Jealousy after a loss

[zoe2010]

I need to just vent and get some support. I've been doing so good this week after having a miscarriage last week at 6 weeks. But today my best friend called me to tell me she found out today she's having a boy. I'm so happy and excited for her, but then came the tears. It brought back all of those emotions I feel jealous and angry and I cant help but cry. I hate feeling this way...

 

[flou]

Sending hugs your way! Everything you feel is perfectly normal and understandable. Don't be afraid to cry or be angry. When I had my first mc at 6 weeks, co-worker announced she was 12 weeks pg. I was happy for her but it killed me inside. Every day at work I saw her and I watched her belly grow whilst I continued to ttc my rainbow. She had a lovely little boy who is now 4. But I was happy for her, jealous and angry. I didn't know you could feel all of that in one go. But time is a good healer. When I see her now 4 year old, I think of my first angel, but I don't feel the anger and jealousy. I hope you get your rainbow soon. Take care!

 

[zoe2010]

Thank you for your sweet response. This has been more difficult than I could have ever imagined. I had another friend announce her pregnancy yesterday and while I'm excited for her, it kills me im just so ready to get back to normal.

 

[CowgirlBaby]

It's perfectly normal Hun, I suffered a miscarriage at 12 weeks and two of my friends just announced their pregnant and I'm so jealous

 

[Wobbles]

It's normal to feel this way

 

[zoe2010]

Thanks ladies! gosh I'm so glad I have this forum to vent on

 

[DSemcho]

I understand how you feel, and this might sound mean (not meant to) but it does get easier to handle with time. The first time my baby sister got pregnant (end of 2008) I was so upset because she had never wanted kids. And then at the end of 2012 when she got pregnant again (I had already had a loss at this point) I was very upset. I had a lot of resentment for people who got pregnant while I couldn't. After a total of six losses for me it went away and I genuinely became happy for people who were able to conceive and carry full term. Even though I was jealous, it wasn't in anger.

 

[BSN2MOM]

Just wanted to say you are not alone. We just went through a loss a couple weeks ago & last night went to a function to support family but at this big event there were a lot of adorable babies & pregnant ladies & it was incredibly difficult. Luckily it's a big thing & I could easily wander off to cry without anyone but DH noticing.

Hope we can both get past these feelings with more ease in the future it's not easy...