothing like it was no biggie going on and on about how shes having a boy and who they are naming him after and on and on and all I want to is How the hell this CHILD!!!!! Has sex once ONCE and end up pregnant. She shouldn't have been doing it at all!!!! I just don't even know how to react to this or how I'm supposed to feel .. I know everything happens for a reason and I know god has a plan for us but I don't understand this and just don't get it. I'm mad, hurt and just so upset it took everything in me last night not to just cry.. I had a dream we were up there when she had the baby and I had to leave I couldn't deal with seeing this little girl that looks like she is 9 having a baby.. I just don't know

Ash- I know how you feel. My 16 year old cousin who I'm super close with was pregnant, thought she had a miscarriage turns out she didn't and opted for abortion and me being the nice person I am decided I would offer to go with her. There are lots of feelings to go along with babies having babies. Especially when they are family.

I got through it but it was just terrible knowing that I wanted a child so bad and she was getting rid of one.

Basically everyone in my life is pregnant or has kids. I just hate Facebook now because of it.

Our time will come. Hopefully sooner then later.

if you need to vent, we are here

 

[Babybows]

Aww Ash, I can't imagine how unfair that must have felt. I think there's no good way to handle a situation like that. So brave to hold your tears back. Big hug!

 

[Babybows]

Well I finally got my solid smiley just now. So weird though. And my temp spike is usually more apparent. And 6 days of "high" results before the peak. So I guess I shouldn't test until the 12th now.

And later, once I have a solid minute, I'm going to reply to everyone's lovely supporting comments from yesterday.

So happy for you ser! Seems you will get your full chances this month after all! I hope it relieves some stress for you, so your tww will be exciting bit bearable.

I'm waiting for my opk today but my guess is I will be testing right along with you at the 12th, since my opk yesterday was the best so far all of a sudden.

 

[ser523]

Awww ash...what a difficult situation. Sending hugs and positive vibes your way.

And an update from me: tested early at 10dpo and got two bfps this morning!!!

Yay! Congratulations!!! I'm so excited for you!

 

[MrsRose168]

Well I finally got my solid smiley just now. So weird though. And my temp spike is usually more apparent. And 6 days of "high" results before the peak. So I guess I shouldn't test until the 12th now.

And later, once I have a solid minute, I'm going to reply to everyone's lovely supporting comments from yesterday.

Yay!!

 

[Frizzabelle]

Awww ash...what a difficult situation. Sending hugs and positive vibes your way.

And an update from me: tested early at 10dpo and got two bfps this morning!!!

Congratulations! Great news xx

 

[Ruby14]

Ash that has got to be very hard to deal with. Hugs, and hope you get your bfp soon!

Afm, I got my first bfp at 12 dpo along with some brown spotting. Then at 13 still getting bfp with more brown spotting. Then this morning at 14 dpo bfp and no sign of spotting yet. Could this still be from implantation and just not making its way out until now?

Good luck to all those that haven't tested yet this month!

 

[lesondemavie]

Wow ash, yea it's hard enough when a friend my age announced they're expecting, even harder when it's family...and then on top of that for it to be someone so young. I can only imagine.

Congrats aman! What a happy time for you!

Temp drop today right on schedule. Kris - can you put me down for my next test date 1/22? Thanks!

 

[Angel5000]

Congrats to all the BFPs!

AshNAmber - I had the same question, so what I did was use FMU for the advanced Digi's because it is tracking more than just LH but also other hormones (estrogen ?) and then when I got the blinky faces I started using my ICs in the afternoon. When I got ICs that looked close to positive I used the digi again in the afternoon to confirm. The only difficulty there is that I sit around with a cup of pee on the counter waiting for the IC to dry enough to determine if it might be close to + so I can dip the digi. DH thinks I'm crazy, but it works and doesn't make me feel like I'm wasting them like I do when I use them twice a day. Those things aren't cheap and don't come with enough in the box!

As for your niece...wow. That's such a tough situation! I would be upset too. 13..... Wow.

Ser - Yay!! So glad you got your peak!


AFM - I'm feeling really down yesterday and today. I know we've had really good timing this month and the chances are good but after 2 CPs I just feel like what's the point of trying because I'm just going to have another CP and my heart is going to be crushed again. I Know that isn't necessarily the case but I am definitely struggling.

 

[MrsRose168]

Congrats to all the BFPs!

AshNAmber - I had the same question, so what I did was use FMU for the advanced Digi's because it is tracking more than just LH but also other hormones (estrogen ?) and then when I got the blinky faces I started using my ICs in the afternoon. When I got ICs that looked close to positive I used the digi again in the afternoon to confirm. The only difficulty there is that I sit around with a cup of pee on the counter waiting for the IC to dry enough to determine if it might be close to + so I can dip the digi. DH thinks I'm crazy, but it works and doesn't make me feel like I'm wasting them like I do when I use them twice a day. Those things aren't cheap and don't come with enough in the box!

As for your niece...wow. That's such a tough situation! I would be upset too. 13..... Wow.

Ser - Yay!! So glad you got your peak!


AFM - I'm feeling really down yesterday and today. I know we've had really good timing this month and the chances are good but after 2 CPs I just feel like what's the point of trying because I'm just going to have another CP and my heart is going to be crushed again. I Know that isn't necessarily the case but I am definitely struggling.

Hi Angel, I had a CP on Dec 7th which was my first pregnancy. I can't help but worry if we'll end up in the same boat again if/when we get a BFP. I just wish I knew why. However, I have been comforted by reading others' success stories on here so I keep telling myself that it can happen to me too. I know it's hard but try to stay positive and remember that worrying does not change the outcome. Sending hugs your way.

 

[Angel5000]

Thanks MrsRose. I have seen a lot of women on here get a CP and the next month get their sticky bean. I was hoping that would happen to me. The first cycle after my first CP our timing was off, the second cycle after was when I had my second CP. Last month was the first cycle after that CP and we didn't have any sex during fertile period (both of us were too sick), so I'm hoping that this month will be my BFP. I'm just terrified it will be another CP. The first one was hard, the second one killed me. I didn't even test early, waited until 3 days late (but my LP is only 9-10 days) and then af came a couple days after my bfp.

Thanks for the reassurance. Trying not to worry. Going to try to keep myself busy so I don't think about it.

 

[skycastles]

Congrats aman and ruby! Nice to see some early bfps before we go into the new year

AFM, I'm estimated 9dpo and don't feel any different from usual. If I squint for symptoms, my bbs feel a bit more tender though not at all physically fuller. I had heartburn a couple of times but I've been eating A LOT I don't know if I'm going to cave in and test this weekend, but I hope to hold out until next weekend.

Happy new year ladies!!

 

[Frizzabelle]

Congrats Ruby!

Happy new year ladies! Fingers crossed for lots more BFP's to come xx

 

[mom and ttc]

Time to vent!! So last night it really just hit me like a ton of bricks.. My niece is pregnant she is 13!!!!!! Last night her mother was talking to my DW like nothing like it was no biggie going on and on about how shes having a boy and who they are naming him after and on and on and all I want to is How the hell this CHILD!!!!! Has sex once ONCE and end up pregnant. She shouldn't have been doing it at all!!!! I just don't even know how to react to this or how I'm supposed to feel .. I know everything happens for a reason and I know god has a plan for us but I don't understand this and just don't get it. I'm mad, hurt and just so upset it took everything in me last night not to just cry.. I had a dream we were up there when she had the baby and I had to leave I couldn't deal with seeing this little girl that looks like she is 9 having a baby.. I just don't know

No big deal? Kids need to be in booster seats until 10-12! She is just getting out of car seat!! She has no business having sex or having a child! This is horrible! That poor little girl and her son! No kid that age should be having children

 

[ser523]

Thanks MrsRose. I have seen a lot of women on here get a CP and the next month get their sticky bean. I was hoping that would happen to me. The first cycle after my first CP our timing was off, the second cycle after was when I had my second CP. Last month was the first cycle after that CP and we didn't have any sex during fertile period (both of us were too sick), so I'm hoping that this month will be my BFP. I'm just terrified it will be another CP. The first one was hard, the second one killed me. I didn't even test early, waited until 3 days late (but my LP is only 9-10 days) and then af came a couple days after my bfp.

Thanks for the reassurance. Trying not to worry. Going to try to keep myself busy so I don't think about it.

I know it's really though, try not to worry about it (easier said than done). I had two CPs/early mc's last year myself, back to back. We got pregnant by accident in January, but then I started bleeding a week after. Doctor confirmed with two blood tests. I was sad but surprisingly ok. But then we kind of NTNPed that month after and what do you know, BFP again. Which I freaked out a bit because we weren't ready and I thought it was highly unlikely to get pregnant and mc twice in a row, so I was convinced we were having a baby. But bleeding again and I knew right away. And I was really really sad for a while after that. I think the second one was a lot harder because the first was such a shock and everything happened so fast, then the second, I was so sure it wouldn't happen again. But then it did.

So I definitely can understand your fear. I'm doing better at not thinking about it because I think I'm focused on trying to get that BFP, but I'm definitely worried about mc'ing when I do get it. Like to the point where I've sat and considered if I should tell DH right away if I were to get a BFP or if I should wait a few days in case it doesn't stick.

 

[AshNAmber]

Awww ash...what a difficult situation. Sending hugs and positive vibes your way.

And an update from me: tested early at 10dpo and got two bfps this morning!!!

Ash that has got to be very hard to deal with. Hugs, and hope you get your bfp soon!

Afm, I got my first bfp at 12 dpo along with some brown spotting. Then at 13 still getting bfp with more brown spotting. Then this morning at 14 dpo bfp and no sign of spotting yet. Could this still be from implantation and just not making its way out until now?

Good luck to all those that haven't tested yet this month!

congrats to you ladies on your :bfps: I'm so happy for yall!! Here's to a H&H 9 months

No big deal? Kids need to be in booster seats until 10-12! She is just getting out of car seat!! She has no business having sex or having a child! This is horrible! That poor little girl and her son! No kid that age should be having children

Thanks Ladies You all know how to make me feel better.. It's surely a crap situation. Its awful to say I guess but I'm happy I don't have to see or hear about it everyday.. At least yet anyway until she starts posting all over FB But until then all I can do is hope BOTH babies are ok through this process.


Angel I may have to try and do that. I'm excited that I know O is just right around the corner.. I feel really good about this month..

 

[krissie328]

Awww ash...what a difficult situation. Sending hugs and positive vibes your way.

And an update from me: tested early at 10dpo and got two bfps this morning!!!

Congrats!