Judgemental in laws - how and when to tell them!!

[baileybubs]

Hi ladies,

Just a quick question, I am not worried in the slightest about telling anyone that I am pregnant again after a mmc 3 months ago, I know my mum and dad will be over the moon! And so will all my friends and workmates. My in laws however, weren't exactly over the moon first time!! Both his brothers are married, one has kids and the other told us his wife was pg just 2 weeks after I had my mmc (I was so upset by this and yet happy for them at the same time). We aren't married but are getting married next year, just booked the wedding in fact!!

Last time I saw MIL she was proudly showing me BIL and SIL's 20 week scan, like a proud grandmother should. But I just know that she will not be as happy about me being pregnant. I don't know why, maybe coz they think my oh is still too young (mentally he can be a bit immature).
Plus I know they will try to convince us to cancel or postpone the wedding, but we don't want that. We are scared of miscarrying again and don't want to change our wedding plans because of that. Plus if this pregnancy is successful we figure once we have the baby we will never get round to/afford to get married!!

I want oh to tell them by himself but I don't know when. We have a meal at the end of the month with my parents and his parents but I want to tell my parents soon!

Any thoughts or advice??

 

[baileybubs]

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[baileybubs]

Anyone?

 

[girlinyork]

My advice to you would be to separate your happiness from theirs. I know I'm going to have some narky in laws but I've decided not to allow their disdain to taint my joy. To be honest, once the scan pictures are done and such they'll drop and resentment and be happy for you good luck

 

[baileybubs]

Hi there, thanks hun, I told them and they were fine. I think it wasnt as much of a shock this time and after the mc think they are just happy. Just gotta hope all goes ok this time. Lots of sticky to you!!

 

[girlinyork]

Lets hope my in laws (and oldest sister) are as cool with it x

 

[baileybubs]

I hope so hun but always remember what you said to me, once they see that scan and baby is born it won't matter they will love your little one so much xxxx