July Sparklers 2016!

[Cowgirl07]

My husband hasn't missed a single appt or ultrasound since we started ivf. I love that he goes because I sometimes for get to ask questions and such.
I have a cold. Dh has had it for 4-5 days. I'm all stuffed up and coughing on occasion. It made me a bit short of breath yesterday. Ugh I hope it goes soon

 

[dimmu]

My husband doesn't. He came to the 12 week scan but forgot to book the time off for the 20 week scan so I went by myself. I was a bit annoyed about that as he just forgot. He would have wanted to be there but not really for himself but for my sake. He's not really that interested in the whole pregnancy thing, no talking to the bump etc. but it doesn't bother me. He was the same when I was pregnant with DD but he's a brilliant and very hands-on dad to her and I know he does his bonding once the baby is born.

In fact I have been surprised to see some husbands/partners accompanying their wives even to things like the glucose test when I've been to the hospital, it didn't even occur to me to ask him to come along when I had mine.

 

[WantsALittle1]

Cowgirl that's amazing, I wish DH could come to any of my appointments. He was only able to make it to the anatomy scan at 20 weeks. This is mostly because he is new at his job and has very little vacation or sick time, and is saving up what little he has for the birth. I'll be having a C-section, so I will need him to be home for two weeks caring for the other kiddos.

dimmu it's been similar for us. DH doesn't really connect or interact with 'the bump,' it all gels for him when the baby arrives. Before birth, it's really just that his wife is pregnant and whiny, haha. But from the moment of birth onward, he's wrapped around their little fingers! I'm quite the same actually. Even though I feel movements and see things on the ultrasound that are happening in my belly, it doesn't really feel real, and I don't feel myself getting bonded or attached, until I am holding my kiddos in my arms. Then it all comes like a flood!

 

[Cowgirl07]

Dh has a ton of sick time to use before May 12 so he figures this is a good reason to use it. My dr asks for the guys to come, but he probably won't come as much when they switch to bi monthly and weekly. My glucose test and such are at my monthly appts.

 

[Babylove100]

My Dh came to all the apps in the beginning but hasnt been to last few now, I think he felt a bit like a spare part, bless. He doesn't really connect with my bump either so I'm hoping he will do all his bonding when baby arrives! For now I think he's just scared sh!tless!

 

[Hollynesss]

I don't ask my husband to come to the routine ones, but I really want him there if they find something on ultrasound that is concerning. I would hate to have to deal with that alone. I was just annoyed because he has the day off and doesn't want to come because he'd rather relax. I don't have that option, why should it just be the woman who has to deal with the inconveniences that pregnancy brings?

He's definitely not disinterested, don't get me wrong. Every day he asks how she's doing and he loves feeling her kick. I'm just disappointed that he has a chance to see her and doesn't want to.

 

[RedButterfly]

My husband comes to all my appointments, except my midwife ones as they're at home as I'm having a home birth. But only cause he has no choice! He's the one that drives so has to take me! But I don't think he would miss them anyway. He loves talking to my bump and touching it.

 

[Eltjuh]

My husband only comes to scans.... If I were to have any more scans he might try and get time off, but I've never had more than 2 scans with the boys so I don't think I'll be getting any more.
He's been to the odd routine midwife appointment, but only because he happened to have the day off and I like it when he comes with me (regardless of where I go) - I just like the company. But sometimes if he asks if I want him to come I'll just say it's upto him and it's gonna be nothing interesting anyway....

We've got our 4D scan on Saturday! I'm sooo excited! I kept thinking it was Friday today aswell (and Thursday yesterday). 2 more sleeps!!

 

[Miss Bellum]

It has been very quiet in here lately! Hope you are all doing well.

Hollyness - My OH always likes to come to appointments, especially for scans and would be gutted if he missed one. I would be really upset if he decided staying at home was more important than coming with me. I don’t blame you at all for being upset.

Eltjuh - Hope you get some lovely picture from the scan.

 

[MelliPaige]

My DH is very involved, also, but he is fascinated in healthcare and likes watching all the processes..He thought watching or son be born was "awesome" and especially liked the cord and placenta.

 

[WantsALittle1]

How's everyone?

It's been a crazy few weeks for me--they've tried several meds to get my tachycardia under control, and I haven't been able to tolerate any of the meds yet due to side effects. I'm also contracting regularly now (3 mins apart during my NST last Thursday) but I can't take Procardia because it makes my pulse go really high! Luckily the contractions are not dilating me, but they are painful. I'm stuck, basically unable to treat either the tachycardia or contractions because I am not tolerating the meds for either. This means I am unable to stand up now without getting severely out of breath, and without my pulse skyrocketing. I'm also dealing with painful contractions all day long. It is making it so hard to chase around 2 toddlers all day!

I am finding it so hard to enjoy even a second of this pregnancy anymore because of how ill I am So hard to think about the fact that there are 7 more weeks of this to go...

 

[Cowgirl07]

Wants a little I'm so sorry. will they let you go to 40 weeks? Or have you deliver at 37.

 

[MelliPaige]

Hope you feel better soon

I'm doing fine over here, just regular pregnancy woes. I can't believe we are all so close to our babies arriving.

 

[WantsALittle1]

Wants a little I'm so sorry. will they let you go to 40 weeks? Or have you deliver at 37.

I'm scheduled for 39 weeks, July 1, but my OB said that if I'm having symptoms at 38, they can deliver then. So there is a little bit of hope for getting my breathing and normal heart function back a little sooner, and of saving my C-section scar the stress of constant contractions. I do still have to make it until then, just wish I could take one of these meds to fix things without the side effects interfering!

But onto happier things, what are your birth plans Melli and Cowgirl? Are your nurseries and supplies all prepped?

 

[MelliPaige]

Not completely ready yet but getting close!
I almost have my bags packed, hoping for another spontaneous labor because they like to induce around here. I'm drinking my red raspberry leaf tea and walking a little more trying to get ready for labor. I'm a little scared top because everyone I know is going into labor early, it's really weird!

 

[laughingduck]

WantsALittle1 that sounds really tough Im sorry you are going through that. And two toddlers to chase around on top of it! I hope the next few weeks speed by for you and you can get some rest.

Im drinking red raspberry leaf too Melli. I did my first and apparently did "remarkable" in the pushing stage (midwife let me read my doctors notes from back then). I think a lot of it has to do with the rrl tea! Im just doing a cup a day for now, as I am just 30 weeks, but am going to ask my midwife when I should work up to 3 cups when I see her this week.

I havent done a nursery as he will be in our bedroom the first 6 months anyway (possibly longer). Once he is ready for his own room we are going to change the guest room into a room for him, but wanted to keep it as a guest room for now as we will likely have a lot of family visiting after he is born! I was nesting though so I made a little playroom for my daughter and new baby. There's a rocking chair in there for baby and me until he is old enough to crawl around and explore

 

[WantsALittle1]

Very similar with us laughingduck regarding LO's sleeping quarters. We don't have a nursery set up, just a little corner for her in our bedroom with a bassinet and changing table. We have to convert our music room to her bedroom and I was supposed to do it during the pregnancy but haha, no way that was ever going to happen! So my plan is to tackle this monumental room conversion task when it's time for her to have her own room when she's 6 months old.

 

[Hollynesss]

I'm so sorry to hear about your struggles, WantsaLittle1! That sounds really rough to have to deal with Hoping all the best for you over the coming weeks!

Our nursery is almost done. My husband just has to put together the dresser and the glider, but he'll probably do that next weekend. I'm eager to get her clothes put away! Other than that, everything is pretty much ready to go. I haven't started on a hospital bag or anything yet.

 

[Cowgirl07]

Our nursery is getting there, our crib isn't up yet but the pack and play is. The dresser and changing table are coming in today.
No bags are packed. Dh I guess has started his. He had two pillows and a blanket we took the birthing class in a bag. I did order a robe and have to wash my comfy socks. So when that's done I think I will start my bag. Baby won't need much as the hospital supplies nearly everything. I will pack a few diapers and wipes, a take home outfit or two and some blankets. So our bags will probably be combined.

 

[WantsALittle1]

Hollynesss & Cowgirl, I haven't started my hospital bag either. For some reason I feel like I won't be able to do that until I hit the 37-week mark. I feel like if I do it now, my brain will think I'm delivering soon, and then the time until delivery will drag even more haha. Great that you all are making progress on your nurseries!

As far as supplies go, we're ready because we have lots of leftovers from the two older kiddos. But one thing I'm stuck on is whether to get a Miracle Blanket this time around. I'm very nervous about swaddling after this new research has come out saying that swaddling is linked to increased SIDS risk. We relied heavily on swaddling to calm both of our other babies--in fact they became totally swaddle addicted and had to be weaned off with a Zipadee-Zip. We used an Angelcare movement monitor for both, and were planning on doing it with new baby girl as well, but I think even with the Angelcare I will be afraid to swaddle now. I am thinking of getting one of the new monitors like the Owlet or the Sproutling. I'm just not sure how I feel about wireless waves around my newborn, which is why I still really like the Angelcare mattress pad model. Not sure what to do!!!