Just a hormonal mess of a rant

[mommy2lexi]

Ok, so hubby and I have a 19 mo. old daughter whom is our world, decided in February we wanted one more and began trying. Got pg pretty quickly, ended in m/c Tried again and got pg the second month after m/c. So, now here I am thrilled to be prego and 8 weeks along. BUT---all the sudden I am ridden with guilt and worry. I'm thinking these thoughts are normal...wondering if our daughter will feel replaced or think we no longer love her, do we have enough love (space, money, etc.) for another, why am I doing this when we already have one healthy child, the list goes on and on and on. Starting to bum me out and I really hope all this is normal for a second timer. In no way am I regretting this baby...I pray everyday he/she continues to grow and make it....I think I am just freaking out!

Ok...thanks for letting me rant

 

[Widget]

I think it is pretty natural to have these feelings. I remember when my SIL got pregnant with her second she would often feel guilt about whether or not her son will feel replaced. But when that baby daughter arrived in the world my nephew naturally shifted into big brotherhood. The fact is, your children will be very close in age so that often helps. Besides, every only child I have ever spoken to about being the sole child express discontent about not having siblings. My husband vows he is anti-social because he was an only child! LOL

As for the money and health worries... we are all going through that no matter how many pregnancies we have had! I had a little freak out again this morning over how much less money we will be bringing in when I'm on maternity leave!

 

[lynzlogan]

Oh huni, i've been feeling like this too!
My son Leo is 3yrs old but is still very much a cuddly mummies boy!
We do everything together.
He's kinda grasping that theres a baby in my belly but forgets sometimes lol!!
I think i'm feeling like this more than normal because i'm now off my antidepressants and weird feelings thoughts seem larger than normal.

Leo knows his loved to bits...and i'm sure your Lo does too!! xx

 

[mommy2lexi]

I think it is pretty natural to have these feelings. I remember when my SIL got pregnant with her second she would often feel guilt about whether or not her son will feel replaced. But when that baby daughter arrived in the world my nephew naturally shifted into big brotherhood. The fact is, your children will be very close in age so that often helps. Besides, every only child I have ever spoken to about being the sole child express discontent about not having siblings. My husband vows he is anti-social because he was an only child! LOL

As for the money and health worries... we are all going through that no matter how many pregnancies we have had! I had a little freak out again this morning over how much less money we will be bringing in when I'm on maternity leave!

Thanks Widget for the positive words I know it's normal but these thoughts are just overwhelming my already screwy emotions!!! hehe!

 

[mommy2lexi]

Oh huni, i've been feeling like this too!
My son Leo is 3yrs old but is still very much a cuddly mummies boy!
We do everything together.
He's kinda grasping that theres a baby in my belly but forgets sometimes lol!!
I think i'm feeling like this more than normal because i'm now off my antidepressants and weird feelings thoughts seem larger than normal.

Leo knows his loved to bits...and i'm sure your Lo does too!! xx

Thanks so much hun!!! It's nice to know other moms are having these thoughts. And now that you mention it....I am off my antidepressants as well and it does seem like I am analyzing things A LOT! My daughter is like your son, very much mommies girl...it's just hard to imagine what her emotions will be like. She's too young to understand I am pg....only 1.5, hopefully both our little ones love having a sibling

 

[ayako]

Don't worry, your two lo's will become best of friends