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[gw76]

GW every child is SO different and will take their growth spurts a slightly different times. Saraya was never a sleepy baby and woulda nearly sucked your brains out through your nipples she had such a powerful suck on her! It was a nightmare trying to pop her off!! I *think* Imogen had a sleepy baby though so lemme check with her and get back to you because she probably has ideas on it!! If you want to speak to her yourself if you gimme your facebook I'll get her to add you?

Thanks Eve -

my facebook name - gillian walker
https://www.facebook.com/gillian.walker2 All are welcome

 

[caz_hills]

I never have days like this - literally have done nothing! But feel ok about it - just lazy but I guess one day like this is fine. The wedding has so many parts - as it's an Indian wedding - so we have a Mendhi party tomorrow night which is henna for the bride, dancing, music and lots of wonderful Indian food. Suprise, suprise, I'm excited about the food!!!!

 

[Annamumof2]

GW every child is SO different and will take their growth spurts a slightly different times. Saraya was never a sleepy baby and woulda nearly sucked your brains out through your nipples she had such a powerful suck on her! It was a nightmare trying to pop her off!! I *think* Imogen had a sleepy baby though so lemme check with her and get back to you because she probably has ideas on it!! If you want to speak to her yourself if you gimme your facebook I'll get her to add you?

Thanks Eve -

my facebook name - gillian walker
https://www.facebook.com/gillian.walker2 All are welcome

added you hun

 

[Aaisrie]

Thanks GW, I added you and linked her profile to her via pm. She's really great and knows like WAY more than I do! She also does a great blog at https://www.alternative-mama.com/

Caz that sounds SO interesting and exciting!!!!

 

[Blue_bear]

Caz - dont feel bad about having a quiet day, i keep being told to make the most of them although i find it boring too. Ive been awfully lazy and had 2 naps....that will mean no sleep for me tonight!
Indian wedding in 5 parts sounds amazing, i would be excited by the food too!!

Ive also been reeeeeeally hungry again. Like needing food every few hours, i havent been like this for months. I wonder if its related to the fact he's dropped and i actually have room in my stomach or if its my bodies way of trying to store up some energy for labour?!

Eve - i am so glad your around. Hearing some of the others talking about how hard BF is makes me so nervous!

GW - Cannot believe Hailey is almost a month old, my goodness its gone fast!

 

[Aaisrie]

BB I remember before I had Saraya I thought the labour was gonna be the hard part and then I'd just be transformed into some sort of tie-dye skirt wearing hippy mum with a baby hanging off my nipples while I levitated... okay so maybe I've exaggerated slightly but you get my drift!! LOL I thought BF would just be totally natural and easy and I was so shocked when it was sore, especially as I had nipple thrush [Saraya gave it to me!] at 3 days in and the pain and agony it caused and the pain of just her sucking and oh lord the night feeds and the constant putting gel pads and cream on my nipples trying to sooth them... how they would sting getting in the shower and bath then the pumping that would hurt so much... Seriously it was just horrific and I SO wished someone had just been honest with me that it was hard and that MANY things can go wrong or make it harder. My cousin got mastitis [a bad bad bad infection which can stop a lot of people feeding, it causes flu type symptoms and is definitely worth being aware of] but the best thing you can do for it, as sore as it is, is feed through it because stopping feeding makes it worse!! Fortunately she was attending a REALLY good BF group and got the support she needed and was able to continue feeding. I refused to even have formula in the house, even though I was living with my MIL and both her and Chris wanted to have some "just in case" I said no and I'm glad I did because having it there would have made it almost easier at 3am when I was howling my eyes out from the thrush pain to just do it but yet when she was put on high cal milk supplements [she was failure to thrive] I HATED having to always make up formula and sterilise bottles etc... it was such bloody hard work and WAY worse than BFing!! Even trying to get out of the house and making sure you have enough bottles and then if you run into an old friend and they ask you to go for coffee and you don't have enough milk... oh just hassle LOL
That's why it's important to know where your local BF group is, know the helplines you can phone, have the support on board BEFORE you need it because at 3am when you're struggling trying to find a 24hr BF helpline is not gonna be easy than if you've already got it there to hand just to hear someone say "Yea it's hard but here are ways to make it easier". I find older people try to give advice which is outdated so it's important to know who to listen to - the amount of people who told me because it was warm I should be giving Saraya water in a bottle as well as BF fortunately I asked Imogen who told me NO you don't need to because your milk changes depending on so many factors and will be perfect for your child, they don't need a supplement of ANYTHING, only FF babies tend to need water to keep hydrated. Or being told that your milk hasn't come through so something is wrong - it can take up to [and sometimes over] a week for your milk to come through. A girl in hospital when I was in a few weeks ago told me that she couldn't BF because her boobs hadn't leaked while she was pregnant?! People are misinformed so so much and the guidelines for BF have changed a LOT from we were kids so listening to even our own mothers can give us the wrong info! There are a lot of good websites and support if you know where to look but my inbox here and on FB are open to ANY of you, and Imogen has said the same she's more than happy for any of you to contact her for support or questions and advice.

 

[Hann12]

Gosh I've been having BH and strong period pains since I got back at 2pm. Its clearly not labour pains as they aren't coming and going but its sore!! Slightly worries me how I will cope with labour pains if I'm being a wimp about period cramping!!

 

[caz_hills]

Ah Han - poor you. Hope you're managing ok with the pains. I guess it's just your body getting ready but horrible to have and them not be like contractions..... keep smiling hun. Am sure that when it's labour, our bodies and minds just click into action (or at least that is what I'm hoping for!) xx

 

[mummySS]

Hiya everyone. Have been sleeping most of the afternoon, gosh i am getting soooo tired from doing the littlest things! I feel like I am finally slowing down and taking things easy after the manic house move...

Had a doctor's appt this morning and everything is fine. Baby's head still not engaged though! It took 2 doctors prodding about to tell me that! I am still of the opinion that i'm in no rush for the baby to come early... Quite happy for it to hang around til around 40+4. Then i think i'll start getting frustrated! Is anyone else starting to feel REALLY nervous about the change in their lives after the baby comes? I get the feeling most of this group wants their babies now... Am i the only one who's slightly crapping themselves? LOL

Caz - sorry about your annoying docs - they take ages to find the heartbeat for mine too (i kid you not - this morning she was trying to use a vaginal doppler on my tummy, durrrghhhh ), it's nothing to worry about. As long as you can feel it moving which you can now. Oh and enjoy the rest of the Indian wedding! Sounds fab.

Anna - aww thanks for the update on Flynn, he is absolutely gorgeous! I can't believe how quick your labour was! Wow, anna mum of 3 now!

Hann - glad the MW appt went better than the GP appt! Where was this, how did you manage to get into a different clinic? And yay for the baby being engaged! I think you'll beat me to it! I'm not being offered any MW appointments now, (only GPs) as the MWs in my area are fully booked for the next 3 weeks. How crap is that?! Btw i think your bump looks great - you are really slim anyway and clearly had a good set of stomach muscles - i never had much to start with which is why i reckon my bump is huge

Foxforce - congrats on the birth of Eliza - very cute name!

BB - i am still crossing my fingers for you to have baby J very soon!

Eve - thanks for supporting everyone through BF, you're a star Glad you've had support with saraya, i had been wondering how you'd coped through the sickness with her...
Also, re: the disposable nappies... I would LIKE to use reusable ones in theory. I think i'll def start off with sposies and see after a month or two. Also i think once i go back to work it'll be more difficult to keep up with the disposables. But like you, i like to think of myself as earth-friendly

DM - i'm loving the pictures of sophie on FB. Her fluffy hair is adorable! So pleased you're getting on well with the BF too.

Curlew - glad your pre-op went well. When are you booked in for, is it tomorrow?

Wez - hope you're doing ok - are you being induced tomorrow then?

Tor - hope you enjoyed NCT catch up!

BV - good job on the BF, i'm glad it's improving for you

Mel - mmmm, maccy d's wrap

 

[mummySS]

Another random question ladies - has anyone NOT been given an estimated baby weight by their MW/doctor? They have never mentioned anything to me, and I am really curious now. I dont have any appts left now until my 40+3 at the hospital (where i assume they do the sweep), and in any case i could have given birth by then!

I just wondered whether you'd all been given estimates or whether they don't really do that for 'normal' pregnancies?

thanks

 

[melissasbump]

Simmy, glad you are slowing down at last! Make the most of it, im not actually crapping myself, but i know that will kick in once the baby is born and im thinking "Hmm what am i meant to do now?!"

Hann, Sorry you have been in pain, look on it as a positve though, your body is moving in the right direction!

B Bear, yay for 2 naps! I think we need to rest as much as possible now in case anything happens. Alan goes to work and tells me just to REST! lol cant say im complaining.

Caz, the wedding sounds fab, i love all the indian music and stuff, and bet the food is amazing!

GW, I cant believe Hailey is nearly a month old already either! amazing!

Eve, im off to find my nearest BF support and phone nos!

 

[caz_hills]

Simmy - I haven't had any weight estimate either. I asked the MW at my last appointment and she said that even the scans aren't totally accurate so there was no way of telling really. I just assumed that if they don't mention anything then you're in the 'normal' category (or was this just wishful thinking?!). My MW and Doctor couldn't seem to tell me so I'm the same - waiting for the hospital appointment at 40 weeks (next Friday) for the sweep and hopefully they might tell me then too! Does it have anything specific to do with the measuring of your bump that they do at regular MW appointments?

 

[mummySS]

thanks Caz - i really dont know if it has anything to do with the measurements. I guess it must do?? *clueless* But it makes sense that they dont like to estimate if it's not that accurate anyway...

 

[Blue_bear]

Yeah i agree with Caz, the estimates some of the girls have been given have been way off so i would almost rather not know....

Simmy - The only time i think its really dawned on me and i started to actually feel scared was when i had that false alarm a couple of weeks back. I was sat in the bath thinking, OMG how the hell am i going to do this! Think i have calmed down since though!

 

[Hann12]

Simmy I only have an estimated weight because I had a scan at 36 weeks. Other than that I've had a doctor comment that it's not a big baby and the mid wife today said it felt long but not chubby. I think it's anyones guess though!!

Just called Greg and told him not to stay out late tonight. Don't know what's going on but don't want to be alone much longer just in case it steps up a level!

 

[caz_hills]

Simmy - I am in two minds - I'm enjoying being off work and chilling out so in no hurry but then again want baby to come as I'm impatient! Sometimes if I think about the realities, it is daunting! So I just think baby will turn up when he/she is ready! Sometimes though I can scare myself as I don't really know what to do with baby-I will be coming to you guys for loads of advice!!

Neel has announced to me tonight that 'he is ready for baby to come now'!!!! Bless him - as if it was that simple!!!! But it's lovely that he is ready mentally now!

 

[caz_hills]

Just seen your post Han - hope you are ok. Keep us posted as things could progress quickly!! Big hugs xx

 

[Aaisrie]

Hann try timing the pains. I actually found the worst bit of labour to be the early part that was like period pains because it feels SO sore but after a while your endorphines kick in and your body starts dealing with it better. The pushing bit is the easiest!!!

Simmy the only reason I've been given a guestimate weight is because I'm under consultant-led care so I get scans rather than measured. But they can be really out - with Saraya they told me a week before she came that she was only 6lb and when she came out she was 7lb 10oz! Like she didn't gain nearly 2lb in a week.... Oh and the reusable nappies I thought would be really hard work like the washing and stuff but it's actually not at all!! I also wash them in my home-made washing powder which is still going!! I swear there's still like half of it left in the box, can't believe how long it's lasted!

Mel - lol at phone number finding. If you need a hand lemme know :]

 

[mummySS]

Ooh Hann i hope Greg gets home soon! Even if nothing's happening, it will just reassure you.

Thanks girls, I guess everyone has a few wibbles and pre-baby nerves. I'm probably over-thinking it with all this spare time on my hands, lol!

 

[Aaisrie]

Simmy it's totally normal!! I'm still trying to work out how I'll manage 2 and co-ordinating naps and feeds and nappies etc!!!