Just cannot enjoy this pregnancy even though everyone says I should be

[MrsBoudica]

I'm 24 weeks pregnant after having a miscarriage at 12 weeks in Feb and have not been able to enjoy this pregnancy once, it's driving my husband insane. I worry about everything, even now the baby is kicking I still worry, 'is it kicking enough?' 'why isn't it as hard as yesterday?' 'why haven't I felt anything today', I just want to enjoy this but it seems beyond me, even today I'm wondering if the baby is still alive or not as haven't felt it move since yesterday morning. I just need some reassurance and guidance.

 

[Pippasdvision]

Its totally natural to worry about your pregnancy, it is something oyu can not control . Do you have a doppler? At least then you can listen in a couple of times a day when you are worried. And speak to your midwife she might have some suggestions remember that she will deal with others with the same worries on a daily basis.

 

[Mizze]

Hon its going to be hard for us - and it wont stop not until we get that baby out, in our arms and healthy - and then we are likely to replace it with a new set of worries.

I do understand, I try my hardest to be positive and work in little milestones - I thought the 20 week scan would ease my worries but no - after I day I started to be worried more because I then knew I would have a girl and she was more real to me after seeing and feeling her. So I got the doppler out on the weekend after she'd been quiet - it does help - her HB really did sound like galloping horses (for the first time) and it calmed me right down. Now im aiming for 24 weeks and viability, then for 3rd tri etc etc. Its hard though not to go into meltdown about every tiny thing. But frankly its entirely normal for us PAL Mummies to be like this.

Mizze xx

 

[Jox]

Dito

xxx