jealousy, anger when there should be happiness

[xkissyx]

i agree thats its human nature to feel this way it's so much away from how i usually am. i feel so guilty when i have the jealousy and anger. i suppose its just the way of the world that those that want don't get unless u work really hard at it and those that don't want just get given.... maybe i should not want n i might get sooner hehe

this journey to life has taught me well that life is truely precious and a gift given to cherish i don't think there's many "accidental" mothers think that.......

 

[Maritini]

I hear ya friends and coworkers are getting preg left and right. we have been TTC for four months now! and nothing i got a BFN today.... im so discouraged

 

[kit603]

I'm a POAS addict even though its pretty impossible to get pregnant atm because it looks like i've not ovulated in about 12 months

 

[xkissyx]

i'm sorry to hear that kit603 hope u ovulate soon so u can get on your way to a BFP xxxx FX'd for everyone

 

[kit603]

i'm sorry to hear that kit603 hope u ovulate soon so u can get on your way to a BFP xxxx FX'd for everyone

Thanks Krissy. I'm trying to convince myself that everything happens for a reason and look at the benefits: More time to save up so I can buy lots of cute baby clothes and spoil my LO rotten! LOL!

 

[Jaxvipe]

I completely understand how you all feel. I had a M/C at the end of May, about a month later the receptionist(with the IQ level of a 10 year old) at my job told me she was pregnant by her bf of 4 months... I was so devastated. Because my whole reasoning for why i M/C was because i wasn't ready for a baby, but that completely went out the window when she became preg. It's just so hard coming to work every day and having to see it all day long and then having to hear her talk about the baby likes it going to be a pet...

Unfortunately, i have been pretty bitter about it and just kind of don't talk to her anymore.

 

[kit603]

I completely understand how you all feel. I had a M/C at the end of May, about a month later the receptionist(with the IQ level of a 10 year old) at my job told me she was pregnant by her bf of 4 months... I was so devastated. Because my whole reasoning for why i M/C was because i wasn't ready for a baby, but that completely went out the window when she became preg. It's just so hard coming to work every day and having to see it all day long and then having to hear her talk about the baby likes it going to be a pet...

Unfortunately, i have been pretty bitter about it and just kind of don't talk to her anymore.

Awww hun, we've all been there so just try not to feel bad about it *cuddles*

 

[Jaxvipe]

Its really hard but i get joy in the fact that i will be pg when she is not so then she will be jealous of me =) ( i know im so mean)

 

[kit603]

Its really hard but i get joy in the fact that i will be pg when she is not so then she will be jealous of me =) ( i know im so mean)

Haha! We're so alike

 

[shambaby]

i think it's perfectly normal to feel angry and jealous - because IT'S NOT FAIR!

 

[xkissyx]

hehehe i love it and your so right!! xx

 

[xkissyx]

sham your so right it isn't fair and but life has a way of working these things out and soon enough it will be our turn xx

 

[kit603]

I've always believed that everything happens for a reason, even if we're not sure what that reason is quite yet. However, that philosophy is making me more and more stressed out these days! GRR.

 

[pinkclaire]

Hey Kissy I havent read the other posts but hope you dont mind me invading on your post.

I got pregnant and absolutely dreaded telling a couple of my friends who are TTC at the moment. I felt like a complete biatch its unbelievable.

I think you should be honest, I would want my friends to tell me that it bothered them so I could be more sensitive (I am trying) and how it makes them feel. I would completely understand and would be glad they could be open with me so there wasnt that barrier there which I feel like there is at the moment! Its like getting it all in the open helps I think?

Anyway thats my personal opinion not sure if it helps good luck everyone with you TTCs xx

 

[xkissyx]

Hey Kissy I havent read the other posts but hope you dont mind me invading on your post.

I got pregnant and absolutely dreaded telling a couple of my friends who are TTC at the moment. I felt like a complete biatch its unbelievable.

I think you should be honest, I would want my friends to tell me that it bothered them so I could be more sensitive (I am trying) and how it makes them feel. I would completely understand and would be glad they could be open with me so there wasnt that barrier there which I feel like there is at the moment! Its like getting it all in the open helps I think?

Anyway thats my personal opinion not sure if it helps good luck everyone with you TTCs xx

your right and maybe i should sit and talk with them my friends don't rub it in as they know i've been trying for a while however my cousin's comments don't make things easier i just tend to back off from her when she becomes childish as " shame u can't get knocked up as quick as i did " well.... it's hurtfull i feel for you that have fallen pregnant after trying for a while as u want to shout about it i can imagine your very happy about it and yet you have to hold back somewhat as it's sensative to some people still trying... i see it from all angle's its just so hard to be "normal" about everything but chin up will be worth it in the end xxxx congrats claire

 

[xkissyx]

I've always believed that everything happens for a reason, even if we're not sure what that reason is quite yet. However, that philosophy is making me more and more stressed out these days! GRR.

i'm the same i've lived by the saying " everything happens for a reason" for as long as i can rem i am also still working out what that reason is .... i got thinking that maybe i was supposed to go through all this to realise how precious a gift of a child is before i would have just taken it for granted xx

 

[kit603]

I think you should be honest, I would want my friends to tell me that it bothered them so I could be more sensitive (I am trying) and how it makes them feel. I would completely understand and would be glad they could be open with me so there wasnt that barrier there which I feel like there is at the moment! Its like getting it all in the open helps I think?

I think you're right, but I suppose it also depends how close you are to your friends. There are some friends that i'd feel quite comfortable talking to about my jealousy and my problems TTC because I know they'd understand and would try to be there to support me but there are other friends that would probably think i'm just trying to rain on their parade so it depends on the circumstance for me Thanks for the advice

my cousin's comments don't make things easier i just tend to back off from her when she becomes childish as " shame u can't get knocked up as quick as i did "

I can totally understand how hurtful those sorts of comments are, my own cousin came out with a similar comment the other day - although she didn't realise I was having problems TTC, so didn't mean it in a hurtful way.

i'm the same i've lived by the saying " everything happens for a reason" for as long as i can rem i am also still working out what that reason is .... i got thinking that maybe i was supposed to go through all this to realise how precious a gift of a child is before i would have just taken it for granted xx

I think you're right I remain hopeful that i'm quite young and have a few years to get pregnant yet and i'm sure that all of this will help me appreciate the life that I'll create even more. Plus, it gives me chance to accomplish other things in life and to ensure that i'm truly prepared emotionally, physically and financially. (still doesn't make it easy! Lol)